I spank my kids only when such force is necessary. The bleeding hearts will cry "abuse" but that's the reason why society is as funked up as it is today. I try to install in my children that with every action, there is a reaction. With everything they do, there is a consequence (sp?) either good or bad or in some wierd times, both. My job as a parent is to instill values in my children, and to have them grow up as productive members of society. Spanking is not abuse. Whooping is/may be. Spanking instills a negative reaction to a negative action. I just wonder where in society we went wrong that spanking is seen as a corporal punishment. A slap on the hand or a slap on the butt does not constitute abuse. It's not in the magnitude of the force, but rather the show of force that is present. In other words, you don't have to beat them, just let them know that you mean business. At the risk of flaming, I'll say "screw you liberal tree hugging hippies that think that spanking is abuse, you're responsible for the downfall that's happening in society today" I remember when I was younger and was spanked and yelled at. I told my parents that I didn't like being spanked or yelled at. Their response, and the same thing I tell my children, if you don't like it, don't do things that cause it to happen. Even as a 5 year old, I could comprehend that. I did what I could to stay away from what I did not like. I'll admit that I screwed up many times since then, but that little exchange of words helped me deal with the consequences of what I did. In the end, it helped me to be a better person, and assists me on the values and discipline I present to my children. I feel that those that are against spanking are just spoiled brats that can't handle the consequences of their actions, hated it, vowed not to do it to their children, and now are dealing with the fact that their children are "menaces" to society. I mean, come on, sometimes the hand speaks louder than words. I do not like negative enforcement, but realize that it is necessary.
-Cyco-
Edit: Just additional words of thought...in some cases, abuse is clearly present, and as the children grow up to be parents themselves, they vow not to continue to abuse to their children. Spanking is such a gray area, it mostly depends on the severity. Abuse and neglect are touchy subjects. I'm just presenting my thoughts on my situation where neither neglect nor abuse reside in the way that I was raised, nor the way I'm raising my children. If I do offend anybody, I appoligize.