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Lifer
- Dec 7, 2009
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No knowledge is required to possess empathy, and no amount of reading about it will give it to you.
I have to disagree with that. I could be wrong but I think knowledge is used to build intuition including empathy. I'm not saying all that possess it realize where it comes from. Including you according to your statement.
Do you know what the source of your empathy is? I do. I mean in my case I do. Notice I used the word intuition purposefully. It's important to note that intuition is often a subconscious process.
in·tu·i·tion
ˌint(y)o͞oˈiSH(ə)n/
noun
noun: intuition
the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.
"we shall allow our intuition to guide us"
synonyms: instinct, intuitiveness; More
sixth sense, clairvoyance, second sight
"he works according to intuition"
a thing that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning.
plural noun: intuitions
"your insights and intuitions as a native speaker are positively sought"
synonyms: hunch, feeling (in one's bones), inkling, (sneaking) suspicion, idea, sense, notion; More
It's not at all abnormal that you might not remember where your intuitive empathy first came from.
I however do remember. It was in grade school, when a teacher told one of the other students "...put yourself in their shoes, how would you feel?" The teacher didn't call it empathy but that is exactly what he was talking about. You absolutely can be (and probably were) taught empathy. You might not remember when that happened, but I don't believe you were born with it. Do you think an infant or toddler thinks about how you feel due to their actions? I don't think they do. But they can be taught to later on in life.
The reason it's now subconscious is because you don't remember where or when you learned it, or when you started to intuitively use it.
It's like walking, another subconscious process. If I asked you how you walk across a room you can't really tell me. You can't describe in detail which muscles you contract, for how long a duration and what intensity, and which order you fire those muscles in. It's all automatically handled by the fast processing speed of the subconscious. As I'm sure you know it's much faster than the slow critical thinking part of the mind. It's fast, but it has drawbacks, side effects such as a lack of critical thinking ability. You don't have to know how to walk, you just automatically do it. You learned how when you were an infant. Similarly you don't have to know how to be empathic, you just automatically do it, and you learned how at some point in your development, likely many years ago and taught by a caring adult, parent, teacher, sibling, friend, or whomever.