- Jan 23, 2001
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Hi all,
I am pretty sure that my dad is filling out divorce papers right now. Actually, I am 100% sure. This is a total shock to me, and I doubt anyone in the entire family would see this coming. My parents have been married 21 years, and though they have had hard times they have had good times as well and always worked out their problems.
When I asked him "what papers are you filling out" he said "I'll talk to you about it later."
This would be horrible for the family, and it would devistate my mom. I have NO idea why he is doing this. WTF should I do? Should I confront him now, or wait till he "talks to me later" about it? What should I say? How should I approach the situation?
I never would have though this would ever happen. I could use some help here (I am 20 years old btw and just at home for winter break).
Update: Well, I was sitting here watching the Iowa vs. USC game. It had just finished when my dad comes out of the bedroom, knocks over the christmas tree, takes a really old picture of him and my mom and slams his fist into it, puts on his shoes, and heads out the door.
I go check on my mom, and she appears to be ok. I clean up the mess, and then ask her what is going on. She said "what I can tell you is that it isn't your dads fault. I did something a long time ago and he is angry about it." (wouldn't have ever suspected my mom to do anything.... guess I don't know her as well as I thought).
So I drive around looking for my dad for a while (crapshoot). Didn't find him. I am worried because he gets real angry sometimes, and also real depressed. Luckily all the liqur stores and I think all the bars close at 9:00 pm in eugene.
What should I do? This is kind of out of my league here. I know that this is little information to go on but it would take way to long to type out my whole father and mothers history. My 15 year old sister is here as well (though she has a strong personality and seems to be weathering it alright). I might just try to play XBox with her or something so she feels better.
Any help would be appreaciated
edit: I have another sister, 18 years old. She is at a friends house. Should I go get her? Or should I leave her there to find out in the morning.
update: My dad just came home and said "this is the last night I'll ever see you guys (talking to his three children... my mom is not back went out to look for him). I need to figure out my life so I am going away."
WTF should I do? I love my dad so much.
Final Update: My dad just came in to pick up some things before he took off for the final time. The good thing is that he called a realitive while he was here and is going to go stay with them in California for a while. He also said that he would keep in touch with me and my sisters, though it might take him a bit to get set up. The bad thing is that now my family doesn't have a father
edit: Thanks everyone for your support. It helped a lot to get me through the night
I am pretty sure that my dad is filling out divorce papers right now. Actually, I am 100% sure. This is a total shock to me, and I doubt anyone in the entire family would see this coming. My parents have been married 21 years, and though they have had hard times they have had good times as well and always worked out their problems.
When I asked him "what papers are you filling out" he said "I'll talk to you about it later."
This would be horrible for the family, and it would devistate my mom. I have NO idea why he is doing this. WTF should I do? Should I confront him now, or wait till he "talks to me later" about it? What should I say? How should I approach the situation?
I never would have though this would ever happen. I could use some help here (I am 20 years old btw and just at home for winter break).
Update: Well, I was sitting here watching the Iowa vs. USC game. It had just finished when my dad comes out of the bedroom, knocks over the christmas tree, takes a really old picture of him and my mom and slams his fist into it, puts on his shoes, and heads out the door.
I go check on my mom, and she appears to be ok. I clean up the mess, and then ask her what is going on. She said "what I can tell you is that it isn't your dads fault. I did something a long time ago and he is angry about it." (wouldn't have ever suspected my mom to do anything.... guess I don't know her as well as I thought).
So I drive around looking for my dad for a while (crapshoot). Didn't find him. I am worried because he gets real angry sometimes, and also real depressed. Luckily all the liqur stores and I think all the bars close at 9:00 pm in eugene.
What should I do? This is kind of out of my league here. I know that this is little information to go on but it would take way to long to type out my whole father and mothers history. My 15 year old sister is here as well (though she has a strong personality and seems to be weathering it alright). I might just try to play XBox with her or something so she feels better.
Any help would be appreaciated
edit: I have another sister, 18 years old. She is at a friends house. Should I go get her? Or should I leave her there to find out in the morning.
update: My dad just came home and said "this is the last night I'll ever see you guys (talking to his three children... my mom is not back went out to look for him). I need to figure out my life so I am going away."
WTF should I do? I love my dad so much.
Final Update: My dad just came in to pick up some things before he took off for the final time. The good thing is that he called a realitive while he was here and is going to go stay with them in California for a while. He also said that he would keep in touch with me and my sisters, though it might take him a bit to get set up. The bad thing is that now my family doesn't have a father
edit: Thanks everyone for your support. It helped a lot to get me through the night