Proms over...

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: buck

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Ok well not to disappoint all you guys but there are a couple things:

A. Were not going to have sex or anything like that. Both Christians, and we are good friends. Sorry.

B. She is only a sophomore. Neither her nor I drink (well not much in my case). I just dont need to be drunk to have a good time. But it is pretty amusing when at a party, my friends are stumbling around

C. While we are eating with a group we aren't going to the dance with that group. I washed and waxed the '03 Accord (EX V6), Armor Alled the leather seats, wiped down the glass. It looks very nice

-Kevin

What are you worried about then? Also, why did you clean up your car?

Im worried because I going to prom and dancing shows a side that no one really sees. Im usually a guy that jokes around, hangs out, goes to parties, and has a good time. I never really have mastered the "serious" parts like this. And even if i had all of my friends see me that way. Im just nervous of the unknown.

As for the car... First off it is my Fathers (I drive a truck). Next, why wouldn't you clean it up before prom?? It looks really nice, and it makes me proud to drive it to prom and take a date to a formal occasion in it.

As much as I'm all for the advice others are giving..

Maybe he's one of those that really wants to have a sober good time dancing and hanging with friends. I can respect that. Couldn't handle it myself, but I can respect it.

Thanks

-Kevin

 

[Gamingphreek]

7) Kiss her at the end of the date - don't puss out - this is important, even if it is just a soft kiss on the lips

I knew all the other ones, but we are going to prom as friends. That is all she wants for now...she said she isn't ready for anything romantic right now.

-Kevin

and enjoy the beautiful (hopefully) woman you have on your arm

She is

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Ok well not to disappoint all you guys but there are a couple things:

A. Were not going to have sex or anything like that. Both Christians, and we are good friends. Sorry.

B. She is only a sophomore. Neither her nor I drink (well not much in my case). I just dont need to be drunk to have a good time. But it is pretty amusing when at a party, my friends are stumbling around

C. While we are eating with a group we aren't going to the dance with that group. I washed and waxed the '03 Accord (EX V6), Armor Alled the leather seats, wiped down the glass. It looks very nice

-Kevin

Why the hell are you asking for advice then? You've got no intentions on being normal. Just stay home and read the bible...you'd probably have a better time.

 

[ngvepforever2]

One question though, why are you going out with a sophmore?

Regards

ng

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Ok well not to disappoint all you guys but there are a couple things:

A. Were not going to have sex or anything like that. Both Christians, and we are good friends. Sorry.

B. She is only a sophomore. Neither her nor I drink (well not much in my case). I just dont need to be drunk to have a good time. But it is pretty amusing when at a party, my friends are stumbling around

C. While we are eating with a group we aren't going to the dance with that group. I washed and waxed the '03 Accord (EX V6), Armor Alled the leather seats, wiped down the glass. It looks very nice

-Kevin

Why the hell are you asking for advice then? You've got no intentions on being normal. Just stay home and read the bible...you'd probably have a better time.

Just because i am a Christian does not mean i stay home and read the bible. FYI, i dont read the bible (I wish i could but i just dont set the time aside).

And as for normal, i wasn't aware that going out, dancing for ~5 mins, getting laid, and getting drunk was what "normal" people do.

I wish you guys would stop focusing on this topic. All i asked for was some general serious advice. If you cant accept my beliefs than dont fu***** post!

-Kevin

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: ngvepforever2
One question though, why are you going out with a sophmore?

Regards

ng

Well we aren't dating ( Maybe sometime in the future)

I am going with her because I wanted to. We are good friends, she is beautiful etc... you know the drill.

-Kevin

 

[swtethan]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Ok well not to disappoint all you guys but there are a couple things:

A. Were not going to have sex or anything like that. Both Christians, and we are good friends. Sorry.

B. She is only a sophomore. Neither her nor I drink (well not much in my case). I just dont need to be drunk to have a good time. But it is pretty amusing when at a party, my friends are stumbling around

C. While we are eating with a group we aren't going to the dance with that group. I washed and waxed the '03 Accord (EX V6), Armor Alled the leather seats, wiped down the glass. It looks very nice

-Kevin

Why the hell are you asking for advice then? You've got no intentions on being normal. Just stay home and read the bible...you'd probably have a better time.

Just because i am a Christian does not mean i stay home and read the bible. FYI, i dont read the bible (I wish i could but i just dont set the time aside).

And as for normal, i wasn't aware that going out, dancing for ~5 mins, getting laid, and getting drunk was what "normal" people do.

I wish you guys would stop focusing on this topic. All i asked for was some general serious advice. If you cant accept my beliefs than dont fu***** post!

-Kevin

when i went to prom.... i danced all night



then the other stuff :Q

 

[KillyKillall]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

7) Kiss her at the end of the date - don't puss out - this is important, even if it is just a soft kiss on the lips

I knew all the other ones, but we are going to prom as friends. That is all she wants for now...she said she isn't ready for anything romantic right now.

