***RANT*** My Girlfriend is IRKING! ***let the thread die***

[mztykal]

So here goes. I drop her off at work today, she tells me she finishes at 9 so be there at like 9:05. So I'm like yah, ok. So comes around 8:45, so I leave my house to drive the 20 minutes to her working place. I get there, I walk by where she is, she's busy. So I walk around a little more, I see she's not busy, so I smile and wave at her, she looks at me like "what the fvck" and turns the other way. I see her co-worker, this stock-boy walking towards her, she smiles and waves at him, TOTALLY IGNORING ME, her BOYFRIEND. She then proceeds to chat with him for like 10 minutes totally ignoring me. She's not busy at all and just chatting. She could've at least smiled at me instead of him or something. But no, she doesn't. Then she calls me from her register at like 9:05, and tells me she finishes at 10:00. I'm like WTF?!? And she goes wait for her. I'm like it's a fvcking hour till then. So I wait, and wait, and wait. Finally she comes out. No apology or nothing for making me wait. Then we're at my house, we eat, blah, blah, blah. I drop her home, she's like blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, oh now you're gonna acknowledge me? And she's like you were busy. I was like I wasn't doing anything. I came there to pick you up, I smile and wave at you and you snob me. She's like it's not my fault. I was busy. And I'm like you were busy?!? I saw you talking with your co-worker (a fvcking stock boy) about if you work tomorrow and what you're doing. She's like yah, but don't be mad. Don't act like this. She keeps telling me that, like its my fault I'm mad. Then she gets all mad when she doesn't get her way. She throws her stuff on the ground and walks away. I'm like b*tch. I pick up her stuff, throw it in my car and leave. And here I am now, wondering if I was justified for being mad. I know what I did was right. I'm just wondering on your opinions. :|



-Sean

 

[hzl eyed grl]

I know I would have been mad.

 

[mztykal]

She keeps telling me, don't act like this. I didn't know. And I'm like all I wanted was a fvcking smile or something. She's like oh, but yah. What the stock-boy was more interesting than your b/f? WTF?!!? :|

 

[Croton]

dude u have to regulate and make sure she knows what she did wrong!

 

[MC]

dude....that's your girlfriend....bear with her...

 

[mztykal]

I did! I told her what she did. And she was like I wouldn't like it. So I'm like, WTF, if you wouldn't like why'd you do it to me? And she's like "i dunno". I got pissed and just drove off. I'm soooooo not feeling her right now. :|

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Communication is very important. Let her know why you're mad. It hurt your feelings and made you feel less significant than her co-worker. If she doesn't care after you tell her....then I would really think about the relationship. You both need to care about each other and the other's feelings. (This, coming from someone with no "significant other" at the moment. lol)

 

[mztykal]

MingChia - You can say that now. But how would YOU feel, if you were in my position? That's what I thought. :|

 

[mztykal]

hzl_eyed_grl - I told her how I feel. And her response was "i dunno". What kind of fvcking answer is that? Thats just WRONG! :|

 

[hzl eyed grl]

So maybe you should call her and talk to her about this. We don't/can't know the whole situation. Only you two can. Are you willing to work through this? Does she always ignore how you feel?

 

[mztykal]

hzl_eyed_grl - Talk to her? You must be joking. Thats the last thing I want to do right now. I know I'm stubborn. But she's being like a total bitch right now and I don't give a fvck. :|

 

[kru]

is this an isolated incident or does this happen on a regular basis? if she treats you like dirt and you do nothing about the situation (either by communicating how you feel to her or by altering the circumstances), then you only have yourself to blame. if you feel you communicate your feelings clearly and honestly to her and she neither acknowledges how you feel nor apologizes/makes some attempt to resolve the issues, then maybe this isn't a relationship you should continue to pursue.

3 things make a successful relationship: trust, mutual respect and communication (the love thing kinda goes without saying). if you're lacking any one of the three, that's a relationship that's on shaky ground. if you're not happy with the way things are going, then either do something about it or remove yourself from the situation altogether.

 

[mztykal]

kru - When there aren't problems things couldn't be better. I mean I love her and all, it's just those times she does things she knows irritates me then uses her excuse "oh, i didn't know!" And she expects it to work everytime. But this time that just didn't cut it. There's like only so much sh*t I'll put up with before I just snap. And she doesn't get it. I tell her how I feel, and make sure she gets it. Yet she doesn't GET IT! I'm still pissed right now. She's online in my buddy list but I just signed off. Cus I'm stubborn and I think I'm right for being mad.

