Sending a wrong message to black women? How about they grow the hell up and stop worrying about what someone else does with their life?
I'm black, my wife is white. We've been together for nearly ten years (dated 5 years, engaged for a year, married for three and a half years). We have a wonderful baby boy who is turning 8 months old tomorrow, and we are generally happy with life. I love her family, she loves my family -- we all get along.
I honestly don't give a flying **** about pissing off black women. It's not my job to appease them. The only thing that matters to me is my happiness and the happiness of my family.
I fell in love with my wife because of her whit, her personality, her smile, her love of children, among other things. Her being white had absolutely nothing to do with it. People need to get beyond this race thing, SERIOUSLY!
And once again, I never said I have a problem with that. However, acting like interracial dating isn't a hot topic in the black community is being dishonest. That is all I was saying. My sister's boyfriend is white and you don't know how awkward that makes things when we get around family that aren't as opened minded.
We went to dinner once and one of our cousins started making comments about how their children would have "good hair".
All I am saying is that I understand the sentiment. I never said I felt that way. Black women in particular seem to feel put off by the fact their all of their "good" black men are being taken by white women. On the contrary, it does not seem to be an issue in the black community of "good" black women being taken by white men.
Anyone reading my comment and getting pissed off at words and thoughts that I clearly presented as not being mine (In particular the first half of the post. People just react to shit on this forum, they don't comprehend anything) really needs to chill.
It's not just limited to what black people think. I'm white, my girl's black and plenty of white people give us looks, and quite a few have approached us and called me all sorts of colorful names. I'm not justifying what this guy said about RG3, but it's very common among all people. A good number of people think exactly like Parker, they just keep it to themselves. I can tell by the looks I get on a daily basis, it's sad personal preference can make others so upset.
And this is exactly the attitude I was commenting on. An irrational person will look at RG3 and get upset that he isn't contributing back to his community by dating a white woman. There are probably handfuls of successful and beautiful black women that would love to be with him. There are people who feel like men like RG3 are sending a message to black women (like his sisters) that they are not good enough.
Just like that thread a while back where the Asian guy was lamenting the fact that Asian women would rather date a white man than an Asian guy.
This type of thing upsets people because it makes them feel insecure and I'd even argue less important. I have black male friends who have sworn off black women for various reasons and I've heard it all "I don't want to date someone who is darker than me", "light skinned and white girls are better looking", "white girls are better"...etc.
You take that feeling of insecurity and apply it to the way black females are portrayed in the media, very seldomly do you have a dark skinned black woman at the forefront of something. Either she is a light skinned black woman or she is not black at all and people seem to be fixed on that as a staple of beauty.
And it goes without saying that some of you may not be superficial like that, but a lot of men are and that is why interracial dating is such a big issue for people. Not just black people, but whites too. People are still turned off by it, it still make people upset...and it will probably be like that for a while.
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