Quitting my job Tuesday!

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Gibson486

Lifer
Aug 9, 2000
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Yeah, you're a great one to give advice.

OP should suck it up and find something else full-time and then quit.



No one has espoused this view more than me here.

Nah, if he hated it, there would have been no point. If you really hated IT, could you go back to an EE job? The longer he stays at that job, the worse it will get because he will hate it more and he will dig himself in a hole because the harder it will be to transition into a different field. That is the great thing about being young, you can take those risks.

Trust me on this, I know. I worked in the Civil field as an EE for three years. I hated it, but I decided to stay because I needed a full time job. I tried to get a job in another field. It never worked out. I even was willing to accept less pay or even a tech job as an EE. It still never worked out. Also, it's the same thing at every company in that industry. So, if the OP hated it there, he would most likely hate it no matter what company he worked for in that industry.
 

Imp

Lifer
Feb 8, 2000
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Yeah, you're a great one to give advice.

OP should suck it up and find something else full-time and then quit.

No one has espoused this view more than me here.

You are right in every rational sense, no sarcasm. I'm giving up a solid and reliable paycheck, and moving down to an unsecure, lower paying job - the potential is there though.

Unfortunately, people are stupid and let emotions dictate decisions. Turns out that I'm one of them, and I have tried time and again to make things work (well over a year). My performance has been superb up until Friday, but after that incident, my motivation is gone and the longer I stay, the more bridges that I'll burn. I've kept a fake smile and pleasant tone when dealing with people for the entire time - that's just not going to happen anymore.

But going back a bit, I do think there's potential and a huge learning experience at the start-up. I'll give it half a year to a year, then whore myself out if nothing happens. Or, I change my mind and whore myself out starting Tuesday evening.


Nah, if he hated it, there would have been no point. If you really hated IT, could you go back to an EE job? The longer he stays at that job, the worse it will get because he will hate it more and he will dig himself in a hole because the harder it will be to transition into a different field. That is the great thing about being young, you can take those risks.

Trust me on this, I know. I worked in the Civil field as an EE for three years. I hated it, but I decided to stay because I needed a full time job. I tried to get a job in another field. It never worked out. I even was willing to accept less pay or even a tech job as an EE. It still never worked out. Also, it's the same thing at every company in that industry. So, if the OP hated it there, he would most likely hate it no matter what company he worked for in that industry.

I don't specifically hate civil, I'm questioning whether I want to spend more time in this field - I do HATE the transportation sub-field though. Not only that, I'm not even working as an engineer: I'm a tech. A tech is the butt-boy of the office. He/she is not as respected and loved as administrative assistants, yet get all the shit jobs including secretarial work and the truly shitty jobs in the field. I've done photocopying, collating (read: photocopy, sorting, binding thousands of pages at a time), waded though and been dunked in ditches filled with muddy water and pesticides (adjacent to farm + golf course), Word editing / typing, scanning hundreds of pages individually on the screen, data entry, etc. I'm trying to get licensed as an engineer, how the fuck do I twist that into "technical experience" (I found a way)? The worst part is admin assistants get more training, more funding, respect, paid about the same, never have to leave the office.

P.S. I'm mid twenties.

Edit: Oh, and I should add that the PT job owner actually approached me to work full-time since I've been his only "employee" for the past 3 years. He's waiting on financing, and I proposed the PT thing to get out of where I am now faster. So, still unsecure, but not as terrible as it may look (OMFG, go from FT to PT).
 
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JonathanYoung

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Congratulations on choosing happiness. There's nothing worse than doing something you don't want to do, especially when you have a choice. Good luck to you.
 

PowerEngineer

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Ya, I am living with mommy and daddy. It gives me the chance to save money, and having money means freedom to leave any job I feel like, and I will never have to suck dick or bend over for anyone.

Made some poor decisions in your life, dude? Why you mad bro?

Edit: Oh, and FYI, I meant I have enough saved to live on my own for years. That or I save a bit more, buy a house... who knows?

Oh, this hurts me!

There is a point buried somewhere underneath BoyBooby's hostile rhetoric.

It seems that the OP is able to quit his full-time job with only a part-time replacement because he has been and plans to continue living in his parent's home. If the OP was fully supporting himself (and paying rent or making mortgage payments), then perhaps he wouldn't feel quite so free to "leave any job I feel like".

I hope that OP's parents are well enough off that they can afford what the OP's "freedom" is costing them without compromising their retirement needs.
 

IndyColtsFan

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Sep 22, 2007
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Sure, you live to work and it shows in how miserable you are.

One of the most miserable on the board.

How's that working out for ya

You're by far the most miserable person on this board. I bet I work fewer hours than you and make more money -- who is miserable again?
 

Imp

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Oh, this hurts me!

There is a point buried somewhere underneath BoyBooby's hostile rhetoric.

It seems that the OP is able to quit his full-time job with only a part-time replacement because he has been and plans to continue living in his parent's home. If the OP was fully supporting himself (and paying rent or making mortgage payments), then perhaps he wouldn't feel quite so free to "leave any job I feel like".

I hope that OP's parents are well enough off that they can afford what the OP's "freedom" is costing them without compromising their retirement needs.

Way to take that out of context... I said save money now, but meant that I would continue living a frugal life to continue having money to allow that freedom.

I'm sorry that I'm not living by your personal/cultural standards. And I'm going to rent/buy an overpriced condo (only affordable thing in my city) just to show ATOT that I'm a big boy. I'm going to go cut myself now...

