Once again, it's agree with craig or you're a bigot. I find this attitude fundamentally off putting, it's empty arrogance, it's based in the very stupidity that you claim to stand against.
We've been through this. I've said that IMO generally bigots don't realize they are motivated by bigotry. So yes, it's 'off-putting' to hear the truth.
But it's still the truth. It doesn't get much clearer than when the Supreme Court asked the lawyer arguing for discriination for justification for it, and he had to say he has none.
No group has ever been bigoted if you ask them. Opposing inter-racial marriage, opposing admitting blacks to your church., opposing ending segregation, even if you ask Nazis about Jews (iw was self-defense - no, really) - or Indians about their 'untouchable class' - there are always explanations for the discrimination other than bigotry, that don't hold up.
The people who demand that gays be discriminated against, be given second class citizenship, in the words of Justice Kennedy have their marriages treated with less dignity, have had a very long time to come up with a rational basis for that discrimination. They have failed. Like the others in my list, they have only found spurious excuses that don't hold up. They've seized on the fact that there has been long-time discrimiination to claim they're defending 'tradition' as if there's something honorable about continuing wrong.
Bigotry has been proven clearly as the real motivation.
It's playing the victim to pretend the word bigotry is an unjustified criticism.
The facts support it. I know it's hard to hear. But you need to consider the facts. Bigots tens not to understand bigotry very well and realize they're afflicted by it. But they are.
Huge amounts of effort have put into finding alternative explanations. "Love the sinner, hate the sin" marketing. They don't hold up.
Perhaps one good example is the recent apology of the leading 'gay conversion' church admitting a zero percent success rate and apologizing for harm to gays.
They didn't use the word bigotry that I know of, but they essentially admitted they'd come to realize they had been afflicted by it.
It's not meant as an attack on you to say that bigotry is involved. It's simply the explanation of what's motivating you.
I'ts not easy to help bigots come to understand.
Here's one story that might help. It's about Mormon parents who fought for passing Proposition 8 against gay marriage, before finding out their son was gay.
After that, they've come to have different views on the issue. It's a pretty moving story about people who have come to grow and realize they had bigotry.
http://www.kvue.com/news/212506301.html