Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Absolutely.
You can't use logic with a small child but they CAN understand "When I do that my ass hurts for a few minutes."
Viper GTS
I don't know what kind of kids you hang out with but I haven't found this to be the case.
So you can logically reason with a 4 year old? I call shens.
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Absolutely.
You can't use logic with a small child but they CAN understand "When I do that my ass hurts for a few minutes."
Viper GTS
I don't know what kind of kids you hang out with but I haven't found this to be the case.
So you can logically reason with a 4 year old? I call shens.
You'd be surprised. Four year olds understand more than people give them credit for. Part of the problem is that people think they're completely clueless. Besides, I don't quite understand the logic behind this. If they aren't capable of "logical reasoning" as you claim, what makes you think they'll be able to draw a link between pain and something they did?
The majority of child misbehavior isn't from the kids but from the people around them. The best way to stop it is not to hit but to look at yourself and see what sort of example you're setting. That said, my mom smacked me around for a few years and to this day, I don't appreciate it one bit.
Edit: I know a number of Quakers who pursuant to their nonviolence beliefs, don't hit their children. These kids are the same ones who go to top universities and colleges. Go figure. There ARE better ways out there, it's just that some people are a.) too lazy, or b.) too ignorant to figure them out.
Originally posted by: Viper GTS
The problem is not simply a matter of communication & understanding, a four year old has a much different world view & values than an adult. They are not on the same level as an adult, & should not be treated as such.
Viper GTS
Originally posted by: MX2times
What a bunch of crap. Anyone who feels the need to spank or hit their kids needs help. All you fvck sticks out there who use this type of discipline are just bags of sh|t.
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
You'd be surprised. Four year olds understand more than people give them credit for. Part of the problem is that people think they're completely clueless. Besides, I don't quite understand the logic behind this. If they aren't capable of "logical reasoning" as you claim, what makes you think they'll be able to draw a link between pain and something they did?
The majority of child misbehavior isn't from the kids but from the people around them. The best way to stop it is not to hit but to look at yourself and see what sort of example you're setting. That said, my mom smacked me around for a few years and to this day, I don't appreciate it one bit.
Edit: I know a number of Quakers who pursuant to their nonviolence beliefs, don't hit their children. These kids are the same ones who go to top universities and colleges. Go figure. There ARE better ways out there, it's just that some people are a.) too lazy, or b.) too ignorant to figure them out.
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: MX2times
What a bunch of crap. Anyone who feels the need to spank or hit their kids needs help. All you fvck sticks out there who use this type of discipline are just bags of sh|t.
guess you didn't receive discipline as a youngster, because my kids would never use such verbal abuse.
Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
You'd be surprised. Four year olds understand more than people give them credit for. Part of the problem is that people think they're completely clueless. Besides, I don't quite understand the logic behind this. If they aren't capable of "logical reasoning" as you claim, what makes you think they'll be able to draw a link between pain and something they did?
LOL - not wanting pain has NOTHING to do with logic. Any mammal will respond to pain. A stupid lab rat will learn to not do something if you shock it when it does. Does that mean the lab rat is capable of logical reasoning?
The majority of child misbehavior isn't from the kids but from the people around them. The best way to stop it is not to hit but to look at yourself and see what sort of example you're setting. That said, my mom smacked me around for a few years and to this day, I don't appreciate it one bit.
You're exactly right. You have to look at what kind of example you set. What does that have to do with spanking? It's being a good parent when you aren't spanking that has the lasting effects. Maybe that's where your mom failed.
Edit: I know a number of Quakers who pursuant to their nonviolence beliefs, don't hit their children. These kids are the same ones who go to top universities and colleges. Go figure. There ARE better ways out there, it's just that some people are a.) too lazy, or b.) too ignorant to figure them out.
There are a lot of different methods to raising kids that are just fine. All I'm saying is that an occassional spanking is one of them. Implying that someone is lazy or ignorant because they choose a different technique then what you'd use is just...well...lazy and ignorant.
Originally posted by: mrrman
Absolutely NOT...I think is wrong to hit kids ....there are better ways to deal with discipline. I never hit my kids and never will plus what kind of message does this give.
Originally posted by: NittanyLAncer
People who think of "spanking" as hurting a child are sadly mistaken. There is a LARGE
My younger siblings weren't spanked, since my parents decided that spanking was "wrong" by someone at church. My younger siblings were NEVER as well-behaved as my older brother and I, and they were never under control throughout their teenage and young adulthood years. I wasn't spanked after the age of 10 or so, although I did get the occasional smack on the head when I did something exceptionally stupid.
Spanking sets a CLEAR chain of dominance. It makes it CLEAR that the PARENT is in charge. To this day, my mother is in charge of me and my older brother, because she always has been. Those ideas you learned at a young age stay with you.
I think you'll find this divided across the lines of people spanked and those who weren't.
Originally posted by: torpid
They have the right to, but that doesn't mean it is the best thing to do in most cases, if ever. I think that parents who spank kids do it way too often. Doing it often will teach kids a warped sense of justice and morality since they will habitually associate doing something wrong with violent retalliation.
Wasn't this question asked quite recently here?