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Dude, there are ways to tell if a girl is interested. It took me a while to learn them...like now that I'm 30. lol! But, none are totally reliable. I've went out with girls who initially reacted like I had a booger hanging out of my nose or something, and I've been rejected HARD by girls who kept glancing over at me every 30 seconds. Girls are weird like that, you can't figure them out, so stop trying. Your approach does need a little work...
Don't try to 'size' a girl up or try to guess what kind of approach she would respond best to. Just walk up, say hi, and make a little conversation! Then you can gauge how friendly she is and how to proceed from there. This girl sounded like queen b-tch, the ones who cut you off and say "I'm not interested" before you even ask.
I had that happen once when I was in the school cafeteria, so I got a bit confrontational with her. I asked "You're not interested in what?" and the rest went something like this:
"I'm not interested in going out with you, if that's what you were going to ask."
"So...if you didn't know what I was going to ask, why would you presume I was going to ask you out? That's kind of rude, isn't it?"
"Well, I thought maybe that's..." [me interrupting her]
"I mean, I may have wanted to talk to you about any number of things...maybe we have the same class and I was wondering if I could get some notes from you, maybe you had something embarrasing hanging from your butt and I was going to politely inform you about it, maybe I was going to ask you to carry my bookbag."
"What...why would you want me to carry your bookbag?"
"Well, that's not important, you seem to believe you are so irresistibly gorgeous that the only reason a guy would talk to you is to ask you out."
"Huh? I don't think that...wait. Ok, I'm sorry, can we start over here? What were you going to ask me, seriously?"
"I wasn't going to ask you anything, really. I was just trying to be friendly, meet people, is that so bad?"
"No, that isn't bad. Ok, I'm sorry...but you were just trying to be friendly, there wasn't anything more to it than that?"
"More to it...like what?"
"Like, you had no intention of asking me out?"
"Because you're so gorgeous and all, right?"
"Stop saying that! I'm not like that."
"Well, why do you keep thinking I wanna go out with you? And what would be wrong if I did wanna go out with you? Is there something wrong with a guy wanting to go out with a beautiful girl? "
"There is if I don't want to go out with that person."
"But, you don't know that's what I wanted. Even if I did, you couldn't at least wait until I asked?"
"Is that what all this is about, were you going to ask me out?"
"No. I'll tell you what I wanted, I was over there looking at you for a while, and I couldn't help but notice that you are beautiful. I wanted to ask you out, but I sat over there thinking you must already have a boyfriend because nobody that beautiful could be available, and I didn't want to make you uncomfortable, so I just sat there. Then I thought, how do I know for sure unless I ask? So I spent a couple more minutes trying to get up the nerve, and I decided that I was just going to come over and talk to you, not necessarily ask you out, but just to meet you. I thought I'd let things happen from there, one way or another, I didn't have any expectations. I didn't realize this was going to be some big deal, that you were going to be like this. I'm sorry for bothering you."
She acted like she was mad, she probably was mad. She said "I don't have time for this. I've got to go." I said, "Well, have a nice life" and walked away while she was gathering her things.
For the next week I deliberately avoided the cafeteraia. I admit, part of me believed I had just been slapped down hard, and that I pissed this girl off, so I didn't want to show my face in there for a while. Then I went in one day and sat down in an area by myself to get some grub and do some reading. After about a half hour, guess who walked up and asked, "Hi, can we talk?" lol!
She apologized for her behavior, we chatted a little, then she said "So, if you still want to ask me out, now would be a good time." haha, I love that!
But, I wasn't about to ask her after all that. I said, "Well, if the shoe was on the other foot, if you had tried to be friendly and make a little conversation, and I treated you like that, would you still want to ask me out?"
She replied, "Um, I guess...probably not. I said I was sorry, didn't I?"
"Yeah, and I accepted your apology, its all good. But you just admitted yourself that you wouldn't want to ask me out after that, how can you blame me for feeling the same way?"
"I can't, I guess. Ok, you don't want to ask, do you want to go out with me?"
"Are you asking me?"
"What does it sound like, silly?"
"Sounds like you're asking me out."
"Well?"
WEEEEE! She still had a little guilt to get off her conscience so I helped her do that by shagging her rotten the next three weekends. Then I dumped her (after one last exhaustive shagging, of course), told her she was too b-tchy for me. lol!
Actually, that's not funny. I deliberately hurt her because I held a grudge like that, I was much younger then, I'm not like that any more. Its wrong to use a person's guilt as a weapon against them, if a person is sorry and you accept their apology, then forgive them. We've all hurt someone once or twice. That doesn't make it right, but I've changed a lot since I was 22. ;-)