- Nov 9, 2000
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Hi guys, I know this isn't really H&F material, but I don't post in most of the other subforums here at AnandTech so you all must suffer.
Here is my problem: I feel like I am losing everyone. My father died on Feb. 12 and that was a tragedy for my entire family. Today my eldest child, Adam, who happened to be my training partner and ultrarunning companion, left home to go into the US Navy. I am very excited for him, he's stepping out into the world and becoming a man. But this is difficult also, mostly for me but also for my wife. And next week my wife and I are moving to Florida and our two younger children (a junior and a senior in high school) are staying here in NY to finish out the school year. My baby (our daughter) is going to join us in Orlando in June, and this makes me very happy. My younger son wants to stay in NY until he goes off to the Navy in August. He thinks he's in love and doesn't want to leave his girlfriend until he absolutely has to, this makes me a little angry at him but it is making his mother miserable.
Emotionally I'm a wreck. I'm keeping a smile on my face for the benefit of others. It's sapping my energy. My running and strength workouts are suffering. I feel like crap. And worst of all, I have no confidantes to share all this with IRL. My wife NEEDS me to be her John Wayne right now so I can't dump on her. And I am a social misfit here in rural NY as I don't hunt, drink, chew, smoke or watch NASCAR so I have no buddies.
I know life is going to be amazing once things stabilize in a few months. Adam and Ryan (my younger son) were going to be leaving home anyways, this was a known hurt I tried to prepare for - and failed. Having my father pass away (at just 59 y/o) and having to say good bye to my daughter for 3 months was an unknown I had no way of preparing for. And the stress of the move. And trying to help my wife cope with an empty nest all the sudden.
And the irony in this is that if my son didn't leave I'd be able to cope with the other issues better as we'd just go out and run for hours. You know, we'd leave the pain and misery behind long enough to get our thoughts in order. I've exorcised a lot of demons out on the trails...
Thanks for reading this, I actually feel a bit better having communicated this crap to someone.
Here is my problem: I feel like I am losing everyone. My father died on Feb. 12 and that was a tragedy for my entire family. Today my eldest child, Adam, who happened to be my training partner and ultrarunning companion, left home to go into the US Navy. I am very excited for him, he's stepping out into the world and becoming a man. But this is difficult also, mostly for me but also for my wife. And next week my wife and I are moving to Florida and our two younger children (a junior and a senior in high school) are staying here in NY to finish out the school year. My baby (our daughter) is going to join us in Orlando in June, and this makes me very happy. My younger son wants to stay in NY until he goes off to the Navy in August. He thinks he's in love and doesn't want to leave his girlfriend until he absolutely has to, this makes me a little angry at him but it is making his mother miserable.
Emotionally I'm a wreck. I'm keeping a smile on my face for the benefit of others. It's sapping my energy. My running and strength workouts are suffering. I feel like crap. And worst of all, I have no confidantes to share all this with IRL. My wife NEEDS me to be her John Wayne right now so I can't dump on her. And I am a social misfit here in rural NY as I don't hunt, drink, chew, smoke or watch NASCAR so I have no buddies.
I know life is going to be amazing once things stabilize in a few months. Adam and Ryan (my younger son) were going to be leaving home anyways, this was a known hurt I tried to prepare for - and failed. Having my father pass away (at just 59 y/o) and having to say good bye to my daughter for 3 months was an unknown I had no way of preparing for. And the stress of the move. And trying to help my wife cope with an empty nest all the sudden.
And the irony in this is that if my son didn't leave I'd be able to cope with the other issues better as we'd just go out and run for hours. You know, we'd leave the pain and misery behind long enough to get our thoughts in order. I've exorcised a lot of demons out on the trails...
Thanks for reading this, I actually feel a bit better having communicated this crap to someone.