RANT: What would you do.

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: MrsBugi

Originally posted by: JS80
You can thank feminists for the bad sex and dirty home.

Val is a mega feminist..
yet she loves sex and I do mean LOVES.... and the house is always immaculate and she cooks sometimes too =) so your post sucks!

 

[Aquila76]

My wife does the same thing, but she's partially disabled due to severe medical conditions. Unless your wife has a failed kidney, fibromyalgia, cardiovascular disease, neurogenic bladder, and severe urinary tract disease, she's just a lazy biotch. My wife has ALL the above, but we still get out at least once a week and have sex at least 10 times a month. Oh, and she does shopping/cleaning/cooking/doctors/etc. during the day while I'm at work - unasked - so we can spend time together when I get home.

 

[j00fek]

#1 talk

#2 kill

#3 profit

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Stumps

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Well .... we are 30 and 26. I'm 30. We have sex probably 6 times a month. WAY bleow average. And the sex sucks.

I have a 16 month old kid. he is awesome.

I think about divorce, probably 2-3 times a week.

I am fed up and am at the point where I'd rather be at work than at home.

My wife just knows how to piss me off sometimes, even though she doesn't always intend it.

To clarify. my wife is a stay at home mom. I bust my ass and the place is a damned pig sty among other BS errands she claims she needs to do when I am home. Tonight ... Friday night. She wanted to go fvcking grocery shopping. I can not stand it when she attempts sh!t like this. She has all day to shop and when I get home ... she decides she thinks it's time to go shopping. And yes, I ahve told her this pisses me off.

THoughts ...

you cry baby, at least your missus does the grocery shopping...In the last few months mine has refused to do anything at all.....claiming "I'm pregnant I can't do that stuff anymore" and yet she is only 11 weeks pregnant.

you think you got it hard...come and live my life and you will know what true misery is

QFT... so many EMOs out there that don't take any personal responsiblity for anything they do.

 

[Svnla]

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
.... We have sex probably 6 times a month. WAY bleow average. And the sex sucks. ..

Whaaaa, you are married and you have sex 6 times a month? That's a little over 1 per week. I am single and I have more actions than you and I am not a player for sure.

From reading the replies from other members, guess I will stay single and keep my "friends with benefits" for now.

Whatever you do, I wish you the best.

 

[Patt]

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
marriage seems awesome.

I cant wait.

Hey now ... it is just the nasty comments/situations some people are in that you hear about. It is like a broken computer at work ... when they're working fine no one thanks you or tells you how wonderful everything is, but when it is broken ... look out

Give it a chance, some of us are pretty happy

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong

Originally posted by: kmrivers
Ok douchebag. This guy, obviously does not love his wife. Otherwise instead of whining about getting laid, he would be trying to fix his marriage.

Also, When did i link wanting to have sex with your wife, the woman you "love", with treating women like objects? Oh yeah, I didn't. You took that honor from me. Thank you wise master.

For the record. I am not married.

AHAHAHA! "I am not married". Now it all makes sense; you have no fvcking idea what you are talking about. :laugh:

I apologize If I said anything offensive to you in this thread or the other one, I thought you were married and just weren't being realistic. Every guy (and probably girl too) has this rosy view of what it will be like, and much of the time it is like that, which is exactly what makes it worth it during the bad times.

Speaking only for myself, the more I love someone, the more I want to have sex with them, and I'm not ashamed of that (in fact I think its natural). Anyway, hold on to those romantic ideals, you'll need them later.

So of course, you know more then me because you are married. Save your advice, you are the last person I will be taking it from. Thanks anyway.

Hey dumbass...yes, he knows more than you...it's called the voice of experience. Maybe once you graduate HS and start moving towards real life you'll understand what he's saying.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Svnla

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
.... We have sex probably 6 times a month. WAY bleow average. And the sex sucks. ..

Whaaaa, you are married and you have sex 6 times a month? That's a little over 1 per week. I am single and I have more actions than you and I am not a player for sure.

Yeah but he's talking about having sex with a woman.

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Svnla

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
.... We have sex probably 6 times a month. WAY bleow average. And the sex sucks. ..

