Rant: Women WANT to be asked out!

[Linux23]

Let me rephrase this topic.


GIRLS want to be asked out....WOMEN does the asking out.

 

[everyusernameistaken]

Originally posted by: Deeko

Well just that its not the *norm* for girls to ask guys out. I'm sure if it was more *normal* for girls to ask guys out and the guys to not askt he girls out then the guys would hardly bother?

Just how the girls have grown up.

Back to the prom queen I suppose if shes that keen she will do it? But girls don't want to be branded as TOO forward as she'll be scared she'll get a *reputation* for a bad thing. Sad but true, not right though as guys do it all the time.....

Well, in this case, the norm is retarded. And as for the whole 'reputation' thing, that's stupid too, if a guy sleeps with 20 girls, people respect him, if a girl does, she is a dirty slut. Why?

It is because for a guy to have slept with 20 people he has to be "good". But for a girl to have sex with 20 people all they have to do is go up to just about any guy and say "hey wanna fvck?". Most guys will say hell yeah but if a guy asked a girl that most girls would be disgusted or at the very least say no. So because it's a lot easier for girls to get some than guys that double standard developed. At least that's my take on the whole thing....

 

[Deeko]

It is because for a guy to have slept with 20 people he has to be "good". But for a girl to have sex with 20 people all they have to do is go up to just about any guy and say "hey wanna fvck?". Most guys will say hell yeah but if a guy asked a girl that most girls would be disgusted or at the very least say no. So because it's a lot easier for girls to get some than guys that double standard developed. At least that's my take on the whole thing....

There again is the stupid double standard/expecting women to be the hard to get ones.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: everyusernameistaken

Originally posted by: Deeko

Well just that its not the *norm* for girls to ask guys out. I'm sure if it was more *normal* for girls to ask guys out and the guys to not askt he girls out then the guys would hardly bother?

Just how the girls have grown up.

Back to the prom queen I suppose if shes that keen she will do it? But girls don't want to be branded as TOO forward as she'll be scared she'll get a *reputation* for a bad thing. Sad but true, not right though as guys do it all the time.....

Well, in this case, the norm is retarded. And as for the whole 'reputation' thing, that's stupid too, if a guy sleeps with 20 girls, people respect him, if a girl does, she is a dirty slut. Why?

It is because for a guy to have slept with 20 people he has to be "good". But for a girl to have sex with 20 people all they have to do is go up to just about any guy and say "hey wanna fvck?". Most guys will say hell yeah but if a guy asked a girl that most girls would be disgusted or at the very least say no. So because it's a lot easier for girls to get some than guys that double standard developed. At least that's my take on the whole thing....

Chicken or the egg? How do you know that the reason girls would be disgusted isn't because of the norm?

 

[EvilYoda]

I agree that most men are too ignorant or stupid to ask the woman out, but at the same time, I wholeheartedly believe that in modern day society, a woman's "role" is different than it used to be, and so are relationships as a whole. Women shouldn't expect to always be treated a certain way, but have this fairytale notion of the guy always asking the girl. I'll be the first to admit I'm a romantic, I'd love to have lived in a time where you had to woo a woman and charm her and write her and all, but seriously...I have one friend, who just gets along with guys really well, but never has the nerve to ask one of them out. I see absolutely nothing wrong with a woman being forward in that regard...

Or is it all a big ruse to convince myself "it's not my fault" for not having been with a girl 2 some months after my breakup with my ex. Hmmmm. jp

 

[Gulzakar]

mmmeh

Woman are the root of all evil.

 

[LongCoolMother]

ever since grasshopper got *engaged* he has been relentlessly been posting an array of these type of posts.

not a bad thing, hopper, not at all.

 

[tcsenter]

You might think you're a dork or lame or whatever, but that's ok, that is just not an issue most of the time (hey, lots of us are dorks too). We're looking for funny, romantic, kind, inteligent, sweet guys who will treat us with respect and consideration.

Well that counts me out, cuz I'm just looking for sex.

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: Grasshopper27
Sigh, why is it that the guys take so long to learn?

They stand around like goofy staring at their shoes, they don't understand that a woman is waiting to be asked out. We're not going to just walk up and ask you out (well some will, but not all).

You might think you're a dork or lame or whatever, but that's ok, that is just not an issue most of the time (hey, lots of us are dorks too). We're looking for funny, romantic, kind, inteligent, sweet guys who will treat us with respect and consideration. It doesn't really matter if you're rich or poor, hot or not quite so hot... It also doesn't matter if we're hot, we don't compare that sort of thing (the non-shallow ones don't anyway).

