I can't sing for shite, but when my wife Jessie died at age 42 from complications from cancer surgery,
this is the song I got up in front of more than 200 friends and family and sang at her service.
I dont know what happens when people die
Cant seem to grasp it as hard as I try
Its like a song I can hear playing right in my ear
That I cant sing
I cant help listening
And I cant help feeling stupid standing round
Crying as they ease you down
cause I know that youd rather we were dancing
Dancing our sorrow away
(right on dancing)
No matter what fate chooses to play
(theres nothing you can do about it anyway)
Just do the steps that youve been shown
By everyone youve ever known
Until the dance becomes your very own
No matter how close to yours
Anothers steps have grown
In the end there is one dance youll do alone
When people die young it leaves a huge, hurting wound of a hole in the hearts of those they leave behind. But that hole heals over time as life, like a river, flows inexorably on.
Comfort the rest of your family as best you can, and let yourself be comforted by them in return.
Cry when you need to. Those tears will help you heal.
And know, at least, that whatever pain your brother couldn't bear in this life is now lifted from him.
Finally, there will come a time when you will need to forgive your brother, Mikey. Just do it.