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Thanks everyone for your help and comments. If you want to be kept up do date (which I know you don't) and I don't update the thread, just PM me and I'll fill you in.

 

[DannyLove]

MZTYKAL!!!!!!!! your kidding me, she's been acting up! she's lucky i'm here in CAL or I would have gone to Hawaii to give her a piece of my mind. Dude you have EVERY RIGHT to be pissed. I have been in similar, (not exact) situations before when the girl has done something stupidly wrong and doesnt wish to acknowledge it. This is where anger builds up and I get furious because she doesnt get it. I understand your pissed and like i said you have all the reasons to be.

solution: Wait it off. whatever you do, don't call her.! If you call her, than this might tell her that it was your fault or something. (if she still hasnt gotten the hint that she was the one out of line here). If worse comes to worse, say about 2-3 days without a phone call or anything, than you should take the initiative and explain everything to her, in detailed, and most importantly, NOT PISSED voiced. again, llike hazel eye girl said, you know the situation better than us, but that anger has to come down and die before you talk to her, because then that anger will turn to hatred and then she'll be the one reversing the whole situation about your attitute and then she'll get the upper hand. trust me, when this is all over, you'll be blessed with the best makeup sex of your life, then you'll be able to re-post here

talk later dude

 

[mztykal]

DannyLove - Make-up sex is the last thing on my mind. I don't really need it right now. And I won't apoligize. I wasn't wrong. She admits that what I said was true and she wouldn't like it. I typed down EXACTLY what I said. I told her how I felt, I said I didn't like it and all I got was a "i dunno". So I'm like fvck it. You wanna be a b*tch go ahead. Damn, life is soooooo fun.

 

[kru]

mztykal, something you said struck a chord with me. the last girl i was dating told me once that in our relationship, when things were going well, she couldn't be happier, but when we were hitting our lows, it was just horrible. you mentioned that she does things that irritate you, and she KNOWS they irritate you. i think it's time you guys sat down and had a serious talk about where your relationship is going. because if you guys are serious about going for the long term thing, then there has to be a little more respect between you two.

she can't plead ignorance if you've told her how you felt time and again. if she chooses to say/do those things that she knows irritate the hell outta you, then she has to make the decision to try and make an effort to change. if she's not willing to do that...well, that's the point where you guys need to discuss if your relationship is something that is worth preserving.

 

[Mday]

you have a right to be angry.

no one ever has a right to be a total jerk... except me ;-)

 

[mztykal]

LOL @ Mday!

You're right! No one can be a buttass but you!

 

[Magikal]

Did you yell at her? I always get the "I dont know" answer if I yell. I have to be very calm and ask in a very kind manner to get any answer other than "I dont know". Just try and call her and just calmly let her know how it made you feel and ask her not to do it again. If it continues a few more times than you can yell.

If you did ask calmly and she still gives you the "I dont know" than simply let her know how you feel and then change the subject. And dont get mad.

 

[joohang]

mztykal,

If I were you:
- I wouldn't stand there for one hour. I would probably go to the arcade, have a nice 1 hour Power Play at Playdium, then maybe show up at 10:15pm or so.
- Heck.. I wouldn't even give her rides to and back from work like you. Her majesty got too spoiled from your services.
- I would beat the crap out of him -->
- Or him --> :|
- Then meet her tomorrow as if nothing had happened.

 

[kami]

I agree...give it some time so she knows what she did wrong. That's totally unacceptable. :|

 

[Emulex]

you need to show her who is boss, bend her over and make her sore

that way she'll walk funny for a week and remember whos the daddy!

 

[cxim]

ever hear of the term PW, as in pussywhipped ?

you now know what it is, first hand .....

 

[Double Trouble]

Of course it depends on the relationship and all, but I'd simply ignore her from now until the day she apologizes (and means it).... and if that means ditching her, then so be it, the relationship wasn't going anywhere anyway.

LOL @ Emulex

 

[Elledan]

Be careful: if you want to keep this relationship alive, you must not get angry, for anger is so much stronger than love. Once you start hating her, it'll be too late.

I second tagej: totally ignore her until she apologizes. That's what she deserves.