Lesson #1: If you talk to a woman that you're interested in, go ahead and ask her out. She might say yes, she might say no, but she'll be flattered that you asked her. Ask enough women and a few will say yes, then you've got yourself a date for Saturday night!

Lesson #2: Be yourself no matter what. We can spot fake from across the room, we're experts at it. Odds are the honesty that shows through when you're just being yourself will make you that much more attractive.

So go out into the world and seek out a woman, they are waiting for you!

Thumper

This is a rant from Thumper. She spent half an hour with me telling me how stupid men sometimes are... One of her friends was trying to get this guy to ask her out, she spent all New Year's Eve trying to tell him, "hey, I want to be asked out, ask me out, please!" but since many women won't come out and say that, she didn't get asked out cause he was an idiot.

Want to know why that guy didn't ask her out? He thought she was FUGLY!!! j/k

Ok the TEN real reasons guys are sick and tired of asking:

1.) No appreciation for the guys asking the girl out. Sure the girls may be flattered but they usually show this appreciation in the form of a scowl or a "i'm better than thou" glare.
2.) Girls complain about guys thinking the girl's flirting with him. They say "ARGH! Can't I wear this short mini-skirt when it's freezing outside without a guy asking me out?!" Well yeah...there's so much of that going on you think Mr. Right is gonna ask you OUT now? Hell now...he's believe you don't like him.
3.) Sexual Harassment suits. Yup...it's gone overboard. You ask a girl out in the workplace...BAM...that's right, you're now sexually harassing her.
4.) Girls say they're "looking for funny, romantic, kind, inteligent, sweet guys who will treat us with respect and consideration," then they go out with a creepy, neanderthal who's neither kind nor sweet with an iq that makes George Dubbya look like einstein.
5.) We have to pay to play. "It doesn't really matter if you're rich or poor" is a common misconception. It DOES matter. Valentine's Day, Birthday, Anniversary, Christmas, Monthly, Bi-Monthly, Tri-Monthly....you get the picture...it adds up.
6.) If we show interest, girls love to play Hard to get.
7.) "It also doesn't matter if we're hot" uhh...yeah it does. Don't tell me a guy has the same chances with Cindy Crawford as he does with Big Bertha.
8.) "You might think you're a dork or lame or whatever, but that's ok, that is just not an issue most of the time" Uh...yeah it does. ATOT evidence. (yeah...how many of the geeks get laid around here on a regular basis)
9.) Girls claim they want to be "friends" first...then you get stuck in the "friend zone".

...and finally...

10.) We're not going to just walk up and ask you out. Why NOT?

Take that Thumper! (on a side note:...i really do like Thumper the character on disney though...)

-Ed

 

[Krakerjak]

Originally posted by: LongCoolMother
ever since grasshopper got *engaged* he has been relentlessly been posting an array of these type of posts.

not a bad thing, hopper, not at all.

OK im confused. The first post leads me to believe that grasshopper is a woman.

Then i read this post, which says otherwise!?!?!!?

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: Krakerjak

Originally posted by: LongCoolMother
ever since grasshopper got *engaged* he has been relentlessly been posting an array of these type of posts.

not a bad thing, hopper, not at all.

OK im confused. The first post leads me to believe that grasshopper is a woman.

Then i read this post, which says otherwise!?!?!!?

Ok...despite him acting like one 90% of the time...Grasshopper's a guy Thumper = Grasshopper's main b!otch

-Ed

 

[tcsenter]

Grasshopper is one of them neuters, asexual, genderless thingies.

 

[jackpot]

Originally posted by: BruinEd03

Originally posted by: Grasshopper27
Sigh, why is it that the guys take so long to learn?

They stand around like goofy staring at their shoes, they don't understand that a woman is waiting to be asked out. We're not going to just walk up and ask you out (well some will, but not all).

You might think you're a dork or lame or whatever, but that's ok, that is just not an issue most of the time (hey, lots of us are dorks too). We're looking for funny, romantic, kind, inteligent, sweet guys who will treat us with respect and consideration. It doesn't really matter if you're rich or poor, hot or not quite so hot... It also doesn't matter if we're hot, we don't compare that sort of thing (the non-shallow ones don't anyway).

Lesson #1: If you talk to a woman that you're interested in, go ahead and ask her out. She might say yes, she might say no, but she'll be flattered that you asked her. Ask enough women and a few will say yes, then you've got yourself a date for Saturday night!

Lesson #2: Be yourself no matter what. We can spot fake from across the room, we're experts at it. Odds are the honesty that shows through when you're just being yourself will make you that much more attractive.

