Originally posted by: dullard
Originally posted by: Fmr12B
Have but a handful of friends and pretty much no family who would attend. We are happy, thats what matters right
Ican;t bleive your main reason is greed, to accept presents............:disgust:
I'm trying to give you a positive reason to do it. You may feel it is fine to live together forever. But sadly, your partner and/or your child probably doesn't agree. They may be keeping their true feelings a secret. I've just never seen it work out in the long run without a ceremony and vows. Will that be a magic cure for all that may harm you? No. But emotionally, it can go a long way.
The standard response on Anandtech is that it is too expensive. It doesn't have to be. Your response is that marriage is religious/governemental. It doesn't have to be. Another common response is that gender is in the way (same sex couple). It doesn't have to be. Think outside the box and you may benefit in may ways (financial benefits are just the most easilly discussed when I don't truely know your situation).
Awwww C'mon now. I'm 29 she's 35, daughter is 10yo.
The only financial benefit would be to her. There used to be a marriage tax penalty in the tax code, so please, explain the Benefits to me. Hey, I'm a public accountant........ I think if there was a financial reason to be married I would've figured it out.
And she is on my Dental plan, she has her own Health Insurance provided by her job.
I don't think my daughter could care, she *should* be happy she is living in a happy home where both parents reside. She has everything she wants except for a Dad who works too much and a "home". Damn cost of living in Silicon Valley, hence why I work a lot. Damn job!
And my GF has come to realize that what we have is pretty damn good. The singles scene in the 28-35yo range is riddled with an overwhleming amount of losers. Only thing she is upset about is not having a $5K platinum diamond band on her finger. I did buy her a convertible as a 3rd car though.
Marriage isn't expensive, a trip to Reno and $100 and your hitched. Just like my Folks
And considering that +50% of marriages end in Divorce, I can't say I like the odds of Marriage. Glad you think a Ceremony & Vows is what keeps people together.
Nobody thought it would last but last I checked it's been around 11yrs and more drama than a Oprah, Dr. Phil, Sally Jesse, Donahue, & Jerry Springer show could handle.
Relationships are hard work.