People that handicap themselves

[Texashiker]

<serious thread>

Over the past few weeks I have been thinking about how people handicap themselves in certain ways.

Whether its not getting a good education, having too many kids, living in certain areas that have a high poverty rate, having children at 15 or 16 years old,,,,.

It seems to me that certain people are self destructive, not only to those around them, but also to themselves.

There is a lady I know, she is a friend of a friend kind of thing. I do not think we have ever talked face-to-face. From what I have been told, the lady has a drug and alcohol problem. Her husband got into drugs and killed himself. The guys she is dating is either drunks are drug users.

I used to work with a guy who got $100k from his grandmother when he turned 18. What did he do? He blew all of the money. Instead of having a paid for home, or college education, he is having to work like everyone else. The chance for a good life was handed to him, and sand through his fingers, the money slipped from his grasp.

 

[amdhunter]

I waste my time on ATOT instead of getting laid.

 

[sixone]

I waste my time on ATOT instead of getting laid.

Beggars can't be choosers.

 

[amdhunter]

Beggars can't be choosers.

 

[FoBoT]

almost everyone is obsessive/compulsive

the important thing is what people choose as their Moby Dick

• people that buy new CPU every two months to overclock it
• a person that buys too many Beanie Babies
• a person that only wants to talk about religion 24 hours a day
• someone that posts 62,000+ times on a internet forums
• a person that drinks so much alcohol they are disfunctional
• people that love star trek so much they learn to speak/read/write Klingon and name their babies with Klingon names
• a person loves running so much they can't just do marathons, they do 100 mile or 24 hour running races
• a person that thinks it makes sense to inject bath salts into their blood stream
• someone spends all their time scrapbooking and sometimes buys more scrapbook paper instead of paying a doctor bill that is 60 days late

i could add to this list all day/night, hmm.... :hmm:

 

[Anubis]

almost everyone is obsessive/compulsive

the important thing is what people choose as their Moby Dick

• people that buy new CPU every two months to overclock it
• a person that buys too many Beanie Babies
• a person that only wants to talk about religion 24 hours a day
  [*]someone that posts 62,000+ times on a internet forums
• a person that drinks so much alcohol they are disfunctional
• people that love star trek so much they learn to speak/read/write Klingon and name their babies with Klingon names
• a person loves running so much they can't just do marathons, they do 100 mile or 24 hour running races
• a person that thinks it makes sense to inject bath salts into their blood stream
• someone spends all their time scrapbooking and sometimes buys more scrapbook paper instead of paying a doctor bill that is 60 days late

i could add to this list all day/night, hmm.... :hmm:

 

[Matthiasa]

<serious thread>

Over the past few weeks I have been thinking about how people handicap themselves in certain ways.

Whether its not getting a good education, having too many kids, living in certain areas that have a high poverty rate, having children at 15 or 16 years old,,,,.

It seems to me that certain people are self destructive, not only to those around them, but also to themselves.

There is a lady I know, she is a friend of a friend kind of thing. I do not think we have ever talked face-to-face. From what I have been told, the lady has a drug and alcohol problem. Her husband got into drugs and killed himself. The guys she is dating is either drunks are drug users.

I used to work with a guy who got $100k from his grandmother when he turned 18. What did he do? He blew all of the money. Instead of having a paid for home, or college education, he is having to work like everyone else. The chance for a good life was handed to him, and sand through his fingers, the money slipped from his grasp.

That is at most part of a house or a college education and is definitely not enough to not stop working.

/bored

 

[chubbyfatazn]

That is at most part of a house or a college education and is definitely not enough to not stop working.

/bored

Part of a college education? Depends on where you go... four years here at a state public is a little north of $80k (includes room and board). Tack on food/misc spending and you're still under $100k.

It won't set him for life, but it'll go a long way.

 

[Zorander]

I used to work with a guy who got $100k from his grandmother when he turned 18. What did he do? He blew all of the money. Instead of having a paid for home, or college education, he is having to work like everyone else. The chance for a good life was handed to him, and sand through his fingers, the money slipped from his grasp.

I have a better story. I heard of this couple who inherited about $1.5M and they blew almost all of it on a round-the-world trip (and who knows what else they splurged on).

They are back to their mundane day-to-day job now. Not sure if that was a worthy once-in-a-lifetime experience or just plain wasteful.

 

[Miramonti]

Not getting a good education has become a public school requirement.

Living in poverty areas...try to be black and get an apartment on the north side of chicago...it's a helluva lot harder than for whites. Almost all my landlords would tell me the trick to renting is to not rent to 'the blacks.'

What seems like common sense for some can be a helluva lot harder for others.

 

[Texashiker]

What seems like common sense for some can be a helluva lot harder for others.

Common sense, or self control?

 

[shortylickens]

I dunno, I've done everything "right" and it hasnt served me a bit. Unemployed, doing mediocre in school, no girl. If my life is any indication, staying out of trouble and working hard are not the keys to success.

If I could go back and do it all over again I'd put more emphasis on fun and less on being what you folks call practical. Get high, finger bang chicks in the parking lot, stay out late, get tattoos, etc.

 

[FoBoT]

..., get tattoos, etc.

i suggest this to get started

 

[JEDI]

I dunno, I've done everything "right" and it hasnt served me a bit. Unemployed, doing mediocre in school, no girl. If my life is any indication, staying out of trouble and working hard are not the keys to success.

i'm the opposite. i throw caution to the wind, ride the wave of luck.

twice i've walked away from 6figure jobs that landed on my lap.

my 3rd (and current) 6figure job is about to end. my contract expires this summer and they're not renewing. (another example of fate smiling on me: 6months after i signed, the recession happened. What a great time to have a guarenteed multiyear contract!)

my resume hasnt been updated in years.

lets see what happens when i once again stick my head in the sand...


and to the Op, i guess this is how i handicap myself.
i wonder how my life would be different if i took a proactive approach to my life, instead of being passive?

