Proms over...

[JDrake]

'and would you like to go out sometime'

 

[Gamingphreek]

I have asked her out a couple times (And we have gone) so i think that is a good way to end it depending on her answer joedrake.

-Kevin

 

[Henrythewound]

All your comments paint a nice picture of a guy who is afraid to do MANY things because christian teachings say they are wrong and sinful by nature. I realize you are still young and its possible you have not yet reached the point in your life where you truly begin to have independent thought, but I guarantee you are missing out on a lot of things because you feel guilty/ are afraid to do certain things because your religious role models will look down on you for it. The sooner you make your OWN decisions and stop thinking in terms of WWJD you will have a mch more enjoyable existence and not have to feel guilty about everything. Trust me, I have been where you are now and looking back I am embarassed I was ever that submissive to something I hold little value for now.

If you exercise your own free thought and decide to continue with your current beliefs for your OWN reasons, thats fine, just don't do it because you have always been told by others it's the right way to go.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: Henrythewound
All your comments paint a nice picture of a guy who is afraid to do MANY things because christian teachings say they are wrong and sinful by nature. I realize you are still young and its possible you have not yet reached the point in your life where you truly begin to have independent thought, but I guarantee you are missing out on a lot of things because you feel guilty/ are afraid to do certain things because your religious role models will look down on you for it. The sooner you make your OWN decisions and stop thinking in terms of WWJD you will have a mch more enjoyable existence and not have to feel guilty about everything. Trust me, I have been where you are now and looking back I am embarassed I was ever that submissive to something I hold little value for now.

If you exercise your own free thought and decide to continue with your current beliefs for your OWN reasons, thats fine, just don't do it because you have always been told by others it's the right way to go.

Umm no. Religion is import but it isn't what is governing each of these decisions. Self-Conciousness....yeah maybe your getting somewhere then.

-Kevin

 

[z42]

Ok man, let me give you some real advice.

When she is better, ask her out and take her dancing. I don't know if you have places you can go there... if not take her to a field or a gym or something. Pick your own music. Act appropriately for your beliefs and tell her you're making up for her being sick at prom.

On a less specific note, read through 1 & 2 Timothy and look at what "being a man" is supposed to be according to what you say you believe in. Strong and courageous. Having faith in your God. No decent Christian woman/girl is going to be after you if you don't have those qualities. Most women are attracted to self-confidence and are repulsed by self-doubt. Have fun, enjoy yourself, and treat her the way she should be treated. AND DON"T CARE HOW IT TURNS OUT! If you're always worried about how people perceive your actions you won't get too far in life without always worrying.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Ok let me clear this up, i honestly am not THAT big of a Christian. I got to youth group and stuff. I dont sit home and read the bible non stop.

But the last piece of advice you gave

If you're always worried about how people perceive your actions you won't get too far in life without always worrying.

I need to work on this one a lot lol.

-Kevin

 

[drinkmorejava]

I think everyone is taking your religious thing a little far. I'm catholic and up till last year I pretty much sucked at relationship stuff, but it had nothing to do with going to church every sunday and stuff. It's funny looking back now at the scrubs I used to be friends with and seeing how much they just don't get anything, like they're socially stuck in 7th grade. And just because I have a chance to say it, CHRISTIE BRYNDAL IS A HIDEOUS, FAT, IGNORANT, STUCK UP B*TCH.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Lol.

To tell the turth Z42's statement that i quoted last time and all the other encouragement that you guys have given me is enough. Tomorrow whether something good can happen or not, im calling and getting this off my back. Im worrying about this far too much and i shouldn't be.

-Kevin

 

[Schfifty Five]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Lol.

To tell the turth Z42's statement that i quoted last time and all the other encouragement that you guys have given me is enough. Tomorrow whether something good can happen or not, im calling and getting this off my back. Im worrying about this far too much and i shouldn't be.

