Poll: Do you consider Cyber sex cheating?

[DAPUNISHER]

<< How about you edit your poll to say 'Is cyber sex even really sex or just sad?" >>

Bingo! Give that man a prize!!!! That's my feelings exactly! Therefore how can it be cheating????

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< You're prob having cyber sex with a man anyway so it's twice as bad...

I think his real name is Phil >>

Stop dreaming about me with other men, you know I'd never leave you baby And don't play coy either because you know I made you feel like a natural woman last night

 

[mrCide]

heh, how can it be cheating? you're typing to someone you don't know about sex. sure it turns you on. does playboy account for cheating? how bout going to a strip club, a real female is turning you on there?

the only time.. ONLY time you can consider it cheating is if theres a romantic relationship going on between the two people.. then you have something to worry about, otherwise, who cares?

my 2c

 

[signalman]

<< So I would really like a third parties opinions as to where you stand on the issue because I'm not sure if I'm right anymore after listening to her point of view about it. >>

Why should our opinion matter? If your wife thinks that cyber sex is cheating, then that should be your guide, not the results of a poll where a bunch of strangers get to spout off.

If you have cyber sex and your wife would feel betrayed as a consequence, then it is cheating.

Personally, I do think it is cheating, and I would be hurt and horrified if my girl friend did this with strangers on the internet.

 

[murphy55d]

Cheating or not, its LAME

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< Oh, I know some personal horror stories from people that I've worked with in the past.

While you may find cyber sex harmless, it's when you start putting two and two together....like those 5 day business trips that always seem to pop up unexpectedly and mysterious gifts and a good chunk of money suddenly missing out of the checking account.

I knew a guy who at first thought it was just an online relationship, to later find out that his wife was actually flying from Illinois down to Texas to see this guy she was IM'ing. Granted, you have to have a pretty non-communicating relationship in the first place not to notice the warning signs, but if you have a spouce that frequently does go on business trips for work, then you just might not know exactly what's going on. >>

IMHO you'd have to be a Control Freak to think there would be anything you could do about it anyways! We have implicit trust in each other and we've been together literally more than half our lives, the only reason it became an issue we needed to discuss was that she believes it would be cheating I do not, because I couldn't agree more with CorporateRecreation's comment. I think you have to be one Sadsack to get your jollies playing make believe with some kook on the web

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< << So I would really like a third parties opinions as to where you stand on the issue because I'm not sure if I'm right anymore after listening to her point of view about it. >>

Why should our opinion matter? If your wife thinks that cyber sex is cheating, then that should be your guide, not the results of a poll where a bunch of strangers get to spout off.

If you have cyber sex and your wife would feel betrayed as a consequence, then it is cheating.

Personally, I do think it is cheating, and I would be hurt and horrified if my girl friend did this with strangers on the internet. >>

Look some of you seem to be having trouble with your reading comprehension today so let me elucidate on the main point I think it's pathetic that people do it!!!! I posed the hypothetical to her that IF I had I did not think it could be considered cheating! And I asked because I know this place is comprised almost exclusively of men so I was interested to see if my way of thinking is a guy thing or not Get It??? Obviously it's not a guy thing from looking at the votes so now I know it's just that I obviously have a more secure self image than many of you because I don't worry about silly sh*t like my wife leaving me for a Goober she met on the net :disgust:

 

[melly]

it's prolly cheating if your emotions are truly involved. a little cyberflirting is harmless though, every now and then.

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< it's prolly cheating if your emotions are truly involved. a little cyberflirting is harmless though, every now and then. >>

I agree with this statement and will add that I don't think most well adjusted people are "Needy" to the point where they become emotionally(in the romantic context) involved with someone else via the web

 

[JellyBaby]

It depends on what the meaning of the word "is"....is.

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< It depends on what the meaning of the word "is"....is. >>

Neff

 

[ElFenix]

"if i put a condom on my finger then i stick my finger in my ear i'm not fscking my ear am i?"

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< "if i put a condom on my finger then i stick my finger in my ear i'm not fscking my ear am i?" >>

Pics?

 

[gopunk]

what you call it is really irrelevant... if it is something that you hide from your spouse, it probably isn't that great of a thing to be doing. unless your spouse is anal or something.

 

[ThePresence]

No it's not IMO. It may not be smart, because, like some posts above it can lead to cheating. But I can't see how typing is cheating.

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< unless your spouse is anal or something. >>

Hey! I was sure I pulled the blinds!

 

[heartsurgeon]

if you believe it is cheating, then does that mean your gay when you find out the\person you "cheated" with online is a man pretending to be a woman?

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< if you believe it is cheating, then does that mean your gay when you find out the\person you "cheated" with online is a man pretending to be a woman? >>

That deserves it's own thread heartsurgeon, I would really like to read the replys to that query

 

[eleutheria]

It is cheating if your mate thinks it is. If your wife is insecure about these sorts of things, and you love her, you won't do the things that would cause her pain.

 

[eleutheria]

It is cheating if your mate thinks it is. If your wife is insecure about these sorts of things, and you love her, you won't do the things that would cause her pain.

 

[bizmark]

It's cheating IMO. As I think Azraele mentioned, it's the interactivity that makes cyber-sex cheating. Looking at porn isn't cheating, because the sexual acts portrayed are already complete, and were not done with you, specifically, as a viewer, in mind. However, typing live, with another person on the other end who's communicating only with you, creates a shared sexual experience. Both parties find sexual enjoyment in their interaction with one another. This experience is something that only two lovers should share. The shared sexual experience makes one feel closer or connected with the other party. An intimate-ness is present, that IMO should only be shared between those who are in love.

Sorry for this rambling, I have a very clear opinion on this, but it's hard to express in a clear way. I'll try and come up with a better way of putting it.

 

[jhu]

However, typing live, with another person on the other end who's communicating only with you, creates a shared sexual experience.

what if the other party was just a sophisticated ai? would it still be cheating?

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< However, typing live, with another person on the other end who's communicating only with you, creates a shared sexual experience.

what if the other party was just a sophisticated ai? would it still be cheating? >>

This is another good question! Where will society make the delineation between what is and what is not considered infidelty within the medium of technology? Looking at the poll results thus far more people consider it cheating than not so could this sentiment eventually result in legislation which would provide grounds to sue for divorce based upon transcripts between your spouse and another party's on-line relations or eventually human/AI relations?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Cheating may bleed over to the physical, but it starts with the mental. Yes, cybersex is cheating.

nik

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< It's cheating IMO. As I think Azraele mentioned, it's the interactivity that makes cyber-sex cheating. Looking at porn isn't cheating, because the sexual acts portrayed are already complete, and were not done with you, specifically, as a viewer, in mind. However, typing live, with another person on the other end who's communicating only with you, creates a shared sexual experience. Both parties find sexual enjoyment in their interaction with one another. This experience is something that only two lovers should share. The shared sexual experience makes one feel closer or connected with the other party. An intimate-ness is present, that IMO should only be shared between those who are in love.

Sorry for this rambling, I have a very clear opinion on this, but it's hard to express in a clear way. I'll try and come up with a better way of putting it. >>

I understand your position on the issue and I agree that any emotional involvement between the parties would constitute cheating but suppose the intent is simply to "get off"? I mean where does that put those who engage in phone sex? Is typing to someone else as bad as speaking to them voice to voice IYO?