Then hug her and kiss her on the cheek. Friends can do that. It shows the romantic gesture on the friend level and even though it is implied mentally, it must be shown through a physical presence. Even though you guys aren't ready to move on to a romance based relationship, it is still important that you show willingness on things such as this.

 

[ngvepforever2]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Ok well not to disappoint all you guys but there are a couple things:

A. Were not going to have sex or anything like that. Both Christians, and we are good friends. Sorry.

B. She is only a sophomore. Neither her nor I drink (well not much in my case). I just dont need to be drunk to have a good time. But it is pretty amusing when at a party, my friends are stumbling around

C. While we are eating with a group we aren't going to the dance with that group. I washed and waxed the '03 Accord (EX V6), Armor Alled the leather seats, wiped down the glass. It looks very nice

-Kevin

Why the hell are you asking for advice then? You've got no intentions on being normal. Just stay home and read the bible...you'd probably have a better time.

So just because he doesn't want to have sex nor drink he should stay at home?. He still can have fun at prom. I for once, respect his decision. Beer+Teenager+driving is not a good combination. All this guy is doing here is showing a higher level of maturity than yours.

OP, as I mentioned before. Make the best of it, dance and have fun.

Regards

ng

 

[Electric Amish]

Don't Go.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Ok well not to disappoint all you guys but there are a couple things:

A. Were not going to have sex or anything like that. Both Christians, and we are good friends. Sorry.

B. She is only a sophomore. Neither her nor I drink (well not much in my case). I just dont need to be drunk to have a good time. But it is pretty amusing when at a party, my friends are stumbling around

C. While we are eating with a group we aren't going to the dance with that group. I washed and waxed the '03 Accord (EX V6), Armor Alled the leather seats, wiped down the glass. It looks very nice

-Kevin

Why the hell are you asking for advice then? You've got no intentions on being normal. Just stay home and read the bible...you'd probably have a better time.

Just because i am a Christian does not mean i stay home and read the bible. FYI, i dont read the bible (I wish i could but i just dont set the time aside).

And as for normal, i wasn't aware that going out, dancing for ~5 mins, getting laid, and getting drunk was what "normal" people do.

I wish you guys would stop focusing on this topic. All i asked for was some general serious advice. If you cant accept my beliefs than dont fu***** post!

-Kevin

Advice for WHAT? For decades past, prom night was about (in no order) drinking, dancing, sex and general partiness-naughtiness. Not everyone does all of the above. But normal folks at least would do ONE.

You're going out with your GF. You don't drink. You don't partake of the pleasures of the flesh b/c God might make your peepee shrivel up and die. You have no intentions of even holding her hand.

Dude, you're going on a REALLY expensive date. That's it. Want advice? Stop posting useless "Look at me! I'm a goodie weenie so pat me on the back!" Threads.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: KillyKillall

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

7) Kiss her at the end of the date - don't puss out - this is important, even if it is just a soft kiss on the lips

I knew all the other ones, but we are going to prom as friends. That is all she wants for now...she said she isn't ready for anything romantic right now.

Then hug her and kiss her on the cheek. Friends can do that. It shows the romantic gesture on the friend level and even though it is implied mentally, it must be shown through a physical presence. Even though you guys aren't ready to move on to a romance based relationship, it is still important that you show willingness on things such as this.

Oh, well that is what i was planning on doing lol. Just when you mentioned kiss on the lips or something, i just didn't think that was appropriate for our situation.

ngvepforever2, I thank you so much for that post. It really does help

-Kevin

 

[ngvepforever2]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: ngvepforever2
One question though, why are you going out with a sophmore?

Regards

ng

Well we aren't dating ( Maybe sometime in the future)

I am going with her because I wanted to. We are good friends, she is beautiful etc... you know the drill.

-Kevin

But...aren't you a senior?. So you have to go to college next fall and she will stay in hs. It just doesn't make sense to me to build hope for something that you know it won't happen (long distance relationships just don't work unless you put an incredible ammount of effort into it).

Regards

ng

 

[astrocase]

Bah! You're boring! Screw the church and screw her!

 

[Gamingphreek]

Advice for WHAT? For decades past, prom night was about (in no order) drinking, dancing, sex and general partiness-naughtiness. Not everyone does all of the above. But normal folks at least would do ONE.

Since when did i say that i wouldn't dance!?!?!?! Not only that if your view of prom is a giant orgie before, during and after, than you are sorely mistaken.

You're going out with your GF.

Ok, once again, we are going as friends. She knows that i want to be more than that, but has said that she doesn't want a boyfriend right now. I respect her decision; maybe she will feel differently later.

You don't partake of the pleasures of the flesh b/c God might make your peepee shrivel up and die.

I dont recall that being in the bible. But at any rate, I have already said that i believe it should wait until after marriage; if you disagree thats fine, but please stop focusing on that point.

You have no intentions of even holding her hand.

Where on earth did i say that!?!

