Okay, need your opinions AT'ers....

[ctcsoft]

Okay so basically my parents have yanked my sisters funds from her. I'd say they were giving her around $500/mo to help her through school. She cannot apply for financial aid since the deadline is passed. She works full time but wanted to scale back her hours next semester.

Now they have quit giving her money because they don't like her boyfriend. I don't care for him too much either but its her choice for all I care. So what should I do or what can I do? She is calling me and complaing how they never did this to me etc. etc.

 

[Manzelle]

It's great that they got along with all your boyfriends...kudos.

 

[NTB]

IMO, there isn't much you can do. That was a pretty ignorant thing for your parents to do, trying to manipulate your sister like that. My old girlfriend's parents used to pull stunts like that once in a while. Like you said, it's (the boyfriend) is her choice, not theirs.

Nate

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: Manzelle
It's great that they got along with all your boyfriends...kudos.

HAHA NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

bummer, but it's their choice

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: Manzelle
It's great that they got along with all your boyfriends...kudos.

:laugh:

Anyway, not much you can do. My family was like that, I just keep my distance, never calling or anything. Some (most, really) people just aren't worth the oxygen they breathe.

 

[FoBoT]

so what?

she can see whoever she wants, your parents can give money (on not) to anybody they want


tell her to go cry a river , she wants to be an adult, she can pay her own way through life

 

Loans.

 

[ohtwell]

Sorry to say it, but there isn't really anything you can do. This is your parents' decision, not yours. You can try to talk to them, but I'm not sure how much good it would do.


: ) Amanda

 

[Anubis]

why does she need 500$ month

 

[Wallydraigle]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
so what?

she can see whoever she wants, your parents can give money (on not) to anybody they want


tell her to go cry a river , she wants to be an adult, she can pay her own way through life

That's pretty much what I was thinking.

 

[mwtgg]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
so what?

she can see whoever she wants, your parents can give money (on not) to anybody they want


tell her to go cry a river , she wants to be an adult, she can pay her own way through life

AHhhhhhhh yup, that pretty much sums it up.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Well I guess if you or boyfriend can't replace the subsidy, then she won't be cutting back on hours?

 

[Darilus]

If you feel that strongly about it, help her yourself. I certainly didn't give my little brother $500 a month, but I did help when his financial aid came up short.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Why should your parents give your sister $500/mo when she is doing something they disapprove of? She has no right to their money and they have no obligation to give it to her.

Tell her to suck it up and start working harder is she wants to keep the boyfriend that you and your parents don't think much of.

It's her choice, nobody is twisting her arm.

 

[Venix]

Why should your parents give your sister $500/mo when she is doing something they disapprove of? She has no right to their money and they have no obligation to give it to her.

Yes, but if she didn't apply for financial aid because her parents told her they'd support her, they're in the wrong for screwing her like this. They should at least continue to give her money on the contingency that she pay it back.

My mother-in-law tried pulling similar crap before my wedding. She absolutely insisted on paying for it, so I used the majority of my savings to buy a house. Then she decided at the last minute that she didn't want to pay for it because she didn't like my family and would rather use the money to buy a boat. This is after tripling its costs because she wanted to invite more people, have more expensive things, etc., and at this point if we cancelled we'd have to pay 50% of the costs as a penalty.

I wound up paying for the entire thing with my savings and some credit cards, and then I sued her for the 2/3's I hadn't planned on paying for and won. I certainly wouldn't have had a problem paying for the entire thing myself, but when someone says, "I'll give you money to do this," I expect them to follow through.

 

[Mucho]

She made her choice and they made theirs. Tell her to write a letter to Dear Abby.

 

[SilentRavens]

Originally posted by: Venix

Why should your parents give your sister $500/mo when she is doing something they disapprove of? She has no right to their money and they have no obligation to give it to her.

Yes, but if she didn't apply for financial aid because her parents told her they'd support her, they're in the wrong for screwing her like this. They should at least continue to give her money on the contingency that she pay it back.

My mother-in-law tried pulling similar crap before my wedding. She absolutely insisted on paying for it, so I used the majority of my savings to buy a house. Then she decided at the last minute that she didn't want to pay for it because she didn't like my family and would rather use the money to buy a boat. This is after tripling its costs because she wanted to invite more people, have more expensive things, etc., and at this point if we cancelled we'd have to pay 50% of the costs as a penalty.

