question about women

[The Batt?sai]

so i'm talking to this girl thats 19 and i'm 24. we both really like each other alot. we talk about anything. she even shares details "EXPLICIT" (sexual) of her past with her ex. i did tonight too.

i know all about the stigma of being a nice guy but would a girl even talk to u about things like that too?

the thing is she is worried about the age difference. I don't think its that bad. What do i say to her? she asked me tonight what to say about the age difference she said 'Say Something' and i was like age doesn't matter, we both like each other alot and it shouldn't matter.

please reply if you have some advice on what i should tell her. i want to assuage her fears.

she also is very into church and a relationship with God. as am I. maybe it will just take time for her to be comfortable?

 

[LcarsSystem]

Originally posted by: quasarsky
so i'm talking to this girl thats 19 and i'm 24. we both really like each other alot. we talk about anything. she even shares details "EXPLICIT" (sexual) of her past with her ex. i did tonight too.

i know all about the stigma of being a nice guy but would a girl even talk to u about things like that too?

the thing is she is worried about the age difference. I don't think its that bad. What do i say to her? she asked me tonight what to say about the age difference she said 'Say Something' and i was like age doesn't matter, we both like each other alot and it shouldn't matter.

please reply if you have some advice on what i should tell her. i want to assuage her fears.

she also is very into church and a relationship with God. as am I. maybe it will just take time for her to be comfortable?

Edit.. ok ok, uhhh its legal, nothings wong with it, its consenual, go for it.

 

[The Batt?sai]

there should be compromise but not at the point of changing someone. i'm not going to do that.

 

[StevenYoo]

i think the age difference is ok

 

[The Batt?sai]

Originally posted by: StevenYoo
i think the age difference is ok

but what do i tell her so she will be ok with it?

 

[Coolone]

would it matter if you were 44 and her 39?

no.

The older you get, the less that age differences like that mean

Now, if you were 19, and she were 14, then that would be totally something else.

 

[imported_bum]

I don't think there are any magical words that will change her mind. Just explain your thoughts, and maybe eventually she will be comfortable with it.

 

[The Batt?sai]

Originally posted by: Coolone
would it matter if you were 44 and her 39?

no.

The older you get, the less that age differences like that mean

Now, if you were 19, and she were 14, then that would be totally something else.

lmao. yea i know that lol

 

[MrColin]

Originally posted by: quasarsky

Originally posted by: StevenYoo
i think the age difference is ok

but what do i tell her so she will be ok with it?

You could cite the "half plus seven" rule as a generally accepted ethical guideline and let her do the math. You could also point out the lack of maturity and general stupidity of 19 year old boys.

EDIT: I almost failed to mention that women don't really listen to reason. You need to make her want, need, and or love you. Your best strategies for that are to make her laugh (not at your expense), having fun with her, and various bonding experiences. Also, be attractive.

 

[AmdEmAll]

I don't see why 5 years age difference matters... ask her why it matters to her.

 

[kinev]

age/2 +7
You're money.....barely.

 

[datalink7]

1/2 Age + 7.

(1/2 * 24) + 7 = 12 + 7 = 19 = You're ok!

 

[SithSolo1]

Yeah, half plus 7 but remember that the starting age must be at least 18 or it don't work.

 

[Azndude2190]

Go for it!

 

[WHAMPOM]

Originally posted by: quasarsky
so i'm talking to this girl thats 19 and i'm 24. we both really like each other alot. we talk about anything. she even shares details "EXPLICIT" (sexual) of her past with her ex. i did tonight too.

i know all about the stigma of being a nice guy but would a girl even talk to u about things like that too?

the thing is she is worried about the age difference. I don't think its that bad. What do i say to her? she asked me tonight what to say about the age difference she said 'Say Something' and i was like age doesn't matter, we both like each other alot and it shouldn't matter.

please reply if you have some advice on what i should tell her. i want to assuage her fears.

she also is very into church and a relationship with God. as am I. maybe it will just take time for her to be comfortable?

What age difference? If she was 19 and you 64, it might matter. :brokenheart: Just ask her if she ever considered being a nun.

 

[Arschloch]

Ultimately, the decision is hers. Her feelings are just that -- feelings. Most feelings aren't based on some rational thought. I don't want to say it'll be impossible to change her mind, but I'm not sure that a logical explanation of why age doesn't matter will fix whatever is bothering her.