Edit: And to be clear, I know I'm a loser living at home, and not gloating about it. But I'll take what I can get, just like people who are born rich - they still have more money than most of us.
 
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PowerEngineer

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Way to take that out of context... I said save money now, but meant that I would continue living a frugal life to continue having money to allow that freedom.

I'm sorry that I'm not living by your personal/cultural standards. And I'm going to rent/buy an overpriced condo (only affordable thing in my city) just to show ATOT that I'm a big boy. I'm going to go cut myself now...

Edit: And to be clear, I know I'm a loser living at home, and not gloating about it. But I'll take what I can get, just like people who are born rich - they still have more money than most of us.

If I've taken something out of context, then please clarify the context.

As far as I can tell, you do understand that the savings that you have built up over the last few years is at least partially due to the room and board that your parents provide (assuming you aren't paying rent). And it doesn't seem that you're taking issue with what I said about how this affects your current thinking about your job options.

In that sense, your parents are providing you with a luxury that not everyone has. That's fine as long as they can afford it. My point is that others less fortunate than you do not have the option to quit a job they don't like.

It isn't necessarily noble to quit a bad job; it may be more noble to keep working that job to support oneself and one's family if that's what it takes.

Happy you have the luxury!
 

Imp

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If I've taken something out of context, then please clarify the context.

As far as I can tell, you do understand that the savings that you have built up over the last few years is at least partially due to the room and board that your parents provide (assuming you aren't paying rent). And it doesn't seem that you're taking issue with what I said about how this affects your current thinking about your job options.

In that sense, your parents are providing you with a luxury that not everyone has. That's fine as long as they can afford it. My point is that others less fortunate than you do not have the option to quit a job they don't like.

It isn't necessarily noble to quit a bad job; it may be more noble to keep working that job to support oneself and one's family if that's what it takes.

Happy you have the luxury!

I explained what I meant in the first paragraph of my reply to you.

And no, it's not "partially attributed to my parents", it's mostly. But I am stupidly frugal at the same time, so that does still factor in. They paid for my undergrad too, and I am grateful.

The response I gave to the troll was a jab at why he would be so mad. You managed to explain his point rather well and without being a prick.

And I didn't make this thread to brag about how I get to quit my job and how noble it is - I made it to vent about the shit I've put up with for 2 years and I'm relieved it's over. No, not everyone can do this and that's too bad, good on them, but that's not my problem and I don't owe them shit...
 

gar3555

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if you are miserable, get out. I was at my previous job(was there for 7 years). I worked my ass off, made good money, but that isn't everything. I loved what I was doing, but I was digging my own grave at that job. I was constantly traveling, only seeing my family every couple of weeks. I finally got out, found a great position, where I still get to do the same thing, no traveling, and I haven't worked a weekend since I started, and the kicker is I'm making more money.

So I say, get out, don't let it kill ya!
 

Vdubchaos

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I disagree, if he is miserable there then quality of life trumps.
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If you allow your job to effect your LIFE...sure.

To me that's a rule of thumb, leave your job AT your job....don't bring it home.

Welcome to real life OP. Get used to it, it will not change. You will trade some things for others...but in the end there is no perfection and you will find aholes EVERYWHERE.

Trading full time job for part time at a start up > not the smartest/brightest idea.

You will be more pissed when your pay check doesn't show up (trust me)

Remember, don't let ANYTHING job related effect you. It took me MANY years to learn this and it caused all kinds of unnecessary drama/stress on me and my family. It's very unhealthy.

It was ALL my fault for letting that that happen.

PS. You will never EVER find a "perfect" job. Nothing is perfect.
 

momeNt

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You're another mommy and daddy enabling. Why would anyone be jealous of either of you?

You both haven't had sex aside from paying it for it directly or she's fugly.

Waaaaahhhhh. Somebody needs some time on the therapist couch, tell us how you really feel.
 

momeNt

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The 92% (those who work) will be there for you should you decide to get on welfare. We love to work for the 8%.
 

AznAnarchy99

Lifer
Dec 6, 2004
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If you allow your job to effect your LIFE...sure.

To me that's a rule of thumb, leave your job AT your job....don't bring it home.

Welcome to real life OP. Get used to it, it will not change. You will trade some things for others...but in the end there is no perfection and you will find aholes EVERYWHERE.

Trading full time job for part time at a start up > not the smartest/brightest idea.

You will be more pissed when your pay check doesn't show up (trust me)

Remember, don't let ANYTHING job related effect you. It took me MANY years to learn this and it caused all kinds of unnecessary drama/stress on me and my family. It's very unhealthy.

It was ALL my fault for letting that that happen.

PS. You will never EVER find a "perfect" job. Nothing is perfect.

In the US, for the majority of people, your job is your life. Shitty situation but true. We dont have two hour lunch/nap breaks like how people do in Spain during the middle of the day just to get away from work. 9-5 til you die unless you're a millionaire.
 

lupi

Lifer
Apr 8, 2001
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So you're pissed at your current job because you accepted a position of a lower discipline and people are treating you like every other person in that position?
 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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Wait wait wait!

Don't give them an ear full, don't tell them why you're quitting, don't burn your bridges.

Why in the hell would you willing do that?

You NEVER know how this is some weird way might come around to bite you in the ass.

Think, be smart, not vengeful.

If you've had enough and are willing to take the gamble on the part time start up, so be it, but do not burn your bridges with the current place for a short lived feeling of satisfaction.
 
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