Prenup.. did you make one?

[Aimster]

my wife will make 5x more than me. NevEr!

 

[KLin]

maybe people shouldn't be getting married until they're absolutely sure if the first thing they worry about losing are their possessions.

 

[Mandos]

I'd get one.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: stinger25
In my case we HAD to get a prenup, since my wife is worth about $3 mil and I had $230 in my savings

:Q

How did you guys meet? Were you serving her drinks at an upscale bar?

 

[Mandos]

And no.. if you have to sign a prenupo you are just bieng smart. Times change, people change, period. Thats naive to think that you'll always remain the same.

 

[asia]

Originally posted by: Mandos
And no.. if you have to sign a prenupo you are just bieng smart. Times change, people change, period. Thats naive to think that you'll always remain the same.

Yea especially when people change for the worst.

 

[FlashG]

After 36 years with the same women what's the point?

 

[thomsbrain]

your love can be pure and strong, and you can be soul mates, and you may sincerely and with all your heart wish it to last forever. but that doesn't mean it will. people change as time goes on. whether you both change in a compatible manner is a crap-shoot. a pre-nup is the smart thing to do, even if it's a little unpleasant. but think about it this way. after you have it and you're married, it actually takes pressure off the marriage because there can't be any power struggles or blackmailing involved.

 

[NutBucket]

There are prenups out there that void themselves after a set period. This sounds like the best option.

 

[surge84]

I know, just don't get married. Hey, trust me.

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

If I had thought I would need one then I would not have gotten married. Anyone who thinks in terms of "chances" of divorce should avoid marriage as well. Marriage isn't a crap shoot. Your chances are directly proportional to the effort you and your spouse put into it.

Before me and the Mrs. were married, we talked about this and decided to hang in when (not if) things sucked. If you or yours can't make that commitment in advance, figure you are headed towards disaster and avoid the whole thing to begin with.

 

[dderidex]

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith
Before me and the Mrs. were married, we talked about this and decided to hang in when (not if) things sucked. If you or yours can't make that commitment in advance, figure you are headed towards disaster and avoid the whole thing to begin with.

See, I just don't see the point in that.

If you DO change over time in an incompatible manner (my parents did) and things suck "all the time" now....why are you staying together?

I mean, is the marriage a 'success' if you are miserable, but stay together? And, is it really a 'failure' if you have an amicable divorce and both have the freedom you need with the next result of being happier afterwards?

What is the purpose of marriage, anyway? To validate some religion's de facto control over every aspect of your mind? Or, because two people love each other, are happy together, and want to enjoy that?

That's the biggest problem I have with the "anti-divorce" nazis. The very premise of their argument is that marriage has nothing to do with being happy, so if your personalities mature into something that is less happy with the other person than it would be on its own or with someone else...you are still stuck together since happiness is irrelevant, the only thing that matters is staying together.

(FWIW, my wife and I have been married 7 years, and have talked about it. Neither one of us is under any illusion that we will always be happy together and are going to be married until we die. Maybe we will. Maybe we won't. For now, we are, and so we are happily married. If not...well, we'll cross that bridge when we get there. Neither of us would want the marriage to be some fixed bond that locks us together with one or both party being miserable as a result. If that's what you want, it's not your spouse's best interest you have in mind, and you don't really love them.

And that hardly means we will "jump ship" at the first sign of trouble, either! We've both weathered some tough spots in the marriage, had some serious arguments, slept in different rooms for days on end some times! But that doesn't mean we believe our personalities will never change into something that creates long-term differences.)

 

[Chaotic42]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: stinger25
In my case we HAD to get a prenup, since my wife is worth about $3 mil and I had $230 in my savings

:Q

How did you guys meet? Were you serving her drinks at an upscale bar?

He was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar.

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: Chaotic42

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: stinger25
In my case we HAD to get a prenup, since my wife is worth about $3 mil and I had $230 in my savings

:Q

How did you guys meet? Were you serving her drinks at an upscale bar?

He was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar.

:music: That much is true...:music:

 

[n0cmonkey]

If I were to ever get married, there would be a prenup. I'd do my best to make sure it helped take care of the unlucky lady if there was a divorce, except in cases of infidelity.

 

Originally posted by: TallBill
Just curious because I'm getting married soon, and dont really like the idea of one, since its forevor right?

Its like planning for a divorce before your even married.