I wound up paying for the entire thing with my savings and some credit cards, and then I sued her for the 2/3's I hadn't planned on paying for and won. I certainly wouldn't have had a problem paying for the entire thing myself, but when someone says, "I'll give you money to do this," I expect them to follow through.

Ahhhhh you gotta love the promissory (sp.?) estoppel (nevermind sp.? on the whole thing) clause.

 

[mwtgg]

Originally posted by: Venix

Why should your parents give your sister $500/mo when she is doing something they disapprove of? She has no right to their money and they have no obligation to give it to her.

Yes, but if she didn't apply for financial aid because her parents told her they'd support her, they're in the wrong for screwing her like this. They should at least continue to give her money on the contingency that she pay it back.

Errm, why? They don't have to give her money, at all. She's older than 18, they don't have to support her education.

Tough shit, life isn't fair.

 

[tfinch2]

Originally posted by: Anubis
why does she need 500$ month

that's what i want to know...i survive off of like 100-150

 

[ctcsoft]

Originally posted by: Venix

Why should your parents give your sister $500/mo when she is doing something they disapprove of? She has no right to their money and they have no obligation to give it to her.

Yes, but if she didn't apply for financial aid because her parents told her they'd support her, they're in the wrong for screwing her like this. They should at least continue to give her money on the contingency that she pay it back.

My mother-in-law tried pulling similar crap before my wedding. She absolutely insisted on paying for it, so I used the majority of my savings to buy a house. Then she decided at the last minute that she didn't want to pay for it because she didn't like my family and would rather use the money to buy a boat. This is after tripling its costs because she wanted to invite more people, have more expensive things, etc., and at this point if we cancelled we'd have to pay 50% of the costs as a penalty.

I wound up paying for the entire thing with my savings and some credit cards, and then I sued her for the 2/3's I hadn't planned on paying for and won. I certainly wouldn't have had a problem paying for the entire thing myself, but when someone says, "I'll give you money to do this," I expect them to follow through.

This is what I'm saying. They told her that would help her through school just like they did me. Now just because of this boyfriend they won't help her and its now too late for her to apply for Fin. Aid. So they are screwing her over pretty good. In her last year of college to boot. I've called my parents and they told me its non of my business blah blah. So I guess there isn't much I can do but help her when I can.

I know alot of people have been through crap in their life and show no sympathy but cmon. She needs the $500 because she recently bought a new car and must pay for that, insurance, utility bills, eating/entertainment, etc etc. The $500 basically pays her rent but she pays all other bills .

My parents aren't perfect and it disgusts me that their doing this. They are divorced and have made plenty of mistakes in life. So to tell my sister she cannot have the money when they have plenty is BS.

Is there any kind of loans she can apply for? I never had to apply for any since my parents were nice enough to help me.

 

[Ryan]

Lifes hard - tell her to get a job. 500 a month can be done on a part time job.

 

[nageov3t]

as a sibling, you're first required to rub it in her face about how your parents like you better

then, either help her out financially, tell her to get a loan, or tell her to suck it up.

 

[HermDogg]

Originally posted by: Venix

Why should your parents give your sister $500/mo when she is doing something they disapprove of? She has no right to their money and they have no obligation to give it to her.

Yes, but if she didn't apply for financial aid because her parents told her they'd support her, they're in the wrong for screwing her like this. They should at least continue to give her money on the contingency that she pay it back.

My mother-in-law tried pulling similar crap before my wedding. She absolutely insisted on paying for it, so I used the majority of my savings to buy a house. Then she decided at the last minute that she didn't want to pay for it because she didn't like my family and would rather use the money to buy a boat. This is after tripling its costs because she wanted to invite more people, have more expensive things, etc., and at this point if we cancelled we'd have to pay 50% of the costs as a penalty.

I wound up paying for the entire thing with my savings and some credit cards, and then I sued her for the 2/3's I hadn't planned on paying for and won. I certainly wouldn't have had a problem paying for the entire thing myself, but when someone says, "I'll give you money to do this," I expect them to follow through.

Damn.. I bet that made reunions a wee bit akward eh?

 

[ctcsoft]

I'm so pissed to the point where I think she should sue them. I mean if they made the verbal agreement to help her then they should be held liable. Hell I will even testify for her if they don't get their heads out of their asses.

She could have filed for Fin. Aid and got it but instead my parents are just going to screw her over. How is that supportive? How is it okay? Its not very "parent like" if you ask me.