- Feb 16, 2003
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First, if you plan on posting some worthless comment, please leave it out of this thread. There are threads that don't really matter and ones that do, this is one that does matter.
My brother who is 10 years old is having trouble at school with other kids. He's in 4th grade right now by the way. Anyway, being at that age, lots of small things can add up and make it tough on the person because he's not mature enough to be able to ignore bad comments, so they get to him.
Let me tell you a few incidents, keep in mind, this is a 10 year old, not something you'd handle as an adult. Today on the bus some kids brought in a picture and started showing it, they showed it to everyone but him and when he asked they all passed it around so he couldn't see it. Then they called him a "nerd." My dad says that he won't have the courage to ignore them until he can fight back, he said that when they call him a nerd he should go up to their face and say nerd five times.
Also, we live in a fairly well off county, in the top 10 richest. (I'm not bragging, keep on reading). The way we spend our money is a bit different, as in, we don't spend as much as some of the kids he's around on clothes. Let me give you an example, he'll have 4th graders come in wearing all Abercrombie stuff and nike or reebok shoes or some expensive jersey. It's almost always like this and you can tell they aren't wearing the same clothes often, so not like they have 3 really nice clothes they always wear. My brother on the other hand, has been brought up with not as expensive items, I mean, does a kid really need to wear a tshirt and pant that costed his parents more than $100 EVERY day along with an expensive pair of shoes?
Obviously, it's becoming more and more like a middle school where clothing is a big factor. Once he gets to high school I hope his problems are solved because he'll be with lots of people, and not all of them will be like him. Many days he'll cry at night that whatever he does he gets made fun of and that they all gang up on him.
What should we do exactly? Times like this can be really confusing and that's why I'm asking here. Also, we understand he needs to toughen up, but what should he do? I don't think we want to go out and spend lots of money to make him accepted by his peers because his true friends shouldn't care. Oh, his good friends are perfectly fine with him, but even though they're good friend, all the other bad ones make you feel bad.
He does not wear torn up cheap shirts, he wears decent clothing, but that does not mean $100 an outfit for each day. Any reccomendations?
Sorry, no cliff notes and those who want to make worthless replies in this thread, go somewhere else. If this thread gets out of hand I'll ask the mods to lock it because this is a serious thread. Thanks guys!
My brother who is 10 years old is having trouble at school with other kids. He's in 4th grade right now by the way. Anyway, being at that age, lots of small things can add up and make it tough on the person because he's not mature enough to be able to ignore bad comments, so they get to him.
Let me tell you a few incidents, keep in mind, this is a 10 year old, not something you'd handle as an adult. Today on the bus some kids brought in a picture and started showing it, they showed it to everyone but him and when he asked they all passed it around so he couldn't see it. Then they called him a "nerd." My dad says that he won't have the courage to ignore them until he can fight back, he said that when they call him a nerd he should go up to their face and say nerd five times.
Also, we live in a fairly well off county, in the top 10 richest. (I'm not bragging, keep on reading). The way we spend our money is a bit different, as in, we don't spend as much as some of the kids he's around on clothes. Let me give you an example, he'll have 4th graders come in wearing all Abercrombie stuff and nike or reebok shoes or some expensive jersey. It's almost always like this and you can tell they aren't wearing the same clothes often, so not like they have 3 really nice clothes they always wear. My brother on the other hand, has been brought up with not as expensive items, I mean, does a kid really need to wear a tshirt and pant that costed his parents more than $100 EVERY day along with an expensive pair of shoes?
Obviously, it's becoming more and more like a middle school where clothing is a big factor. Once he gets to high school I hope his problems are solved because he'll be with lots of people, and not all of them will be like him. Many days he'll cry at night that whatever he does he gets made fun of and that they all gang up on him.
What should we do exactly? Times like this can be really confusing and that's why I'm asking here. Also, we understand he needs to toughen up, but what should he do? I don't think we want to go out and spend lots of money to make him accepted by his peers because his true friends shouldn't care. Oh, his good friends are perfectly fine with him, but even though they're good friend, all the other bad ones make you feel bad.
He does not wear torn up cheap shirts, he wears decent clothing, but that does not mean $100 an outfit for each day. Any reccomendations?
Sorry, no cliff notes and those who want to make worthless replies in this thread, go somewhere else. If this thread gets out of hand I'll ask the mods to lock it because this is a serious thread. Thanks guys!