For what it's worth, I'm currently dating someone who's four years younger than I am. We were 26 and 22 when we began dating. Age is just a number -- by itself, it doesn't mean anything. What matters is where both people are in their lives. For example, if she's already ready to settle down and start a family and you're not, then that's going to be a problem regardless of any age difference. What matters is similar values, similar interests, similar places in your lives, sense of humor and ability to have fun with each other, etc. Things like that.

 

[engineereeyore]

Hey, my sister was 25, he was in his 50's. Yes, gross, I know. But they're happy. More power to them.

Just wish he would have been rich. :disgust:

 

[astrocase]

Seems kind of odd that she'd have a problem with it. It should be you having the problem with it. I guess she's mature. Maybe her problem is that she's worried you think she's too young. Just tell her you think she's mature and it'll work out.

Then stick two in the pink and one in the stink and move on to the good stuff.

 

[shoRunner]

Originally posted by: quasarsky
so i'm talking to this girl thats 19 and i'm 24. we both really like each other alot. we talk about anything. she even shares details "EXPLICIT" (sexual) of her past with her ex. i did tonight too.
i know all about the stigma of being a nice guy but would a girl even talk to u about things like that too?

the thing is she is worried about the age difference. I don't think its that bad. What do i say to her? she asked me tonight what to say about the age difference she said 'Say Something' and i was like age doesn't matter, we both like each other alot and it shouldn't matter.

please reply if you have some advice on what i should tell her. i want to assuage her fears.

she also is very into church and a relationship with God. as am I. maybe it will just take time for her to be comfortable?

lol no hypocrisy there

 

[The Batt?sai]

Originally posted by: shoRunner

Originally posted by: quasarsky
so i'm talking to this girl thats 19 and i'm 24. we both really like each other alot. we talk about anything. she even shares details "EXPLICIT" (sexual) of her past with her ex. i did tonight too.
i know all about the stigma of being a nice guy but would a girl even talk to u about things like that too?

the thing is she is worried about the age difference. I don't think its that bad. What do i say to her? she asked me tonight what to say about the age difference she said 'Say Something' and i was like age doesn't matter, we both like each other alot and it shouldn't matter.

please reply if you have some advice on what i should tell her. i want to assuage her fears.

she also is very into church and a relationship with God. as am I. maybe it will just take time for her to be comfortable?

lol no hypocrisy there

whatever lol. very funny

 

[The Batt?sai]

Originally posted by: astrocase
Seems kind of odd that she'd have a problem with it. It should be you having the problem with it. I guess she's mature. Maybe her problem is that she's worried you think she's too young. Just tell her you think she's mature and it'll work out.

Then stick two in the pink and one in the stink and move on to the good stuff.

i'm not about stickin and go. this isn't stiffy lube

 

[her209]

DON'T DO IT!!!

Let me guess, this chick is in college and you are working full-time. If this is the case, run for the hills and don't look back. She's going to want to screw every guy she meets (college thing) and she's going resent you for it because she can't OR she'll do it behind your back and you'll find out when you find her with some dude in her bed on a suprise visit. In other words, she wants to screw, you looking to settle down.

Again... DON'T DO IT!!!

 

[The Batt?sai]

Originally posted by: her209
DON'T DO IT!!!

Let me guess, this chick is in college and you are working full-time. If this is the case, run for the hills and don't look back. She's going to want to screw every guy she meets (college thing) and she's going resent you for it because she can't OR she'll do it behind your back and you'll find out when you find her with some dude in her bed on a suprise visit. In other words, she wants to screw, you looking to settle down.

Again... DON'T DO IT!!!

sigh

i hope ur not right. but u might be

 

[Henrythewound]

Thou shalt not have sex before marriage, become a monk instead

 

[Arschloch]

Originally posted by: her209
DON'T DO IT!!!

Let me guess, this chick is in college and you are working full-time. If this is the case, run for the hills and don't look back. She's going to want to screw every guy she meets (college thing) and she's going resent you for it because she can't OR she'll do it behind your back and you'll find out when you find her with some dude in her bed on a suprise visit. In other words, she wants to screw, you looking to settle down.

Again... DON'T DO IT!!!

Of course, this relies heavily on the assumption that every girl in college is exactly the same.

I'm not saying there aren't women at college like that -- of course there are! -- but not all of them are like that. I knew a lot of them who weren't.