I have more crit dmg than my monk buddy, he has 532% and I have like 583% or something, but he has a better offhand. Overall he's just a better monk but I got confused when I saw a 110k DPS difference, but those numbers were cooked so i feel better - Anyhow, best to use diabloprogress instead of the blizz's online profile dealie. Diablo progress is much more detailed. Although it's hard to really measure the DPS a monk puts out, don't know if any system could accurately measure it. I spam overawe when playing my monk but that doesn't show up in the DPS (extra 48% dmg to enemies around me, for me and the party), and it doesn't count all the dmg my crit tornadoes do. Just gotta give em the eye test and see how much damage they are contributing.
That said, I've been thinking about changing to a Barb for my main. Never been super satisfied with my monk and have spent a bajillion gold on him. And most importantly playing the same class endlessly can get dull. I guess the first step is to get a barb to 60 and see how i like it, which shouldn't take too long these days. Will equip a str hellfire on him, give him exp bonus stuff, MP10 and away I go
The damage on the paperdoll is highly superficial and doesn't reflect much, really. As you said, Overawe isn't calculated in that (I also use it primarily), as well as SW: Cyclone tornados' damage. Same with any reactive skills (e.g. MoE: Backlash). When I'm running my dodge skillset for Backlash I'm betting it does an extra 20k at least when I'm surrounded by enemies (I typically run into the center of everything and spam vortex with Wall of Wind when specced for it).
One important thing to remember is that damage is cumulative. I'd start comparing individual gear stats between yours and his and see where major disadvantages/advantages are. I found your diabloprogress profile, and your unbuffed DPS was 51k? Maybe that isn't with your ideal stuff on or you haven't had it updated in a while. (B.net's breakdown is garbage in comparison.)
I saw his APS was 2.27, and since both of his weapons are 1.5 SPD his damage and speed (and survivability) aren't rollercoasting. I see your APS is only 1.65 (and that may have been recorded with your last swing being your offhand...your main is even slower), which is really, really slow for a DW monk. Not sure if that's really what you're running with or you were theorycrafting, or whatever, but that's one major spot I'd look into changing. Actually, your LoH is pretty low with that slow of APS. How do you survive? Even with you having 5.5% LS, I still can't see how that's possibly enough to compensate for damage taken in anything over MP2. You also have zero LPSS, which is a great supplement for any lacking health recovery from LS/LoH. And your LPS is only 511, which isn't exactly noteworthy to compensate for other areas of lacking health recovery. Your build is pretty uncanny to me - if it works - honestly.
Overall, I see his Dex is about 400 more, he has
much faster APS, and his CD is nearly 300% more. I think it's pretty obvious where his DPS is stronger...unless, like I was saying before, you were theorycrafting or not using your best gear and this is what is recorded last on diabloprogress.
And ya, I'm jealous of my brother and his Barb. He started it a week ago, spent maybe 30m on gearing him (in comparison I probably have about 120m invested in my monk?) and survives better than I do and does more damage. Kinda, really, mostly, utterly...makes me sick.