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Originally posted by: flexy
So what if she doesn't want to have sex. Get a fvcking hobby. Go do something. Go out and do things together. Have a relationship that doesnt revolve around sex and complaining about one another.
You should feel guilty for wanting to have sex all the time. Obviously they aren't very responsible with sex, because from the sounds of it they didn't want to have a kid. Sex is great, but at some point your 24/7 need for it should go away. Sex is not the end all be all. If it is don't get married.
Oh man, what a load of *%$!@ - sorry.
I dont know what PRIORITIES his sex-life has in his marriage, MAYBE he overemphasises a bit and is a BIT immature.
NEVERTHELESS - i dont agree with you at all, because NOONE should feel *guilty* because of a higher sex-drive.
OBVIOUSLY....this causes him problems because he wants and his wife deosnt, in addition sex life sucks....so....you don't see a problem there ?
Nice advice "get a hobby".
BTW. i am in a relationship now where the GIRL had a 3 year relationship and *she* got SERIOUS issues because her boyfriend made HER feel guilty for wanting sex.
Just for your information - yes i agree sex is NOT everything in a relationship, AT ALL, but it might play a role and good sex-life is defintly benefitial.
Your "advice" is to make him feel guilty because he is unsatisfied with his sex-life - problem only, your "advice" wouldnt do ANYTHING than make him feel more miserable. He's on the best way to go down to...hmm..maybe twice every 6 months or so....roflmao...and then please dont act surprised why so many people cheat on each other.
Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Originally posted by: EatSpam
She's burnt out from dealing with a toddler all day. She gets a break when you are home.
I work 8 hours a day.
I drive 1 hours a day to/from work
I cut the grass
I shovel snow off our driveway.
I built the damned deck.
I landscap.
I remodeled the ****** bathroom.
I added a god damned bathroom in the basement (cutting holes in cement)
All I do is bust my ass for her.
She has to make sure the kid doesn't trip. Ohh boyyy.
I have as much right to complain about being tired as she does.
And I've watched the kid. It's not that hard.
Well .... we are 30 and 26. I'm 30. We have sex probably 6 times a month. WAY bleow average. And the sex sucks. She could care to discuss "spicing things up"
I have a 16 month old kid. he is awesome.
I think about divorce, probably 2-3 times a week.
My wife just knows how to piss me off sometimes, even though she doesn't always intend it.
To clarify. my wife is a stay at home mom. I bust my ass and the place is a damned pig sty among other BS errands she claims she needs to do when I am home. Tonight ... Friday night. She wanted to go fvcking grocery shopping. I can not stand it when she attempts sh!t like this. She has all day to shop and when I get home ... she decides she thinks it's time to go shopping. And yes, I have told her that all of this BS pisses me off.
I am fed up and am at the point where I'd rather be at work than at home.
Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Originally posted by: Brazen
Every wife sucks. Deal with it. I find yelling at mine, mixed in with some tongue-down-below action later, does wonders.
Remember the original post. THE SEX SUCKS. We have discussed this. She hates sex even though she won't admit it.
Originally posted by: Aharami
Originally posted by: bctbct
Believe me I know how you feel. Reminds me of a saying
Why do men die before they're wives?
because they want to.
"why do men lie before they are wives?"
that makes no fvuking sense
Originally posted by: Svnla
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Yeah but he's talking about having sex with a woman.Originally posted by: Svnla
Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
.... We have sex probably 6 times a month. WAY bleow average. And the sex sucks. ..
Whaaaa, you are married and you have sex 6 times a month? That's a little over 1 per week. I am single and I have more actions than you and I am not a player for sure.
Yeah, I am talking about with a woman. Funny not found. Keep your day job and go pick on someone else.
Originally posted by: Pacfanweb
Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Originally posted by: EatSpam
She's burnt out from dealing with a toddler all day. She gets a break when you are home.
I work 8 hours a day.
I drive 1 hours a day to/from work
I cut the grass
I shovel snow off our driveway.
I built the damned deck.
I landscap.
I remodeled the ****** bathroom.
I added a god damned bathroom in the basement (cutting holes in cement)
All I do is bust my ass for her.
She has to make sure the kid doesn't trip. Ohh boyyy.
I have as much right to complain about being tired as she does.
And I've watched the kid. It's not that hard.
From the posting you've done here, I'm confident in saying that YOU are about 90% of the problem.
So quit bitching about it here and go get some counseling. It's pretty obvious that you certainly aren't smart enough to figure this out on your own.
Seriously. None of this could possibly be your fault, so you shouldn't have to expend the slightest bit of effort to make it better.Originally posted by: moshquerade
you've pretty much made up your mind. get a divorce. it will solve all your problems. : /Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
You have to find a way to work things out, for the kid's sake.
That's called idealistic BS.
This isn't a movie. It's fvcking life.
Originally posted by: phantom309
Seriously. None of this could possibly be your fault, so you shouldn't have to expend the slightest bit of effort to make it better.Originally posted by: moshquerade
you've pretty much made up your mind. get a divorce. it will solve all your problems. : /Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
You have to find a way to work things out, for the kid's sake.