So go out into the world and seek out a woman, they are waiting for you!

Thumper

This is a rant from Thumper. She spent half an hour with me telling me how stupid men sometimes are... One of her friends was trying to get this guy to ask her out, she spent all New Year's Eve trying to tell him, "hey, I want to be asked out, ask me out, please!" but since many women won't come out and say that, she didn't get asked out cause he was an idiot.

Want to know why that guy didn't ask her out? He thought she was FUGLY!!! j/k

Ok the TEN real reasons guys are sick and tired of asking:

1.) No appreciation for the guys asking the girl out. Sure the girls may be flattered but they usually show this appreciation in the form of a scowl or a "i'm better than thou" glare.
2.) Girls complain about guys thinking the girl's flirting with him. They say "ARGH! Can't I wear this short mini-skirt when it's freezing outside without a guy asking me out?!" Well yeah...there's so much of that going on you think Mr. Right is gonna ask you OUT now? Hell now...he's believe you don't like him.
3.) Sexual Harassment suits. Yup...it's gone overboard. You ask a girl out in the workplace...BAM...that's right, you're now sexually harassing her.
4.) Girls say they're "looking for funny, romantic, kind, inteligent, sweet guys who will treat us with respect and consideration," then they go out with a creepy, neanderthal who's neither kind nor sweet with an iq that makes George Dubbya look like einstein.
5.) We have to pay to play. "It doesn't really matter if you're rich or poor" is a common misconception. It DOES matter. Valentine's Day, Birthday, Anniversary, Christmas, Monthly, Bi-Monthly, Tri-Monthly....you get the picture...it adds up.
6.) If we show interest, girls love to play Hard to get.
7.) "It also doesn't matter if we're hot" uhh...yeah it does. Don't tell me a guy has the same chances with Cindy Crawford as he does with Big Bertha.
8.) "You might think you're a dork or lame or whatever, but that's ok, that is just not an issue most of the time" Uh...yeah it does. ATOT evidence. (yeah...how many of the geeks get laid around here on a regular basis)
9.) Girls claim they want to be "friends" first...then you get stuck in the "friend zone".

...and finally...

10.) We're not going to just walk up and ask you out. Why NOT?

Take that Thumper! (on a side note:...i really do like Thumper the character on disney though...)

-Ed

Damn, that's a grim outlook, but sadly, most of it IS true. I know almost all the play I've ever gotten was because of my looks. I know that "friend" is the deadliest weapon in a woman's vocabulary, but think about it. If a girl below your standards comes on to you, are you gonna tell her she's ugly and not good enough for you, OR are you gonna tell her "let's be friends"? Girls are just trying to soften the blow a little, but regardless, it's a huge rejection.

The vast majority of people try to come on to people above their standards and are, therefore, less likely to obtain them. Maybe it's just my limited experience on earth (19 years), but I think if a girl isn't physically attracted to you within the first hour of meeting you, it is VERY hard to advance the relationship. The problem is guys have trouble reading the signs of a girl. I usually know if a girl is into me or not, and I act accordingly. But there's always a few girls you're instantly crazy for, and then you ignore the signs, get rejected, and then come on a message forum and whine about it. It happens.

Girls won't ask you out usually, but they will show you if they're interested, or they should. Flirting, eye contact, body movement, breathing patterns, facial expressions. The more a girl wants you, the more obvious these signs will become over time. But all women have their breaking point, and then it's too late.

 

[Lola]

yes we do wanna be asked out, yes we do wanna cuddled and talked to EVEN EVEN when we are in one of our p!ssy moods. Yes, we want you to remember dumb holidays like valentines day, even if its with a homemade card.
And the most important thing: Girls are attracted to different guys, so every guy has a chance with a *hot* girl. Its all in the eye of the beholder as they say. There is someone out there for EVERYONE!!! They will come when you are not looking for them!

 

[jackpot]

Originally posted by: ActPrincess
They will come when you are not looking for them!

Sounds like some kind of creepy 80's horror line!

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: jackpot

Originally posted by: ActPrincess
They will come when you are not looking for them!

Sounds like some kind of creepy 80's horror line!

Maybe, but it is true! LOve will find you (gosh that is so freaking corney!!! )

 

[MaxDepth]

Dude,
You are sooooooo p-whipped for posting something from your girlfriend.
You wouldn't be Alan Alda or Phil Donahue, wouldcha?