-Kevin

 

[BlueFlamme]

Off the cuff thoughts:

Don't skimp on dinner. If you haven't already, pick out a nice place to eat. Don't order the double rack or ribs no matter how good they are. If you're going to a nice restaurant just remember the pull out her chair/hold her coat (it looks like it's gonna storm in my part of VA)

As far as during the dance just make sure to relax. Tux's tend to make a lot of guys feel like they got something shoved right up their rear. Don't forget to take care of her needs during the dance either like getting drinks for her.


It also depends on what y'all are doing afterwards and what curfew if any her parents have set. We had an after-prom party that rocked, if you have one make sure you don't get caught up in the ruckuss of Joust (or other similar games) with the guys and ignore her. If y'all are just going to a run of the mill party just make sure you get some away time with just the two of you, maybe drop out for an hour to hit a coffee shop that stays open late or something. And if she has to get back by a certain time then make sure ya get her back unless you want to be dealing with a pissed father in the future.


Good luck.

 

[snoopdoug1]

Jeez, give the poor guy a break. FYI, most of the people here telling you to "hit it" probably didn't even go to their prom. They're just trying to act cool.

That said... I hope you have a good time, and I agree with the guy who said at least give her a goodbye hug and a kiss on the cheek.

Edit: Forgot to mention, go to the after prom. I had a blast at mine.

 

[astrocase]

I don't understand why you picked this girl as a date for prom. What a waste. You could have at least picked a girl that likes you. You're getting everything wrong for prom.

 

[swtethan]

prom was a giant orgy, buncha teens freakin on eachother on the dance floor, then to a hotel party for some uh... fun

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: ngvepforever2

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: ngvepforever2
One question though, why are you going out with a sophmore?

Regards

ng

Well we aren't dating ( Maybe sometime in the future)

I am going with her because I wanted to. We are good friends, she is beautiful etc... you know the drill.

-Kevin

But...aren't you a senior?. So you have to go to college next fall and she will stay in hs. It just doesn't make sense to me to build hope for something that you know it won't happen (long distance relationships just don't work unless you put an incredible ammount of effort into it).

Regards

ng

Yes, i see your point. We probably wont end up dating, but she never regected and i still like her; so the door is open any time.

I also have strong reason to believe that it isn't her that isn't ready for a BF, rather her Dad isn't ready to give her up. He was very concerned about the driving and stuff; then she told i was taking her and he calmed down a little. I think as time goes on he will be more and more lenient.

Finally, for all of you who think that i am just some Church nut or something that is false (Though i am a very devout Christian, and i hope to grow in my faith). I feel really bad about this in some way but in others, for obvious reasons, i am happy. I was flirting with this girl for the past 6 months. When it came to ask her out for prom, the day before i was going to, she asked and agreed to go with another guy. Her PARENTS, and her friends somehow let it slip that i was going to ask and that they told me that they really wanted us to go together. To make a long story short she ended up leaving the other guy to go to prom with me. Hopefully now you can see why i am a little torn inside on the issue, and you can see that just because of what i stated, that i am not perfect by any means.

-Kevin

 

[astrocase]

You two are both messed up. You know that this will never work out with her right? Aren't you moving away to go to college or are you going to be one of those losers dating high school chicks when you're 21?

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: astrocase
I don't understand why you picked this girl as a date for prom. What a waste. You could have at least picked a girl that likes you. You're getting everything wrong for prom.

Hopefully my previous post answered that.

Thanks for the advice BlueFlamme. It is overcast, and is supposed to rain a little tonight so ill definitely keep that in mind. However, it will probably be an umbrella rather than a jacket because it is ~82F here.

As for the dance, i have never really slow danced before. My friends just said to put my hands on her hips and she will put hers around my neck; from that point just sort of shift weight, and move around and enjoy the time

As for curfew, i dont really have one, but i remember her mentioning a curfew at like Midnight for her; ill findn out soon though.

-Kevin

 

[BlueFlamme]

Gamingphreek please don't feed the asshats. They're just luring you out because a) they have never had sex and idolize it as the end all be all or b) have had sex and have no other purpose in life and idolize it as the end all be all, in either case they cannot comprehend any time spend with an attractive member of the opposite sex where the goal is not "put it in FTW"

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: astrocase
You two are both messed up. You know that this will never work out with her right? Aren't you moving away to go to college or are you going to be one of those losers dating high school chicks when you're 21?

You seem awful pompous astrocase. I certainly hope you have reason to be.

Yes, i live in Fredericksburg VA. I am leaving and going to Virginia Tech for college (~4 Hours away in Blacksburg VA).

As for the loser's dating high schoolers. Last i checked aren't most guys 1-3 years older than the people they end up dating. And in most marraiges doesn't the same hold true?

-Kevin

 

[swtethan]

Originally posted by: BlueFlamme
Gamingphreek please don't feed the asshats. They're just luring you out because a) they have never had sex and idolize it as the end all be all or b) have had sex and have no other purpose in life and idolize it as the end all be all, in either case they cannot comprehend any time spend with an attractive member of the opposite sex where the goal is not "put it in FTW"

Have you not been on atot before? Its either put it in or gtfo!