Okay, need your opinions AT'ers....

[myusername]

two options:

1.)sue mom

2.)collect mom's life insurance

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: rbloedow
Lifes hard - tell her to get a job. 500 a month can be done on a part time job.

she already works FT and goes to school FT.

ty

 

[brigden]

Bottom line: Your parents are very childish.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I know alot of people have been through crap in their life and show no sympathy but cmon. She needs the $500 because she recently bought a new car and must pay for that, insurance, utility bills, eating/entertainment, etc etc. The $500 basically pays her rent but she pays all other bills .

ah, that makes it easy then. Have her sell the new car, which no one ever needs, and get a used car for $2000 or less. Now she has a good $15,000, which is plenty to get through college. Also, that will drop her insurance rates a bunch, since she no longer needs Collision.

 

[SynthDude2001]

Originally posted by: brigden
Bottom line: Your parents are very childish.

This man has the right idea. :thumbsup:

They certainly don't have to keep giving her money (and why would your sister not have ever applied for financial aid anyway?), but it's petty of them to cut her off because of who she's in a relationship with.

 

[SynthDude2001]

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I know alot of people have been through crap in their life and show no sympathy but cmon. She needs the $500 because she recently bought a new car and must pay for that, insurance, utility bills, eating/entertainment, etc etc. The $500 basically pays her rent but she pays all other bills .

ah, that makes it easy then. Have her sell the new car, which no one ever needs, and get a used car for $2000 or less. Now she has a good $15,000, which is plenty to get through college. Also, that will drop her insurance rates a bunch, since she no longer needs Collision.

That's a good point too....if she's not financially stable (i.e. on her own), why in the hell is she buying a new car??

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I know alot of people have been through crap in their life and show no sympathy but cmon. She needs the $500 because she recently bought a new car and must pay for that, insurance, utility bills, eating/entertainment, etc etc. The $500 basically pays her rent but she pays all other bills .

ah, that makes it easy then. Have her sell the new car, which no one ever needs, and get a used car for $2000 or less. Now she has a good $15,000, which is plenty to get through college. Also, that will drop her insurance rates a bunch, since she no longer needs Collision.

no she is making payments on the car. she doesn't own it. she just got it not very long ago because her 92 accord fell apart.

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: SynthDude2001

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I know alot of people have been through crap in their life and show no sympathy but cmon. She needs the $500 because she recently bought a new car and must pay for that, insurance, utility bills, eating/entertainment, etc etc. The $500 basically pays her rent but she pays all other bills .

ah, that makes it easy then. Have her sell the new car, which no one ever needs, and get a used car for $2000 or less. Now she has a good $15,000, which is plenty to get through college. Also, that will drop her insurance rates a bunch, since she no longer needs Collision.

That's a good point too....if she's not financially stable (i.e. on her own), why in the hell is she buying a new car??

she bought the car this past summer on the idea this was her last year of school and she could afford the care since mom/dad would be helping her out with rent $$. my parents knew this and they were okay with her buying the car.

 

[SynthDude2001]

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: SynthDude2001

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I know alot of people have been through crap in their life and show no sympathy but cmon. She needs the $500 because she recently bought a new car and must pay for that, insurance, utility bills, eating/entertainment, etc etc. The $500 basically pays her rent but she pays all other bills .

ah, that makes it easy then. Have her sell the new car, which no one ever needs, and get a used car for $2000 or less. Now she has a good $15,000, which is plenty to get through college. Also, that will drop her insurance rates a bunch, since she no longer needs Collision.

That's a good point too....if she's not financially stable (i.e. on her own), why in the hell is she buying a new car??

she bought the car this past summer on the idea this was her last year of school and she could afford the care since mom/dad would be helping her out with rent $$. my parents knew this and they were okay with her buying the car.

I understand, but I personally think it's not a good idea to be throwing money away on something as expensive as a new car, when you have to rely on others to pay for other things (especially basic things like rent).

 

[nageov3t]

what about breaking up with the bf?

that could solve the problem pretty nicely.

 

[randomlinh]

wow, your parents are childish. Granted, I also think your sis should have nabed a decent used car (or by "new" do you mean new to her) and save some dough for the time being.

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: lnguyen
wow, your parents are childish. Granted, I also think your sis should have nabed a decent used car (or by "new" do you mean new to her) and save some dough for the time being.

well its not a brand new car. its 2 yrs old. so pretty new but not brand new. she never would've bought it if she knew our parents would do this though.

 

[mwtgg]

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.

You're kidding me right? Oh Jesus.

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.

You're kidding me right? Oh Jesus.

No I'm not kidding. Its ridiculous that my parents want to complicate things and make her life hard. They should just simply honor their word and help her till May. I'm stuck in the middle and I feel obligated to help her in some way.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.

You're kidding me right? Oh Jesus.

No I'm not kidding. Its ridiculous that my parents want to complicate things and make her life hard. They should just simply honor their word and help her till May. I'm stuck in the middle and I feel obligated to help her in some way.

IF they made a verbal agreement is the key. even then it is not likely to go your sisters way. She is an adult. I really do not see a court saying that your parents have to continue to pay for her college.

oh tell your sister welcome to the real world. IF you want things to go your way you need to kiss the ass of the person who pays.

 

[shimsham]

whats the deal with the bf? does she give him the money and he blows it on crack? if so, id stop giving the money also.

we dont know the whole story, so everyone is basically talking out their butts.