-Kevin

It's natural for guys to feel nervous and worried about what could happen, especially with the first girl that you're really interested in. We've all been through it, some many times...but you just have to do it, it's something you can only learn by doing, and if you get rejected, the next girl you meet, it'll be a lot easier and you'll have more confidence.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: Schfifty Five

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Lol.

To tell the turth Z42's statement that i quoted last time and all the other encouragement that you guys have given me is enough. Tomorrow whether something good can happen or not, im calling and getting this off my back. Im worrying about this far too much and i shouldn't be.

-Kevin

It's natural for guys to feel nervous and worried about what could happen, especially with the first girl that you're really interested in. We've all been through it, some many times...but you just have to do it, it's something you can only learn by doing, and if you get rejected, the next girl you meet, it'll be a lot easier and you'll have more confidence.

Well it would be a lot easier for me if the girl wasn't friends with my sister, didn't go to my church, didn't sing with me in choir, didn't go to my school. I dont want to damage our friendship; but no what happens happens. I have to get over this self conciousness.

-Kevin

 

[RedArmy]

Damn, I read through 8 pages of this and nothing great happened?...what a dissapointment, I thought at least there would some crazy story of highschool antics in the middle of the night or some good story of something happening. Sounds like you have some issues to work out there. Not that Im much to talk about though, since Im not going to prom next month but I am going to the after prom party (11 or 12pm until 5 or 6am) and I plan to have a much better fun to price ratio then if I went to prom. I better win that damn car or at least a laptop or something.

 

[Schfifty Five]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: Schfifty Five

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Lol.

To tell the turth Z42's statement that i quoted last time and all the other encouragement that you guys have given me is enough. Tomorrow whether something good can happen or not, im calling and getting this off my back. Im worrying about this far too much and i shouldn't be.

-Kevin

It's natural for guys to feel nervous and worried about what could happen, especially with the first girl that you're really interested in. We've all been through it, some many times...but you just have to do it, it's something you can only learn by doing, and if you get rejected, the next girl you meet, it'll be a lot easier and you'll have more confidence.

Well it would be a lot easier for me if the girl wasn't friends with my sister, didn't go to my church, didn't sing with me in choir, didn't go to my school. I dont want to damage our friendship; but no what happens happens. I have to get over this self conciousness.

-Kevin

Kevin, don't kid yourself when you say "i don't want to damage the friendship"...you aren't in this for a friend. That's the truth, you can say "i really value our friendship" all you want, but the truth is you want her in a dating relationship, not just a platonic friendship.

Your only goal getting to know her is to be with her, have her as your GF, etc etc...you're not in it for antoher friend as I assume you have plenty of those already.

Again I know it's hard to do all this, but you must realize that saying anything about a friendship is usually just BS and an excuse to not do things.

 

[Gamingphreek]

We have been friends for 3 years. Until this summer we were just friends; that is when it just....happened.

If she says that she doesn't see me like that, sure ill be upset, but ill still want to be friends with her. She is one of the nicest people i have ever met. Not only me, but everyone says that. I dont think she would give up everything.

-Kevin

 

[Josh]

Originally posted by: OrByte

Originally posted by: KillyKillall

Originally posted by: Josh
If you ain't ridin' in this to prom then you ain't a pimp. This is what my friends of our senior class arrived in.

How much did it cost his parents?

And OP, don't forget to hit it!

fixed.

and OP, just have fun doing what you want to do.

Hahahaha you would think that because you'd assume i was a rich spoiled brat. But, that is not the case. I worked hard during the school year and paid it off myself along with all my buddies we split it so it wasn't THAT bad. It roughly came out to $175 per person for about 20 people.

 

[Topplayer]

wrap your tool

 

[ballmode]

I hated my prom, regret it to this day. I hated my date, hated what we did and so glad to not talk to her after it was over.

 

[Topplayer]

Originally posted by: rnp614
Get high.

+++++

 

[Gamingphreek]

Well i wasn't going to update this until afterwards but i might as well now.

