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Ok first things first. You're going to have to read a little bit. Sorry about that.
http://www.businessinsider.com/here...t-about-parenting-that-americans-dont-2013-11
Years ago I needed to make a decision. I had been living in Europe for a few years and partying it up. I studied at university here and I had a job. Should I stay or go back to the USA? I chose to go back to the USA. I felt that culturally it made more sense and I really objected to the taxes and felt like I was better off making more money in the USA.
So I went back to the USA. I busted my ass and made a lot of money in a very short period of time. The American Dream right? Then it hit me though. If I wanted a higher quality of life and wanted to raise a family it made almost no sense to live in the United States. As a dual citizen I had a choice again and I chose to live in Europe for the second time in my life.
You see I once asked my father what his biggest regret in life was. His answer kinda shocked me since I don't remember it like this. He said that he regretted barely being there for my first 9 years of life. He was always working, commuting, travelling, and didn't see me very much. That's just the way it is in the US.
My friends in CA have 1-2 hour commutes to work each day. They work in Silicon Valley but can't afford to live there so they have to drive for 65-80 miles twice a day. Some more. Some less. They get their 2 weeks of vacation, pay over $1000 a month for daycare per child, but make $75,000 to $100,000 a year. They have combined income families around $130,000 for the most part. Not bad. They're all in the top 20% of American families. It really doesn't get much better for most.
Well it does. It gets a lot better.
On top of these basics is just how family friendly the culture is. If I go to the store where I live they have a daycare in the store. All the big supermarkets have this. You can drop your kid off with paid professionals for 3 hours and it's free. Everything is balanced around these giant tank like strollers that people have and the mass transit is free to anyone with a kid in a stroller. So while you have young children your transit costs are basically cut in half since one parent will not need to buy a metro card. Then you have city parks everywhere and even in the worst parts of town the parks are better than anything I have ever seen in the USA.
Now I could go on about the financial implications but I think the main point is just on the quality of life. I think this is by far the better way to raise a child. Lets just look at quick numbers though. If you're making $100,000 a year your take home is going to be around $5,800 a month. Subtract at least $2000 a month for daycare for your two children. Lets be somewhat fair to the whole USA and say you have a $1,800 mortgage. Your cars and insurance cost you $700 a month. Food is another $500. Another $200 for utilities. Health insurance is $500 a month. We're out of money. That $100 left is for entertainment. A baby sitter, dinner, and a movie. It was at this point that I threw my hands up in the air and wondering whose bright idea this was. You can make $100,000 a year and have zero money left over to put in your 401K or for retirement and be scraping by if you want 2 kids. Worse yet you are not going to see them very much since you're always working. You're not going to have very long vacations, or money to go on one, and you're not going to get very much time with them after birth. And here's the part that hurts the most - the numbers I used above are VERY conservative. A family of 4 is not going to be eating very good on $500 a month. $200 to cover gas, electricity, water, trash, mobile phone, and internet? Good luck.
So the question I have to ask is why do we put up with this? Can it change? Do you want it to change?
A couple immediate problems present itself. First off if you live in an at-will state you would be fired for even suggesting paternity or maternity leave. Next up is that we don't have organized labor and that's probably the key to the rest of the world offering these benefits. Lastly Americans loathe taxes.
http://www.businessinsider.com/here...t-about-parenting-that-americans-dont-2013-11
Years ago I needed to make a decision. I had been living in Europe for a few years and partying it up. I studied at university here and I had a job. Should I stay or go back to the USA? I chose to go back to the USA. I felt that culturally it made more sense and I really objected to the taxes and felt like I was better off making more money in the USA.
So I went back to the USA. I busted my ass and made a lot of money in a very short period of time. The American Dream right? Then it hit me though. If I wanted a higher quality of life and wanted to raise a family it made almost no sense to live in the United States. As a dual citizen I had a choice again and I chose to live in Europe for the second time in my life.
You see I once asked my father what his biggest regret in life was. His answer kinda shocked me since I don't remember it like this. He said that he regretted barely being there for my first 9 years of life. He was always working, commuting, travelling, and didn't see me very much. That's just the way it is in the US.
My friends in CA have 1-2 hour commutes to work each day. They work in Silicon Valley but can't afford to live there so they have to drive for 65-80 miles twice a day. Some more. Some less. They get their 2 weeks of vacation, pay over $1000 a month for daycare per child, but make $75,000 to $100,000 a year. They have combined income families around $130,000 for the most part. Not bad. They're all in the top 20% of American families. It really doesn't get much better for most.
Well it does. It gets a lot better.
- I get 6-8 weeks of vacation plus a whole bunch of national days off. If a national holiday occurs on a Thursday or Tuesday you get Friday or Monday off as well.
- Daycare is among the best in the world and costs $189 per month for your first child, $126 per month for the second, $63 per month for the third, and is free for any additional children.
- There is a lot of opportunity for working at home and flex time.
- Maternity and Paternity leave are 16 months long at 80% pay. Now I think the father is required to take 3 months off. Generally with my friends and family the father takes about 6 months off.
On top of these basics is just how family friendly the culture is. If I go to the store where I live they have a daycare in the store. All the big supermarkets have this. You can drop your kid off with paid professionals for 3 hours and it's free. Everything is balanced around these giant tank like strollers that people have and the mass transit is free to anyone with a kid in a stroller. So while you have young children your transit costs are basically cut in half since one parent will not need to buy a metro card. Then you have city parks everywhere and even in the worst parts of town the parks are better than anything I have ever seen in the USA.
Now I could go on about the financial implications but I think the main point is just on the quality of life. I think this is by far the better way to raise a child. Lets just look at quick numbers though. If you're making $100,000 a year your take home is going to be around $5,800 a month. Subtract at least $2000 a month for daycare for your two children. Lets be somewhat fair to the whole USA and say you have a $1,800 mortgage. Your cars and insurance cost you $700 a month. Food is another $500. Another $200 for utilities. Health insurance is $500 a month. We're out of money. That $100 left is for entertainment. A baby sitter, dinner, and a movie. It was at this point that I threw my hands up in the air and wondering whose bright idea this was. You can make $100,000 a year and have zero money left over to put in your 401K or for retirement and be scraping by if you want 2 kids. Worse yet you are not going to see them very much since you're always working. You're not going to have very long vacations, or money to go on one, and you're not going to get very much time with them after birth. And here's the part that hurts the most - the numbers I used above are VERY conservative. A family of 4 is not going to be eating very good on $500 a month. $200 to cover gas, electricity, water, trash, mobile phone, and internet? Good luck.
So the question I have to ask is why do we put up with this? Can it change? Do you want it to change?
A couple immediate problems present itself. First off if you live in an at-will state you would be fired for even suggesting paternity or maternity leave. Next up is that we don't have organized labor and that's probably the key to the rest of the world offering these benefits. Lastly Americans loathe taxes.