- Feb 22, 2000
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Dating back for at least 2 years, my nephew had been doing about everything he could to get kicked out of school. Such as:
Missing / Skipping School
Tobacco Use
Drug Use
Bad Grades
You name it...
Back in December of 2011, we talked with him and the problems he was creating for himself and told him that if things didn't change, he was going to come and live with my wife and I.
Well, long story, things didn't change and in January of 2012, he was removed from his old house and came to live with us. His mother (there is no dad) was in agreement with the decision.
Fast forward to now. He is getting decent grades (about a 3.0, with both A's and a few C's). Is actually eligible to play High School Athletics and has actually thrown a no-hitter in baseball this year. His attitude is nothing short of wonderful. You can ask him to do something and he does it. He is even starting to "do" things (the right things) on his own. He is currently a Junior in High School and will be with us until he graduates.
However, (there is always one of those...) now the question. I recently caught him chewing. It is against the rules, etc.. blah blah..
What do I do now? Do I dare "drop the bomb" and risk him rebelling in some other way (again, we have had not one single issue as of yet) other than the chewing tobacco. Or do I talk with him (we had a long discussion) and see if he quits on his own. I think he is probably still chewing, but you get the idea..
Basically, its "Good Grades and Good Attitude" vs. "Chewing".....
Help!
Missing / Skipping School
Tobacco Use
Drug Use
Bad Grades
You name it...
Back in December of 2011, we talked with him and the problems he was creating for himself and told him that if things didn't change, he was going to come and live with my wife and I.
Well, long story, things didn't change and in January of 2012, he was removed from his old house and came to live with us. His mother (there is no dad) was in agreement with the decision.
Fast forward to now. He is getting decent grades (about a 3.0, with both A's and a few C's). Is actually eligible to play High School Athletics and has actually thrown a no-hitter in baseball this year. His attitude is nothing short of wonderful. You can ask him to do something and he does it. He is even starting to "do" things (the right things) on his own. He is currently a Junior in High School and will be with us until he graduates.
However, (there is always one of those...) now the question. I recently caught him chewing. It is against the rules, etc.. blah blah..
What do I do now? Do I dare "drop the bomb" and risk him rebelling in some other way (again, we have had not one single issue as of yet) other than the chewing tobacco. Or do I talk with him (we had a long discussion) and see if he quits on his own. I think he is probably still chewing, but you get the idea..
Basically, its "Good Grades and Good Attitude" vs. "Chewing".....
Help!