I get it man, really. I grew up with a partial-farm family (grandparents ran a beef farm) and kept loaded guns around to deal with coyotes and crap. Never thought they were a big deal. I went to school during the Columbine generation, guns themselves weren't a worry, just the nutjobs that killed poeple. Sold guns at walmart, not a big deal. Own one, not a big deal. Joined the mil, still not a big deal. Now, I worry every damn day that me and the gf are going to get randomly shot at while shopping, or that my kid cousins are gonna get gunned down at school. I know the statistics, and I also know that I'm human and irrationally worry about things.
Should I still be concerned about the nutjobs and how to stop them, how to help them, how to fix a society that generates them? Or should I take my chances that I can protect myself against a rabid stabber over an active shooter?
These convos have come up several times on this board, and I still will state that there's a few places in the US where guns are still used/needed for survival, though a vanishingly small number. There's ways to mitigate gun ownership if that's truly what we're after, but I don't know if that's what we should be after.
I agree with you on the gun culture, but honestly I see the resistance as a sign that people feel insecure, in no small part due to our current leadership. When people feel unsure about their leadership they get defensive. In a job, you revise your resume. At home, you buy a gun apparently. I'm sure a thousand years ago, the blacksmiths got a rash of orders every time a king died.