- Mar 15, 2003
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I'll cut to the chase - the wife and I realized that we've both hit plateaus in our respective careers. She's a better example because, with her double masters she's getting 5+ interviews a week while noticing pretty little things with far less qualifications getting these jobs at the end of the day. We've both put on weight post 2 kids and stress and love of shitty food (our fault, our faults for dealing with the stress poorly) and the search is just harder than ever, and looking at the average BMI of Manhattan is pretty striking (now I'm often literally the only fatty on a subway car, where have all the chubby italian guys gone??).
I personally am looking at a holistic, don't blame anyone but myself approach to life. is it wrong for me to think losing weight should be my #1 priority right now if I expect to advance in my career? We're both getting interviews, we're both not all that awkward at interviews (my wife's a pro), we both have credentials - can our solution be as simple as getting on the treadmill?
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Thanks guys, I kept quiet because the post was a bit of a pathetic pity party. I also got a job, my boss is a chunky fellow too so my point remains I suppose I'm most upset about my wife - I'm a slacker but she's the opposite - 2 masters in her field , years of acclaimed and hard work (award winning teacher), and she had consistently aced phone interviews getting to the 2nd or 3rd interview, then nada. She hits a wall whenever she hits a certain type (men and minority women love her, skinny white women have all rejected her - and she's a white lady). I don't think it's race, just from personal experience white women seem much more into body image issues than sisters. We've both upped the fitness because whining solves nothing, still - it's frustrating to watch.
I personally am looking at a holistic, don't blame anyone but myself approach to life. is it wrong for me to think losing weight should be my #1 priority right now if I expect to advance in my career? We're both getting interviews, we're both not all that awkward at interviews (my wife's a pro), we both have credentials - can our solution be as simple as getting on the treadmill?
edit/update
Thanks guys, I kept quiet because the post was a bit of a pathetic pity party. I also got a job, my boss is a chunky fellow too so my point remains I suppose I'm most upset about my wife - I'm a slacker but she's the opposite - 2 masters in her field , years of acclaimed and hard work (award winning teacher), and she had consistently aced phone interviews getting to the 2nd or 3rd interview, then nada. She hits a wall whenever she hits a certain type (men and minority women love her, skinny white women have all rejected her - and she's a white lady). I don't think it's race, just from personal experience white women seem much more into body image issues than sisters. We've both upped the fitness because whining solves nothing, still - it's frustrating to watch.
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