<< in the West it's always been about wives submitting to their husbands, husbands being the head of the house, blah blah. >>
The scripture in question is from Colossians 3:
<< 18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. >>
and Ephesians 5:
<< 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. >>
Normally people focus on Paul's advice for women and call him a sexist pig. If you read the whole passage, Paul tells wives to submit to husbands, but then turns around and tells husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ died for the church. In Paul's model for marriage, the husband is the leader of the house who should love and protect his wife to the point of death. In response, the wife submits to the will of the husband. If the husband does his job properly, the wife should have no problem following his lead. In formal dancing, one person leads and the other follows. Done properly, a beautiful, synchronized dance results.
Many men don't want to take an active leadership role in their family. They'd rather sit on the couch or computer and let their wives run the show. Let's ask the women around here: would you rather have an active, loving husband who took the initiative in your family even if it means he has the ultimate say in things? (And don't forget the many methods women have to get their way.)