Whaaaa, you are married and you have sex 6 times a month? That's a little over 1 per week. I am single and I have more actions than you and I am not a player for sure.

Yeah but he's talking about having sex with a woman.

 

[NaOH]

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong

Originally posted by: kmrivers

Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong

Originally posted by: kmrivers
Why did you get married in the first place? Why is sex the only thing that matters? If you bugs you that much got to a sex therapist.

You are saying this is not an ideal situation, "its fvcking life". Then deal with it you pussy. You knocked her up, you married her and you have to work. Boo fvcking hoo.

If it is that bad then fix it. Get off the damn internet and have a talk. Not about sex. Get some counseling.

If you don't want to do that, then get a divorce. Either way get off your ass and do something. Posting your pathetic rant about how much your life sucks even though you are the dipshit that made it that way is not going to get you anywhere.

By the way.. marriage doesnt suck. You suck at marriage because you are too considered with your dick. Jump of a cliff and die.

You must either be completely "modernized" (ie, feminized and pussy-whipped) or not know any married women beside your wife (who, fortunately for you, sounds like one of the easier ones to live with). But don't act like its not a COMMON fvcking fact that ALOT of women act one way before they get married (sex all the time, having a job, etc.) to make the man think it'll be great to be married, and then change their tune as soon as the deal is sealed; first the sex dries up, then the money gets spent on frivolous bvllsh*t, and so on.

And "you are too considered with your dick"? You sound just like some women I know, trying to make their husband feel guilty for wanting to have sex with his wife on a regular basis, instead of just cheating on her like 75% of other men. One of the main reasons for most men to marry the woman they love is to have regular sex with her, and why is that so wrong? She liked it BEFORE marriage, so why not AFTER? Because it was a fvcking act, that's why.

Now I'm not implying that some men don't do the same thing (like hide the fact that they're heavy drinkers or something before the marriage), but if you've never heard this story before, you've been living in a bubble. Go ask a marriage counselor if I'm full of sh*t, and I promise you'll be surprised.

Of course I have heard this many times before. Take your useless assumptions somewhere else.

The fact it appears as an act is the problem. Have a damn partnership. Not a lets-fvck-all-the-time-ship. Obviously they have never had communication because if they did. This would not be happening. Even so...

So what if she doesn't want to have sex. Get a fvcking hobby. Go do something. Go out and do things together. Have a relationship that doesnt revolve around sex and complaining about one another.

You should feel guilty for wanting to have sex all the time. Obviously they aren't very responsible with sex, because from the sounds of it they didn't want to have a kid. Sex is great, but at some point your 24/7 need for it should go away. Sex is not the end all be all. If it is don't get married.

Cheating because of sex. Again, if sex is the only thing your wife can offer you and you need to go cheat to get it. You should not be married. NO excuse.

I am in no way shape or form, pussy whipped. Feminized, sure, i dont think women should be treated like objects. So yeah I guess so.

Get a hobby? Listen to yourself. You're already a neutered housecat with a broken spirit. Someone's done quite a job on you if you honestly believe that wanting to have sex with your wife, the woman you love, is "treating women like objects", or is wrong in any way.

Congratulations, you're a true woman of the 21st century.

Ok douchebag. This guy, obviously does not love his wife. Otherwise instead of whining about getting laid, he would be trying to fix his marriage.

Also, When did i link wanting to have sex with your wife, the woman you "love", with treating women like objects? Oh yeah, I didn't. You took that honor from me. Thank you wise master.

For the record. I am not married.

You truly don't understand.

 

[flexy]

So what if she doesn't want to have sex. Get a fvcking hobby. Go do something. Go out and do things together. Have a relationship that doesnt revolve around sex and complaining about one another.

You should feel guilty for wanting to have sex all the time. Obviously they aren't very responsible with sex, because from the sounds of it they didn't want to have a kid. Sex is great, but at some point your 24/7 need for it should go away. Sex is not the end all be all. If it is don't get married.

Oh man, what a load of *%$!@ - sorry.

I dont know what PRIORITIES his sex-life has in his marriage, MAYBE he overemphasises a bit and is a BIT immature.