Chicks dig me because I don't wear any underwear. But when I do, it's something pretty special.
-Bill Murray, Stripes

 

[jjones]

1.) No appreciation for the guys asking the girl out. Sure the girls may be flattered but they usually show this appreciation in the form of a scowl or a "i'm better than thou" glare.

Who cares? Move on to the next one.



2.) Girls complain about guys thinking the girl's flirting with him. They say "ARGH! Can't I wear this short mini-skirt when it's freezing outside without a guy asking me out?!" Well yeah...there's so much of that going on you think Mr. Right is gonna ask you OUT now? Hell now...he's believe you don't like him.

Hey, she was fair game. Oh, well, move on.



3.) Sexual Harassment suits. Yup...it's gone overboard. You ask a girl out in the workplace...BAM...that's right, you're now sexually harassing her.

Don't ask her at work unless you're sure sex is the outcome.



4.) Girls say they're "looking for funny, romantic, kind, inteligent, sweet guys who will treat us with respect and consideration," then they go out with a creepy, neanderthal who's neither kind nor sweet with an iq that makes George Dubbya look like einstein.

You haven't convinced her, try again.



5.) We have to pay to play. "It doesn't really matter if you're rich or poor" is a common misconception. It DOES matter. Valentine's Day, Birthday, Anniversary, Christmas, Monthly, Bi-Monthly, Tri-Monthly....you get the picture...it adds up.

Baffle her with bullsh!t and avoid special occasions.



6.) If we show interest, girls love to play Hard to get.

Show enough interest to ask her out. That's it. No play, then move on.



7.) "It also doesn't matter if we're hot" uhh...yeah it does. Don't tell me a guy has the same chances with Cindy Crawford as he does with Big Bertha.

You'll never know unless you ask her out.



8.) "You might think you're a dork or lame or whatever, but that's ok, that is just not an issue most of the time" Uh...yeah it does. ATOT evidence. (yeah...how many of the geeks get laid around here on a regular basis)

That's because they think they are dorks (probably true) but that's besides the point. Even dorks get laid that ask enough girls out.



9.) Girls claim they want to be "friends" first...then you get stuck in the "friend zone".

Simple: Move on.




...and finally...

10.) We're not going to just walk up and ask you out. Why NOT?

Because that's your job. If you would just take the initiative instead of avoiding it for fear of hearing a "no", then you'll find that some of those "no's" you hear in your head surprisingly turn into "yes's" in reality. The opportunities are there for those who aren't afraid of taking a little (very little in these cases) risk. Or would you rather spare yourself 30 seconds of possible embarrassment in order to assure yourself of another lonely night?

 

[Silverbullet28]

Originally posted by: glenn1

One of her friends was trying to get this guy to ask her out, she spent all New Year's Eve trying to tell him, "hey, I want to be asked out, ask me out, please!" but since many women won't come out and say that, she didn't get asked out cause he was an idiot.

Or alternatively, he might not have cared to ask her out. But i guess that possibility never occurred to Thumper's friend.

If the girl talked to him throwing hints left and right all night, I would have to agree and say there was a reason he didn't ask her out.

 

[radioouman]

I have to agree with the original post here.... (Good job Thumper, although I know you'll never read this!)

I convinced a girl (friend of mine) to ask out another guy. They were classmates. That was in the fall of 2000. Now they are engaged. (oops, what the heck was I thinking?.... oh well)

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: BruinEd03

Originally posted by: Krakerjak
OK im confused. The first post leads me to believe that grasshopper is a woman.
Then i read this post, which says otherwise!?!?!!?

Ok...despite him acting like one 90% of the time...Grasshopper's a guy Thumper = Grasshopper's main b!otch
-Ed

LOL!!!

Gee, thanks Ed...

Grasshopper

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: tcsenter
Grasshopper is one of them neuters, asexual, genderless thingies.

ROTFL! *eh*

 

[Staples]

Well if I ask anyone out, it is not going to be to eat. I am a messy eater and I sure don't want that to be their first impression.

 

[jackpot]

Originally posted by: Staples
Well if I ask anyone out, it is not going to be to eat. I am a messy eater and I sure don't want that to be my first impression.

::thinks of the Beauty and the Beast scene::

 

[BruinEd03]

Originally posted by: jackpot

Originally posted by: Staples
Well if I ask anyone out, it is not going to be to eat. I am a messy eater and I sure don't want that to be my first impression.

::thinks of the Beauty and the Beast scene::

well...at least the beast got the beauty. But then again

1.) He had to save her from a pack of wolves
2.) He owned a mansion
3.) He was a jackass neanderthal
4.) He had magical teapots

-Ed