Roommate issue

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SketchMaster

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My step brother's wife's mom owns a duplex, and she's rents one side to me.

I have a roommate, who is a good friend that I've known for about 10 years. Dude's gone out of his way for me many times.

Our deal was that he'd get the 2nd bedroom and pay a flat rent of $375. It's the smaller bedroom. I got the master bedroom, and pretty much furnished most of the house. I also got the garage (one car).

He's got a nice custom truck (maybe worth $8k). Nothing too special, but it's a big deal for him. He was freaked out about having his truck sit in the sun through the summer, so offered to pay $450 a month if he got the garage.

I probably make at least double what he does. I think he gets about $11 an hour. So he's been struggling to pay rent on time. He usually gets paid up soon after its due, but I've been having to float his share for a few weeks at a time. Over the past 3 months, he's only paid $1150, so he technically still owes me $150. I asked him for it, and he basically said he's broke, he can't afford to pay it and pay me rent, and said he'll pull his truck out of the garage and go back to normal rent if I insist. He basically said the extra $75 a month was a ripoff for the garage, so no matter what he's not going to pay the full amount because he's going to starve otherwise. I'm contesting that I wouldn't have given up the garage (I have a brand new car that I'd like to park in there) if he wouldn't have offered the $75 a month for it, so if doesn't want to pay I have no choice but to feel like he basically tricked me.

He's saying he didn't do it intentionally but the bottomline is he can't afford to pay it.

Should I be firm and hold him to it? I know the $150 is a bigger deal to him than it is me, but I could still use that money. I already basically told him I'm going to have to think twice anytime he wants to make a deal with me again because he's got a history of saying he'll pay for something and then refusing too because "he thought it wasn't a good deal".

He otherwise pays rent without question and he's never shafted me over on money before in the 10+ years I've known him.

Cliffs: Roommate offers to pay extra $75 per month to use garage, forcing me to park in street. After 3 months, roommate is caught up on rent minus the $75 for each month and said he's going to give me the garage back, but he can't/won't pay the difference. He's actually paid about $20 more in rent each month, but not the full $75.

Should I just let it go? I know he can't afford it right now, and I'm not going to starve if he doesn't pay. He's pretty handy so I'm tempted to just let it go, but then hold it over his head anytime I need help with something.

Never room with Friends/coworkers/fam, you are a land lord at that point and not their Buddie/office mate/bother. You have to lay down the law, or you have to be willing to put up with some major BS.


Your friend asked to be able to park his truck in the garage, then said the cost was BS? Nope, sounds like your friend sucks with money and is immature in the fact he's blaming YOU for his mess. And you're going to "let it go" by holding it over his head every time you want him to fix something around the house? The hell man!? Let it go or get your money, don't pull that punk crap with a friend of ten years.

You want to be a good friend? Sit him down and talk to him and find out why he has a hard time paying. Assuming he works full time, at $11 an hour he should be bringing home ~$1400 a month after tax. If he can't set aside 1/3 his monthly income for rent he has problems. He obviously is getting into a real world of financial hurt, and he's going to pull you down with him by assuming you'll float him like you have in the past.

If you really want to be his friend, talk to him, and then give him some tough love when he doesn't get his act together.

My two cents.
 
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MonKENy

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HEs your friend, hes been there for you through whatever gone out of his way for you and you are gonna hold him to $150 when hes struggling? You are not a good friend.
 

leper84

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Yeah holding it over his head is a pretty dick move. Either let it go or don't; just don't waffle around and be a puss about it.
 

MrColin

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Don't be a dick - let it slide and go back to parking in the garage. You've never had an issue in the past, so just move on.

This is also another shining example of why you don't room with friends except in dire emergencies.

Exactly this.

$150 won't do shit for you, it'll help him a lot (and you indirectly) if he's not a dumbass.
 

BurnItDwn

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Sounds like he can't afford to keep his truck. Perhaps he should sell it and buy something more affordable.
 

lupi

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um, if it's your friend and he's paid more than full for basic rent then eat it like a friend.
 

tcG

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um, if it's your friend and he's paid more than full for basic rent then eat it like a friend.

Seriously... QFT

Quite easy to solve this just by taking back the garage.

It's not like he screwed you over on purpose, or a lot. He's broke...
 
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