NEVERTHELESS - i dont agree with you at all, because NOONE should feel *guilty* because of a higher sex-drive.

OBVIOUSLY....this causes him problems because he wants and his wife deosnt, in addition sex life sucks....so....you don't see a problem there ?

Nice advice "get a hobby".

BTW. i am in a relationship now where the GIRL had a 3 year relationship and *she* got SERIOUS issues because her boyfriend made HER feel guilty for wanting sex.

Just for your information - yes i agree sex is NOT everything in a relationship, AT ALL, but it might play a role and good sex-life is defintly benefitial.

Your "advice" is to make him feel guilty because he is unsatisfied with his sex-life - problem only, your "advice" wouldnt do ANYTHING than make him feel more miserable. He's on the best way to go down to...hmm..maybe twice every 6 months or so....roflmao...and then please dont act surprised why so many people cheat on each other.

 

[EKKC]

Originally posted by: Stumps

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Well .... we are 30 and 26. I'm 30. We have sex probably 6 times a month. WAY bleow average. And the sex sucks.

I have a 16 month old kid. he is awesome.

I think about divorce, probably 2-3 times a week.

I am fed up and am at the point where I'd rather be at work than at home.

My wife just knows how to piss me off sometimes, even though she doesn't always intend it.

To clarify. my wife is a stay at home mom. I bust my ass and the place is a damned pig sty among other BS errands she claims she needs to do when I am home. Tonight ... Friday night. She wanted to go fvcking grocery shopping. I can not stand it when she attempts sh!t like this. She has all day to shop and when I get home ... she decides she thinks it's time to go shopping. And yes, I ahve told her this pisses me off.

THoughts ...

you cry baby, at least your missus does the grocery shopping...In the last few months mine has refused to do anything at all.....claiming "I'm pregnant I can't do that stuff anymore" and yet she is only 11 weeks pregnant.

you think you got it hard...come and live my life and you will know what true misery is

wow 6 times a month is below average? i only have like... 3? lol
and on average ATOT'ers probably less

 

[blahblah99]

Lemme guess, you got suckered into marrying her because she USED to be the girl of your dreams, correct?

Before marriage, she would maintain her looks - always looking hot hot hot, and would bend over backwards to please you. She would be worried about putting on some weight. She would give you sex on demand. She would do anything to secure a marriage, and ultimately, hook you for life by having a kid.

But after you signed on the dotted line and popped out a kid, she turned 180 and now makes your life miserable. She knows that you are going to be stuck with her unless you are willing to give up 50% of your assets, pay child support, and alimony, hence that attitude.


You married her assuming that life would be as good as it was when you first met her. When she violates the agreement, it's time to GET OUT.

All the girls I date are in their mid to late 20s and are ALWAYS trying to secure their future by working towards a marriage. Hell, the minute they move in they are already settling down by giving up less sex, and cutting their hair short, and putting on some pounds, and not looking as hot, and trying to control my life.

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: blahblah99
Lemme guess, you got suckered into marrying her because she USED to be the girl of your dreams, correct?

Before marriage, she would maintain her looks - always looking hot hot hot, and would bend over backwards to please you. She would be worried about putting on some weight. She would give you sex on demand. She would do anything to secure a marriage, and ultimately, hook you for life by having a kid.

But after you signed on the dotted line and popped out a kid, she turned 180 and now makes your life miserable. She knows that you are going to be stuck with her unless you are willing to give up 50% of your assets, pay child support, and alimony, hence that attitude.


You married her assuming that life would be as good as it was when you first met her. When she violates the agreement, it's time to GET OUT.

All the girls I date are in their mid to late 20s and are ALWAYS trying to secure their future by working towards a marriage. Hell, the minute they move in they are already settling down by giving up less sex, and cutting their hair short, and putting on some pounds, and not looking as hot, and trying to control my life.

QFT!!!!

 

[MaxDSP]

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004

Originally posted by: Brazen
Every wife sucks. Deal with it. I find yelling at mine, mixed in with some tongue-down-below action later, does wonders.