That's called idealistic BS.
This isn't a movie. It's fvcking life.
Originally posted by: Xanis
Um, sounds like your marriage is gone to hell. To be honest, unless you can get some serious counseling, you're pretty much screwed.
Originally posted by: Brazen
Every wife sucks. Deal with it. I find yelling at mine, mixed in with some tongue-down-below action later, does wonders.
Originally posted by: phantom309
Seriously. None of this could possibly be your fault, so you shouldn't have to expend the slightest bit of effort to make it better.Originally posted by: moshquerade
you've pretty much made up your mind. get a divorce. it will solve all your problems. : /Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
You have to find a way to work things out, for the kid's sake.
That's called idealistic BS.
This isn't a movie. It's fvcking life.
And I've watched the kid. It's not that hard.
Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
it sounds like you have a lot of hate, and no real problems
Resident pussy-whipped liberal beta male reporting....Originally posted by: DAGTA
Well, this thread is full of femanized men.
So, let's get this straight....
In the USA the woman gets:
the wedding day she wants
the overpriced rock on her finger she wants
the house she wants
the kid she wants
and doesn't have to work a job
while the man gets:
to pay for all of the above by busting his ass 8 to 12 hours a day
a messy house to come home to
his 'turn' to watch the kid in the evening because she did it all day (so then why isn't it her turn to work 8 to 12 hours at a job at night?)
a wife that doesn't want to be intimate with him
nagging.
Welcome to modern day marriage and the reason the number of men willing to get married has been declining for over a decade in the USA.
www.nomarriage.com
Best wishes to you. I hope you can make things work better... but I think you have an uphill battle on that.
Originally posted by: phantom309
Resident pussy-whipped liberal beta male reporting....
When I got married my wife got:
A modest, small wedding everyone enjoyed
A husband who's strong, healthy, smart and makes good money
A promise of a lifetime of fidelity, companionship and love
A man who keeps his promises
A fiercely devoted father for our little girl
I got:
A brilliant, beautiful woman to share my life with
An interesting, fun, sexy companion who stays in shape and makes good money
A house full of love I can't wait to go home to
A promise of a lifetime of fidelity, companionship and love
A woman who keeps her promises
A fiercely devoted mother to our little girl
We have our problems like everyone else, and we work to solve them. When we can't solve them, we get over it because our family is more important than our individual needs. I spend time with our daughter every day after work because children need to spend time with their fathers - even if Dad is tired, even if Mom isn't. It's not a chore to me. Usually it's fun. I suppose I should do the MANLY MAN ALPHA MALE thing - abandon my family and run away when life gets the least bit difficult. But I was raised in a time when real men didn't take their promises so lightly.
I don't worry about who gets the better "deal" because I knew what I was getting into before I signed up, and I'm not backing out of it, ever.
If there's anything the last 30 years should have taught us, it's that children need their fathers. Feminists don't like that idea because they think women shouldn't need men for anything. And now I keep seeing this breed of self-conciously cartoon-macho-men who think a man who's devoted to his family is "feminized". When I was growing up, being a good husband, father, provider and protector were the only standards a man was measured by.Originally posted by: gwrober
Originally posted by: phantom309
Resident pussy-whipped liberal beta male reporting....
When I got married my wife got:
A modest, small wedding everyone enjoyed
A husband who's strong, healthy, smart and makes good money
A promise of a lifetime of fidelity, companionship and love
A man who keeps his promises
A fiercely devoted father for our little girl
I got:
A brilliant, beautiful woman to share my life with
An interesting, fun, sexy companion who stays in shape and makes good money
A house full of love I can't wait to go home to
A promise of a lifetime of fidelity, companionship and love
A woman who keeps her promises
A fiercely devoted mother to our little girl
We have our problems like everyone else, and we work to solve them. When we can't solve them, we get over it because our family is more important than our individual needs. I spend time with our daughter every day after work because children need to spend time with their fathers - even if Dad is tired, even if Mom isn't. It's not a chore to me. Usually it's fun. I suppose I should do the MANLY MAN ALPHA MALE thing - abandon my family and run away when life gets the least bit difficult. But I was raised in a time when real men didn't take their promises so lightly.
I don't worry about who gets the better "deal" because I knew what I was getting into before I signed up, and I'm not backing out of it, ever.
:thumbsup:
Awesome. I forgot to mention, that my 5 yr old rides with me 45 min each way to work and back (her daycare is on the way). We usually listen to Disney or whatever floats her boat. Sometimes it's just the radio. Mostly we TALK. I talk to my wife who knows how many times when I'm not at home.
And even now, as our business is at that point where everything is just difficult (too many orders, not enough time, etc etc)....we still make time to eat breakfast together (even if we're just in the same room) and every day we eat dinner together. It might be a 10-15 minute dinner, but we all make it a point to put effort into the family.