 

[shortylickens]

Yup for an unknown strange reason it seems life always somehow works out for the folks who dont care or dont worry. I dont think I've ever seen one of those ballsy mother fuckers suffer for his carelessness. He always gets by.

I gotta reevaluate my life decisions.

 

[Fausto]

<serious thread>

Over the past few weeks I have been thinking about how people handicap themselves in certain ways.

Whether its not getting a good education, having too many kids, living in certain areas that have a high poverty rate, having children at 15 or 16 years old,,,,.
It seems to me that certain people are self destructive, not only to those around them, but also to themselves.

I'm pretty sure I pointed out last week that this applies to your kids (and you to a lesser extent). You've done a good job convincing yourself that you're doing well, but from an outsider's standpoint you're a guy who lives in borderline third-world conditions because of the choices he made in life.

 

[Texashiker]

I'm pretty sure I pointed out last week that this applies to your kids (and you to a lesser extent). You've done a good job convincing yourself that you're doing well, but from an outsider's standpoint you're a guy who lives in borderline third-world conditions because of the choices he made in life.

I learned a trade skill that has a physical value.
My first child was born when I was 19.
I went to college when I was around 25 years old.

If I could do it over again, I do not know if I would have gone to college when I finished high school. There was a point in time when I regretted not going to college right out of high school. But with so many college graduates not of work, why should I sink myself and my family into debt for a college education? The first time I stepped foot in a college, I was around 25 years old.

A buddy of mine and I took 2 different routes in life, he went to college for computers, electronics and programming, I learned a trade.

20 years later, my buddies degree is outdated, my trade skills (metal working and welding) have increased in value as demand has increased.

There comes a point in life when you get tired of busting your ass everyday. When I was 20, 21, 22, 23 years old, I used to work 60 - 80 hours a week, and made some good money.

The worst mistake I made in life was marrying a woman that was bio-polar. One second everything was fine, the next second she would go into fits of uncontrollable screaming rage. Plus, she refused to stop her spending.

What do you do when you are married to someone who refuses to respect your opinion? And my opinion was to stop spending money and stop using credit cards. My wife (ex-wife now) ran the family into $35,000 of credit card debt. We got that paid off, then she started spending again.

Its a lose-lose situation, walk out of the marriage, pay child support, hire attorneys, or live a life of staying broke.

I have 2 more years of paying child support. When that 2 years is over, and I finally get to keep the money I earn. Right now 25% of my pay check goes to my crazy ex-wife.

So yea, I have made some poor decisions in life. But, I have a skill to make money with, and I live a debt free life.

 

[The Boston Dangler]

i suggest this to get started

can some geek translate the binary to english? google's got nothing. my guess: futurama

 

[irishScott]

Yup for an unknown strange reason it seems life always somehow works out for the folks who dont care or dont worry. I dont think I've ever seen one of those ballsy mother fuckers suffer for his carelessness. He always gets by.

I gotta reevaluate my life decisions.

"Getting by" and "going somewhere" are two different things.

 

[rcpratt]

can some geek translate the binary to english? google's got nothing. my guess: futurama

"Joe"

 

[EagleKeeper]

I waste my time on ATOT instead of getting laid.

At least you get something for your time here - attentions


Getting laid for you may be a lost cause

 

[EagleKeeper]

I learned a trade skill that has a physical value.
My first child was born when I was 19.
I went to college when I was around 25 years old.

If I could do it over again, I do not know if I would have gone to college when I finished high school. There was a point in time when I regretted not going to college right out of high school. But with so many college graduates not of work, why should I sink myself and my family into debt for a college education? The first time I stepped foot in a college, I was around 25 years old.

A buddy of mine and I took 2 different routes in life, he went to college for computers, electronics and programming, I learned a trade.

20 years later, my buddies degree is outdated, my trade skills (metal working and welding) have increased in value as demand has increased.

There comes a point in life when you get tired of busting your ass everyday. When I was 20, 21, 22, 23 years old, I used to work 60 - 80 hours a week, and made some good money.

The worst mistake I made in life was marrying a woman that was bio-polar. One second everything was fine, the next second she would go into fits of uncontrollable screaming rage. Plus, she refused to stop her spending.

What do you do when you are married to someone who refuses to respect your opinion? And my opinion was to stop spending money and stop using credit cards. My wife (ex-wife now) ran the family into $35,000 of credit card debt. We got that paid off, then she started spending again.

Its a lose-lose situation, walk out of the marriage, pay child support, hire attorneys, or live a life of staying broke.

I have 2 more years of paying child support. When that 2 years is over, and I finally get to keep the money I earn. Right now 25% of my pay check goes to my crazy ex-wife.

So yea, I have made some poor decisions in life. But, I have a skill to make money with, and I live a debt free life.

Right now 25% of my pay check goes to my crazy ex-wife for your child though

 

[Texashiker]

Right now 25% of my pay check goes to my crazy ex-wife for your child though

That 25% probably goes to my exs credit card late fees.

 

[Spook]

We all put stumbling blocks in our way. Going along this thread of thinking, why do we do anything that could be a distraction, watching movies, playing games... Aren't these merely distractions that our time could be better used say exercising or learning something useful. What is the end game here, happiness? world domination? Wealth? Why aren't you doing what you need to do to accomplish your end game instead of getting drunk, or eating food that isn't good for you.

Everyone has there own path to lead, sometimes you get to make decisions on what direction to go, and others there is only one course. Don't make judgements on other people for their direction, just keep yourself on your own path.

 

[FoBoT]

can some geek translate the binary to english?

Joe