Well thank you all for the many suggestions and ideas. First of all I had NO idea I could actually "insulate" my car or add noise dampening. Wow, talk about not doing my research -- again... I am really sorry for not having checked that out and the funny thing is I actually added noise dampening to my bloody computer panels and that stuff, guess what... it came from a car body/audio place... duh me!!
Anyhow we went to look at the Toyota dealership close to us and we are currently checking out/scoping a slightly used (gently used ) Toyota Avalon. My wife actually likes the look of it... go figure. I compared the price of that and a Lexus 350 or whatever the cheapest one was and dang... it's quite pricier.
On a side note, rather than just going for new or newest possible like 2013+ Japanese car, I am going to take the advice of a few of you here and look into a used Mercedes and see what I can find/afford. Honestly, I never even considered as my original Audi A6 Quattro was very expensive and I swore I would never spend/invest that much again into a car. But I have seen some used Mercedes and that might be a consideration. Audi's are so popular here, probably because of their 4 wheel drive... A4's are untouchable as everyone wants one. Heck I saw a few used Audi A6's going for LESS than A4's. Seems everyone wants the smaller one. Might actually start looking at used A6, at least I would be familiar with the type of car and style of driving.
Lastly -- American cars! Wow, OK I had added the Ford Fusion, thinking... hey it's pretty much a Mazda 6, how much can they screw that one up. I have never ever considered Buick in my life but I REALLY like the style but like I said, just left that aside but some of you have suggested that so I will also go look at that.
Man when you start thinking of trying everything out there, and doing TOO much research, I swear my head begins to spin and then my wife blasts me for not committing to ONE thing.
Once again, thank you all.