Hell yeah, I would get a prenup! Much the same way as I wouldn't ideally want a life insurance, I wouldn't want a prenup. I don't think anyone does ... well, with exception to a few. However, I have to be realistic with the 50% divorce rate, according to statistics. I want so badly to convince myself that it will never happen, but I want to be realistic too. I hope, at the same time, to work hard to tighten the gap and promote a healthy relationship and environment, so divorce will never result.

I can understand your reservation. However, unless you're willing to take chances and lose all you ever had, you should sign a prenup. On the hand, if you are smitten, willing to lose all; if you are willing to accept the consequence, forego material things and start from scratch at worst, then go for it. I admire you if that is your mindset. Speaking of, prenup doesn't even guarantee anything as it once did, since the court could throw out anything.

 

[johnjbruin]

Originally posted by: dderidex

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith
Before me and the Mrs. were married, we talked about this and decided to hang in when (not if) things sucked. If you or yours can't make that commitment in advance, figure you are headed towards disaster and avoid the whole thing to begin with.

See, I just don't see the point in that.

If you DO change over time in an incompatible manner (my parents did) and things suck "all the time" now....why are you staying together?

I mean, is the marriage a 'success' if you are miserable, but stay together? And, is it really a 'failure' if you have an amicable divorce and both have the freedom you need with the next result of being happier afterwards?

What is the purpose of marriage, anyway? To validate some religion's de facto control over every aspect of your mind? Or, because two people love each other, are happy together, and want to enjoy that?

That's the biggest problem I have with the "anti-divorce" nazis. The very premise of their argument is that marriage has nothing to do with being happy, so if your personalities mature into something that is less happy with the other person than it would be on its own or with someone else...you are still stuck together since happiness is irrelevant, the only thing that matters is staying together.

(FWIW, my wife and I have been married 7 years, and have talked about it. Neither one of us is under any illusion that we will always be happy together and are going to be married until we die. Maybe we will. Maybe we won't. For now, we are, and so we are happily married. If not...well, we'll cross that bridge when we get there. Neither of us would want the marriage to be some fixed bond that locks us together with one or both party being miserable as a result. If that's what you want, it's not your spouse's best interest you have in mind, and you don't really love them.

And that hardly means we will "jump ship" at the first sign of trouble, either! We've both weathered some tough spots in the marriage, had some serious arguments, slept in different rooms for days on end some times! But that doesn't mean we believe our personalities will never change into something that creates long-term differences.)

great post - i totally agree with you too.

 

[Liviathan]

Originally posted by: stinger25
In my case we HAD to get a prenup, since my wife is worth about $3 mil and I had $230 in my savings

WOW, lucky you!

 

[OOBradm]

seems to be one of those things where its a very enjoyable thing to entertain the thought of, but, in todays society, maybe its worth it.....

 

[spacejamz]

Originally posted by: Mwilding

Originally posted by: Chaotic42

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: stinger25
In my case we HAD to get a prenup, since my wife is worth about $3 mil and I had $230 in my savings

:Q

How did you guys meet? Were you serving her drinks at an upscale bar?

He was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar.

:music: That much is true...:music:

:music:But even I knew I'd find a much better place...Either with or without you:music:

 

[preCRT]

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey
If I were to ever get married, there would be a prenup. I'd do my best to make sure it helped take care of the unlucky lady if there was a divorce, except in cases of infidelity.

Yours or hers?

 

[Crackle]

Originally posted by: trmiv

Originally posted by: daveymark
If the fiance really loved you, she wouldn't have issues with it.

That's the same arguement she'll give him if he tries to ask for one. "If you really loved me, we wouldn't need a prenup!"

Then you tell her to sign a contract stating she will never divorce you.



Lata,
Crackle

 

[TallBill]

lol, theres no way I'm signing a prenup.. i was just curious what everyone thought about them.

 

[The Stigenator]

prenup is something that will protect both of you and kinda force you to stay in the marriage. Stuff like who gets what if one of you ends up cheating. Who pays the bills or what not. Who makes what decision.

Actually in the most basic form of a Prenup would be "you keep your stuff, i keep mine, we pay the common bills together, but you can have your own bills too if you want to, if we have kids and other stuff that we have as married we split it evenly without fighting".

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Anyone who gets divorced is just quitting. Giving up. And no, it doesn't matter what anyone else says, I don't care. Marriage is permanent for me and I'll fvcking die before I get a divorce no matter how tough things get.