Probably not the right forum, but I was interested in what some of your opinions are.
I have recently started getting serious with a girl I know. We have been friends for a while and we communicate very well. For some reason though, our conversations always skirted around religion. I knew she was very religious (Christianity in this case), but she is one of those people who do not feel it is there place to try to win other people over to their religion. Since I am pretty much agnostic, I don't ever bring the subject up.
She had never asked me what my religion was because I am for the most part a pretty decent guy and I grew up in a somewhat religious atmosphere.
Regardless, she is really in love with me, but we ran into a stumbling block. She finally asked me what I really felt about God. I went on to tell her that at this point of my life, it wasn't my central focus and that I did not believe in any particular god. I told her that when I was growing up I had always told what I was supposed to believe and somewhere in highschool I decided that I wasn't going to believe something I didn't have a personal conviction for.
Anyway, when she heard that, she kind of got silent and started to tear up a bit. She then went on to tell me that she didn't know if she could go out with someone who didn't share her core beliefs. She is really torn right now because she really loves me, but she doesn't want this to be a problem down the road.
It is kind of ironic that this should occur. My mom has always gotten on me when I didn't date girls who were Christians, but now that I am, the girl doesn't know if she can date me.
Anyway, I would love to hear others experiences with similar situations. Do you people think it is wise to continue in a relationship like this. This is the first time I have been in one where it was an issue.
Thanks
(sorry for the length)
I have recently started getting serious with a girl I know. We have been friends for a while and we communicate very well. For some reason though, our conversations always skirted around religion. I knew she was very religious (Christianity in this case), but she is one of those people who do not feel it is there place to try to win other people over to their religion. Since I am pretty much agnostic, I don't ever bring the subject up.
She had never asked me what my religion was because I am for the most part a pretty decent guy and I grew up in a somewhat religious atmosphere.
Regardless, she is really in love with me, but we ran into a stumbling block. She finally asked me what I really felt about God. I went on to tell her that at this point of my life, it wasn't my central focus and that I did not believe in any particular god. I told her that when I was growing up I had always told what I was supposed to believe and somewhere in highschool I decided that I wasn't going to believe something I didn't have a personal conviction for.
Anyway, when she heard that, she kind of got silent and started to tear up a bit. She then went on to tell me that she didn't know if she could go out with someone who didn't share her core beliefs. She is really torn right now because she really loves me, but she doesn't want this to be a problem down the road.
It is kind of ironic that this should occur. My mom has always gotten on me when I didn't date girls who were Christians, but now that I am, the girl doesn't know if she can date me.
Anyway, I would love to hear others experiences with similar situations. Do you people think it is wise to continue in a relationship like this. This is the first time I have been in one where it was an issue.
Thanks
(sorry for the length)