 

[arcenite]

tell them she broke up with him duh

 

[mwtgg]

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.

You're kidding me right? Oh Jesus.

No I'm not kidding. Its ridiculous that my parents want to complicate things and make her life hard. They should just simply honor their word and help her till May. I'm stuck in the middle and I feel obligated to help her in some way.

She has about as much of a right to your parent's money as I do. It's their money, they can do whatever they want with it.

Edit -- Kinda like a boycott.. What's the point of a consumer boycott? To make a company change their ways or they lose money. Same with this. Your parents don't like her boyfriend, so they're hitting her where it hurts -- her pocketbook.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

You said your sister is working full time, she should learn to survive off that money. If she can't, get a STUDENT LOAN

Now, I can't disagree with her parents. Remember, parents have seen a lot more in life so when they do something like this, it's because they couldn't think of anything else to do. At this point in life, they're probably expecting a little more out of her than whoever is her current b/f. There's gotta be a reason your parents did this though. They're trying to tell her something but she isn't getting the point.

If she wants to keep the guy, tell her to live off of less money

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.

You're kidding me right? Oh Jesus.

No I'm not kidding. Its ridiculous that my parents want to complicate things and make her life hard. They should just simply honor their word and help her till May. I'm stuck in the middle and I feel obligated to help her in some way.

IF they made a verbal agreement is the key. even then it is not likely to go your sisters way. She is an adult. I really do not see a court saying that your parents have to continue to pay for her college.

oh tell your sister welcome to the real world. IF you want things to go your way you need to kiss the ass of the person who pays.

True. They did make a verbal agreement. They agreed to help her until she was done.

They are still claiming her on their taxes as far as I know and she is also on mom's health insurance still. So even though she is of age now they still have been claiming her and helping her through school.

They don't like her bf because he isn't successful enough for her. He doesn't do drugs that I know of. I seriously doubt my sister would date someone that did drugs and I know she wouldn't give her money away for him to blow on drugs.

 

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.

You're kidding me right? Oh Jesus.

No I'm not kidding. Its ridiculous that my parents want to complicate things and make her life hard. They should just simply honor their word and help her till May. I'm stuck in the middle and I feel obligated to help her in some way.

She has about as much of a right to your parent's money as I do. It's their money, they can do whatever they want with it.

I agree. It may have been a little mean of the parents to cut her funding after the financial aid deadline, but they can do waht they want with the money. Verbal contracts are nonbinding i believe and the child is an adult so the parents do no legally have to support her. I dont see the parents doing anything illegal

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.

You're kidding me right? Oh Jesus.

No I'm not kidding. Its ridiculous that my parents want to complicate things and make her life hard. They should just simply honor their word and help her till May. I'm stuck in the middle and I feel obligated to help her in some way.

She has about as much of a right to your parent's money as I do. It's their money, they can do whatever they want with it.

I agree. It may have been a little mean of the parents to cut her funding after the financial aid deadline, but they can do waht they want with the money. Verbal contracts are nonbinding i believe and the child is an adult so the parents do no legally have to support her. I dont see the parents doing anything illegal

actually verbal contracts do hold up. its the discretion of the judge. i really really don't want it to go that route but if they want to be childish then why not teach'em a lesson. i doubt my sis would take it to that extreme because she isn't mean like that.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Oh, just read about the car, SELL IT

Just sell the darn thing and get something that'll run, early 90's accord, mid 90's civic, or their toyota equivalents

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: waggy

IF they made a verbal agreement is the key. even then it is not likely to go your sisters way. She is an adult. I really do not see a court saying that your parents have to continue to pay for her college.

oh tell your sister welcome to the real world. IF you want things to go your way you need to kiss the ass of the person who pays.

True. They did make a verbal agreement. They agreed to help her until she was done.

They are still claiming her on their taxes as far as I know and she is also on mom's health insurance still. So even though she is of age now they still have been claiming her and helping her through school.

They don't like her bf because he isn't successful enough for her. He doesn't do drugs that I know of. I seriously doubt my sister would date someone that did drugs and I know she wouldn't give her money away for him to blow on drugs.


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so what does it matter that they claim her on their taxes? also the health isurance don't mean crap.
again tell your sister to suck it up. Life sucks. she has NO RIGHT to the money or school.


edit: all this really comes down to is your sister has to miss one fricken semester of school. she can file for financial aid and get it next year. Boo fvcking hoo!

 

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft

Originally posted by: mwtgg

Originally posted by: ctcsoft
I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.

You're kidding me right? Oh Jesus.

No I'm not kidding. Its ridiculous that my parents want to complicate things and make her life hard. They should just simply honor their word and help her till May. I'm stuck in the middle and I feel obligated to help her in some way.

She has about as much of a right to your parent's money as I do. It's their money, they can do whatever they want with it.

I agree. It may have been a little mean of the parents to cut her funding after the financial aid deadline, but they can do waht they want with the money. Verbal contracts are nonbinding i believe and the child is an adult so the parents do no legally have to support her. I dont see the parents doing anything illegal

actually verbal contracts do hold up. its the discretion of the judge. i really really don't want it to go that route but if they want to be childish then why not teach'em a lesson. i doubt my sis would take it to that extreme because she isn't mean like that.

Then by all means go ahead and sue them. Although i think it's just a lot of anger for a relationship that will probably end sooner or later anyways.