Remember the original post. THE SEX SUCKS. We have discussed this. She hates sex even though she won't admit it.

are you guys indian?

 

[ultravox]

How long have you been married ?

Give up already ..it's hopeless.

She hates sex even though she won't admit it.

she hates sex ?? Maybe she just hates it with you because you suck ...I'll bet she'd love it with someone else ......who cared maybe.

Go ahead give up ...........help keep the statistics of divorce rates at 50%.
It will be much better next marriage ...if not ... the one after that.
The bitch deserves it ...

(see where I'm going with this ?)

I don't know you from a hole in the wall but it seems you've picked your handle accordingly ....what else is wrong in your world ?

 

[ultravox]

And I've watched the kid. It's not that hard.

"
That is priceless ....so you "babysat your kid and lived to tell ?

 

[sandmanwake]

What's that old saying? Women marry men hoping they will change...men marry women hoping they won't?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: ultravox

And I've watched the kid. It's not that hard.

"
That is priceless ....so you "babysat your kid and lived to tell ?

Ah yes, that little gem caught my attention as well.

 

[bluestrobe]

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004

I work 8 hours a day.
I drive 1 hours a day to/from work

I cut the grass
I shovel snow off our driveway.
I built the damned deck.
I landscap.
I remodeled the ****** bathroom.
I added a god damned bathroom in the basement (cutting holes in cement)
All I do is bust my ass for her.
She has to make sure the kid doesn't trip. Ohh boyyy.

I have as much right to complain about being tired as she does.

And I've watched the kid. It's not that hard.

Being reminded that you hold a higher opinion of yourself than her and reminding her of that probably daily would turn ANY woman off. It seems you still have some growing up to do. "Baby sitting isn't that hard". Doing it for one day might be easy, but anytime you do anything for one day it?s usually easy, new, or fun. Go talk to a marriage consoler and see what their opinion is. Talking to you might be different than complaining on an internet forum. They might tell you that you are whiney and comparing you to your wife constantly probably doesn?t do much for your marrige.

 

[db]

The things you hate about other people are the things you hate about yourself, but haven't realised it yet. Fix yourself and you will see other people differently.

 

[DeadByDawn]

In my experience you wife needs to get a job and you need to send the kid to daycare. When you get home she doesn't appreciate how hard you worked that day, and you don't appreciate what she had to do to take care of the kid. If you are both working then it levels the playing field. My wife and I had problems when our first kid was born. They all went away when she got a job. She actually gets more done around the house in the evenings and weekends than when she stayed home all day. Strange, but true.

 

[Svnla]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Svnla

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
.... We have sex probably 6 times a month. WAY bleow average. And the sex sucks. ..

Whaaaa, you are married and you have sex 6 times a month? That's a little over 1 per week. I am single and I have more actions than you and I am not a player for sure.

Yeah but he's talking about having sex with a woman.

Yeah, I am talking about with a woman. Funny not found. Keep your day job and go pick on someone else.

 

[ultravox]

In my experience you wife needs to get a job and you need to send the kid to daycare

Whoever said that you shouldn't ask maritial questions at an on-line forum obviously underestimated the sensitivety of ATOT members.

She actually gets more done around the house in the evenings and weekends than when she stayed home all day. Strange, but true.

DbD .....I'll bet you don't even say anything if she wants to sit down for an hour after supper before she starts with the dishes and cleaning.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004

Originally posted by: EatSpam
She's burnt out from dealing with a toddler all day. She gets a break when you are home.

I work 8 hours a day.
I drive 1 hours a day to/from work

I cut the grass
I shovel snow off our driveway.
I built the damned deck.
I landscap.
I remodeled the ****** bathroom.
I added a god damned bathroom in the basement (cutting holes in cement)
All I do is bust my ass for her.
She has to make sure the kid doesn't trip. Ohh boyyy.

I have as much right to complain about being tired as she does.

And I've watched the kid. It's not that hard.

From the posting you've done here, I'm confident in saying that YOU are about 90% of the problem.
So quit bitching about it here and go get some counseling. It's pretty obvious that you certainly aren't smart enough to figure this out on your own.