When i see her tomorrow im just going to see if she wants to go to the movies on Friday. Hopefully she will say "Yes". On the date, ill ask what she feels is going on between us.

-Kevin

 

[Schfifty Five]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well i wasn't going to update this until afterwards but i might as well now.

When i see her tomorrow im just going to see if she wants to go to the movies on Friday. Hopefully she will say "Yes". On the date, ill ask what she feels is going on between us.

-Kevin

LOL, you said you'd do it on the 9th, and it's the 10th and you aren't doing it today.

What if she says no to the movies...you not gonna talk about what you need to talk about?

 

[Gamingphreek]

I said i would call her on the 9th (It doesn't look good if everytime i call her i have to ask her something seriously like this or prom). However, i was told that you dont just ask this stuff over the phone. YOu ask it in person. And so the first time ill be able to see her in person for any length of time is on Thursday.

She wont say "No" to the movies. More than likely the only reason she will have to say "No" is if she is doing something that day. In which case ill ask about some other time. If all else fails, ill just ask her right then. Because after those 2 attempts, it would be perfect for that type of question.

-Kevin

 

[z42]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well i wasn't going to update this until afterwards but i might as well now.

When i see her tomorrow im just going to see if she wants to go to the movies on Friday. Hopefully she will say "Yes". On the date, ill ask what she feels is going on between us.

-Kevin

OK, maybe I wasn't clear with my last advice. Again, this is only IMO, so take it for what it's worth. Don't have a DTR talk. Don't ask her what she feels is going on.

TELL her you dig her. It really doesn't matter "what she feels is going on". You dig her, tell her. Don't place any expectations on her. Just TELL her you enjoy spending time with her, and no matter how awkward it seems give her a kiss before the night is over. If you don't feel comfortable kissing on the lips for some reason, kiss her forehead and NOT her cheek. It would take too long to explain why this matters, but it does.

Please trust me on this... If you ask her what she feels is going on" you're going to kill the relationship.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: z42

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well i wasn't going to update this until afterwards but i might as well now.

When i see her tomorrow im just going to see if she wants to go to the movies on Friday. Hopefully she will say "Yes". On the date, ill ask what she feels is going on between us.

-Kevin

OK, maybe I wasn't clear with my last advice. Again, this is only IMO, so take it for what it's worth. Don't have a DTR talk. Don't ask her what she feels is going on.

TELL her you dig her. It really doesn't matter "what she feels is going on". You dig her, tell her. Don't place any expectations on her. Just TELL her you enjoy spending time with her, and no matter how awkward it seems give her a kiss before the night is over. If you don't feel comfortable kissing on the lips for some reason, kiss her forehead and NOT her cheek. It would take too long to explain why this matters, but it does.

Please trust me on this... If you ask her what she feels is going on" you're going to kill the relationship.

Ok by "where she feels this is going" that entails me telling her that i enjoy spending time with her.

I am definitely not giving her a kiss. We aren't even going out! Ill give her a hug, but not a kiss. Please remember she is a Sophomore, and Prom was her first serious date. All that will do is scare her. I wont even start to think what ill do if it does work out (Thinking way too far in the future past hurdles).

-Kevin

 

[z42]

well, I tried.

GL tonight Kevin. Someday you'll understand what I was trying to say. At least 1/2 the problem is my inability to communicate my thoughts I'm sure.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: z42
well, I tried.

GL tonight Kevin. Someday you'll understand what I was trying to say. At least 1/2 the problem is my inability to communicate my thoughts I'm sure.

Im listening to your advice. But giving her a kiss is WAY too far, way too fast.

Obviously if things worked out i might go for it, but im not going to kiss someone on the lips if im not going out with them/know that they absolutely want to start dating.

Perhaps that would work with someone older, but with a Sophomore in High School who is just as new at this as i am, it is not appropriate (Although i know it would sweep her off her feet)

-Kevin

 

[Ronin]

Kevin already knows where I stand. This type of girl isn't down with the liplock like that.

He knows what he has to do...I just need to work on his presentation.