psycho jealous girlfriend rant

[resinboy]

Hi everyone:
I am 42 years old, divorced about 2 years ago, and have been dating this girl I like lot, for about 2 1/2 years now. She has 3 kids, by 2 different dads, lives in a tiny apartment, and is a raving jealous woman.
She warned me when I met her she was this way, but I had no idea she was this bad :Q
I get constantly accused of looking at other women, have been accused of cheating behind her back ( I haven't), was told she saw me driving in a white jeep with a blond ( I wasn't), etc., etc.
She realizes she has a problem, has tried seeing a counselor, and has ended up blowing so much smoke up this guys ass, he says I am addicted to porn, and should be on medication for it!!
Now, in all my years of dating, I used to play the field when I was in my teens, to middle 20's, till I decided to grow up and get serious about my relationships. I have NEVER cheated on her, but get continually accused of it. Nothing worse.
We'll be out in public, and she will wait till a decent chick will walk by, then she watches me with her laservision to see if I even GLANCE in the general direction: then I listen to the sh*t for 20 minutes.
I have explained to her that she has alot on her plate ( 3 kids), and that alot of guys wouldn't even consider dating her because of that very reason ( I had a vasectomy when I was 35 so I wouldn't have kids). Shows how dedicated I am to her.
I have a major trade show I do twice a year, called Chiller Theatre ( model kits, movie star autographs, etc.), that I am a dealer at. Next show is April.
Last 2 shows, she was a raving lunatic, to the point that I had to stare at my shoes all weekend, because any woman coming near my table would drive her nuts.
She knows I am major busy right now, gearing up for the show, trying to get taxes ready,as well as selling the building I am currently in, that has been in my family since the late 1940's.
So today, she tells me on the phone that she has too much on her plate, and needs to worry about her- still wants to be friends, and thinks I should do the show myself this time.
I rely on her help for this show- I will be hosed trying to do all the crap by myself getting ready.
So, do I bail, wait patiently, or drink heavily and toga?

Resinboy

 

[TommyVercetti]

Three words... I am Gay.


Dude bail, get out while you can. Seriuosly.

 

[Rastus]

divorced about 2 years ago, and have been dating this girl I like lot, for about 2 1/2 years now

Looks like her fears have some basis in fact.

 

[profet]

Depends on if you really like her, if you do, i guess try and work it out, seems over my head, but maybe you can handle it.
Sounds like you have alot of patients, you are faithful, and an overall good person, i think you could do better personally.

Danny

 

[amnesiac]

Originally posted by: Rastus

divorced about 2 years ago, and have been dating this girl I like lot, for about 2 1/2 years now

Looks like her fears have some basis in fact.

Good point.

 

[MrDingleDangle]

Originally posted by: amnesiac 2.0

Originally posted by: Rastus

divorced about 2 years ago, and have been dating this girl I like lot, for about 2 1/2 years now

Looks like her fears have some basis in fact.

Good point.

OWNED!

 

[resinboy]

rastus: I have been seperated from my wife for almost 3 years before we filed for divorce. She moved on WAY before I did.

EDIT:
and Jeeze, no comments about being addicted to porn?

 

[rgwalt]

Yeah, bail and drink heavily. She sounds like a total head-case.

Ryan

 

[MrDingleDangle]

TOGA, TOGA, TOGA

 

[KGB1]

Umm... wow.. umm... you need help yourself dude. Forget about her seeing a psych, you need it more than her.
Quick questions..hope its not too intrusive.
1. Do you support her? Or does she also work? (with 3 kids its kinda hard)
2. Dude.. why the hell did you get a vasectomy? I know why but... condoms were getting expensive or something?
3. You like her kids?
4. Are you in this so you can "help" her and change her life?

Or you wanna get married. I mean at the age your at man, I would look into settling down (again in your case) but, with a woman like the one you got is not the way to go. Get out now if you have doubts and don't put up with it.

 

[resinboy]

KGB:
1) we both live alone and support ourselves.
2) when life was still good with the ex wife, we both decided against kids: I have never wanted kids of my own.
3)I like her kids alot: however she has a 4 year old boy who is out of control at the moment. Half listens to her, won't go to bed at night when told, always real mouthy, that kinda crap. Looking like an aggressive 4 year old, as well.
4)not in it to help her or change her life: last thing I want to do, as I resent it when a woman tries to do that to me. Told her I would try to help her through any rough periods, but didn't think she'd turn out to be a whack job.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Buy a collar and a leash. If you stay with her you will deserve everything she does to you.

