[RANT] : Are you envious of those who have it better off than you?

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Deleted member 139972
I guess I'm going to blow off some steam here I've had my whole life.

Basically here is my sob story.. I've grown up in a good household and I'm proud to say I have the best parents I could hope to have. Through time passing events such as a tragic accidents with both of parents have left them both disabled mentally and physically respectively. I've been a hard worker, holding a steady job since I was 12, and slowly working myself up to the position I have now.

Needless to say I've never really had much handed to me. I'm currently working to put myself through school, paying rent, bills, food etc. My parents are helping me as much as they can with financing school, but a large chunk of my tuition will be left to pay. Since I'm a white-boy in Ohio, not too many scholarships really apply to me. I currently bust my ass around 20 hours a week plus at work and taking 18 credit hours of school. So, basically I really work hard for everything I've ever had.

When you watch shows like Laguna Beach, MTV Cribs, or see people in your life who have things so easy, it really gets to me. Here these people are taking things that I cherish like mom sending you home with food because you can't buy groceries. Or someone getting a brand new car and taking everything they have for granted. Have anyone of you ever had the same feelings as me, or is my strong feelings about this jaded?

a) whats a Deleted member 139972?

b) dont try to keep up w/the Jone's. you will always feel inferior if you do that since it is VERY unlikely that most people will be able to live the lifestyle of mtv Cribs and all the bling-bling.

imstead just be greatful for what u have and think about this less fortunate that you. (ie: those that have to decide on food OR heat for the winter)

 

[Schadenfroh]

Yes, everyone is, if it were not for the drive to be better than everyone else, capitalism would not work and we would all be good little serfs right now.

 

[TheShiz]

i've become more and more disillusioned with the "quest for crap" that dominates our culture. I just got a new job and I'm glad I did because where I was working all I would ever hear from coworkers was what was on TV last night, how much the lottery is up to, or what crap they have on lay-a-way at wal mart. These people I worked with didn't have much money obviously. But it seemed like they were always talking about worthless crap! they always turn on the radio too, so I'm thinking they are bombarded with Ads most of their waking life.

I'm sick of drugs I "need", cars I "need", stupid products I "need" its the mantra most americans hear daily, if we get more crap we will be happy. I suggest anyone reading this that shares the "obtain more crap = happiness" view to avoid all marketing for a month and take an objective look at our ridiculous, greedy, celebrity envying culture.

 

[TheShiz]

and also, you have it great compared to starving people in africa, or people HAPPILY working in china for the equivalent of 50 cents an hour. once you have food, shelter, and friends everything else really is just fluff. there is nothing wrong with working hard for what you have, but working a lot harder just so you can drive a new SUV instead of a used car seems stupid to me.

 

[Wallydraigle]

I don't necessarily consider people with a lot of money as better off than me.

 

[desy]

I don't let people buy me Xmas gifts anymore.
I suggest they make a charitable donation in my name and tell me about the charity they have chosen.
Cause they pleasure is in the giving and you should see how people light up about a cause they are passionate about

 

[badmouse]

I'd like to be all nice and generous like others here, but hell, I'm envious too. After the divorce and my son's health problems I'm scraping the bottom of the barrel, and I don't like it.

I wish I could say that money doesn't matter, but it does. The only thing that matters more is my kid's health, which he doesn't have either. I basically hate everybody who doesn't live on the edge.

There. That's honest at least.

Happy Thanksgiving.

 

[CrazyDe1]

No, it gives me something to strive for and achieve. Sure I was handed a lot. I got out of college debt free, my parents paid for 7.00 worth of gas a day while I commuted and worked for free to get a job. My dad handled my ebay shipping for free so taht I could concentrate on work.

However, without someone above me I'd be satisfied and you never want to be satisfied as you lose your edge.

 

[PunDogg]

yeah a little, but those shows and those people are not going to change, and plus they might have STUFF, u know cars, and stupid stuff, but having a good family, and an actual relationship with your parents is a huge thing that most of those kids don;t have besides getting gifts, and as they say, its the thought that counts

Dogg

 

[stant093]

i get more out of life by not having it handed to me, even if im not better off. im 25, not in ANY debt, self employed and have paid cash for everything i own, the only thing i do not have is a house, but big deal. i like where i am at.

 

[Rudee]

I'm not envious, but I hate people who take advantage of those who are successful. For example. My next door neighbor was a single mom with bills up to her ears. She met a successful businessman, married him, and divorced him in under 2 years. As a result of the divorce, he ended up giving her a considerable amount of money and possessions. She now walks around all high and mighty, spending money she didn't earn.

 

[Vic]

No, I feel sorry for them. For one thing, as a banker, I frequently see the credit reports and financial documentation of these people who appear to have so much but actually are just buried in debt. I have no desire to ever live beyond my means.
But even if the people are in fact fabulously wealthy, my only envy of them is that they might have enough where they could stop working and retire early and/or devote their time more to the pursuits and philanthropies of their choice. But those ostentatious rich don't do that, they simply surround themselves in possessions they don't need except to show off their fortune and rub it in the face of those less fortunate, and that to me represents a rather serious mental imbalance. So I still feel sorry for them.

 

[Deleted member 139972]

A. It's a nickname given by a friend of mine. They called be Gabos (my real name is Gabe) and GAB is my initials..

B. I don't want to really "keep up". I guess a lot of my frustration is that most people don't really respect what they have and how good they really have it. It just bothers me sometimes..

HAPPY THANKSGIVING! I'm thankful for family and AnAndtech's Awesome users!

 

[Deleted member 139972]

We should just become amish. LOL

 

[Deleted member 139972]

I agree entirely. Somtimes we are forced to think about money. I guess people that don't have it think about it the most. People who have it wonder why people worry about money so much. That's the trend I'm seeing.

 

[Cattlegod]

the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side man.

you can be happy anywhere in life at any place, but you can be miserable no matter how rich you are.

 

[Deleted member 139972]

Good point

 

[Deleted member 139972]

I wish everyone a HAPPY THANKSGIVING and hope that everyone is safe!

 

[whoiswes]

didn't read the whole thread, but what irks me is not that people have money - it's that people have money and don't appreciate a single cent of it.

kids that have a new car and new clothes and don't work but still bitch when they don't get something irk me. the kids that have the same stuff but are very polite and down to earth don't piss me off.

i think it all comes down to appreciation - if you don't appreciate what you have (no matter how little or how much) then i hate you. if you do appreciate it, we'll get along fine.

one last thing - something else that pisses me off is people who DON'T have anything and bitch constantly about it, even though they're too damn lazy to get off welfare and make things better for themselves...ugh.

/rant