 

[Moonbeam]

Read Playboy while you do her.

 

[stebesplace]

No, what needs to be done is a mature move on your part. You have to face her head on with propositions of conduct. Either things would straiten up or you ship out. Recall you have no real ties with her or her kids. It has become your responsibility for a part time to take care of her and the kids, but in no respect a long term decision.

In the best interest of you and her, and since you are not married, you should think about finding some sort of help for her and her kids. New location perhaps, or a new house. That may be a little extream, so in other cases, you can just resolve conflicts, and move on with your life, in simple terms, or better yet, move on with your life. Do not think that 42 is by an means old. There are many paths which you can still take. I am sure that after getting out of the trauma this relationship has brought upon you, wether you realize it or not, you will be a changed man. Take control of your life and make a solid decision after your trade show.

Never good to leave a bad situation go worse.

Hope these words help,

-Stebe

 

[dabuddha]

BAIL BAIL BAIL
dude, you don't need that sh!t in your life. no one is worth this crap.

 

[wfbberzerker]

i suggest you use reverse psychology. if she asks if you were looking at a woman, say yes.


p.s. were you looking at porn or not?

 

[Ime]

Dump the b!tch already.

 

[isekii]

dang how can you put up with that ?

I'd find someone that's way much more compatible~

did you get clsoe to the children ?

if you did~ maybe you can still continue to be in touch with them~

 

[Geekbabe]

Are you clinically insane ? Bail! and post for help on the for sale/trade boards here,you'll get somebody quick to help with your show I bet.

 

[silverpig]

Dear baby,

Welcome to Dumpville. Population: You.


PS: I am gay.



Seriously, run like hell dude. She ain't gonna change and you're finally gonna be fed up 5 years from now in the same situation kicking yourself in the arse for wasting 5 years. Your problem is that you're not seeing what you're missing, mostly due to this woman.

 

[tkdkid]

I'd just say to act however you want to act. Do whatever makes you happy. If you see a nice looking girl and want to look or even have a conversation with her, then do it. If she doesn't like how you act to make yourself happy then she should just leave on her own.

 

[3L33T32003]

Life is too short to mess with crazy chicks.

 

[dirtboy]

My ex-wife was like that and I got sick of it quick. When my gf started acting that way, I told her to knock it off or I'd leave her. She got the picture when I followed through with things. Now she doesn't say anything about what I do.

I wouldn't put up with being treated like that, but that's me. And definitely don't take her to the trade show.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: silverpig
Dear baby,

Welcome to Dumpville. Population: You.


PS: I am gay.



Seriously, run like hell dude. She ain't gonna change and you're finally gonna be fed up 5 years from now in the same situation kicking yourself in the arse for wasting 5 years. Your problem is that you're not seeing what you're missing, mostly due to this woman.

Agreed. Spelling it "yu0" is optional.

- M4H

 

[resinboy]

moonbeam: LOL!!!

Porn thing: the father of the 4 year old ( her last ex) was the king of all porn IE during the first 4 months of marriage he racked up a $600 1-900 phone bill. Why you would be calling that crap when you are married is beyond me ( why call it at all). Also, ( here the real classy part), he invited the friggin strippers to the reception. She got a little bent as you can imagine. It apparentyl got worse, till she caught him doing a chick that works for him. SO, she is now the queen of paranoid.
Me, I have my folders of smut on my hard drive like any of us do: I absolutely do NOT flaunt it, I don't leave magazines sitting around, don't leave dvd's around.
She is pretty, but has the " I've had a few kids" body, and is jealous as all hell of anyone who looks better than her. We were in a mall one time, and I said something about being sick of all the people bumping in to us ( holiday season shopping), and she said she was sick of all the teeny boppers with their hooters hanging out " I used to look like that once!".
We went to a movie once, and when leaving the crowded theater, I got yelled at for looking at a blond way down in front. Didn't know where she was, never mind the fact that the theater was still dark when we were leaving. I keep telling her I will borrow my 70 year old Mom's " old lady" sunglasses ( the hideous wrap around style), and a cane to go out in public with her.