Sad Story ***New Update

[datalink7]

OK, thanks guys. I am relaxed now, but still sad

 

[stonecold3169]

Don't get me wrong, I feel bad for you, a divorce is never a good thing. But think of it this way, your parents need to be happy too. If they've been married for 21 years, and I'm assuming dated for a while before that, then there must be a large incompatability between them for them to be doing this. Don't get upset with him for not talking to you about this right away, surely you've had a relationship go bad yourself before, he's going through the same thing. This likely isn't any easier for him then it is for you, and he probably feels like a let down. If/when you do talk to him, don't throw this in his face, don't make anything his fault. We all want happiness, and if he had it he wouldn't be doing what he is now. What you need to do is be there not only for your siblings, but for your two parents as well. I'm sure they both love you, but they themselves might need some support in the time to come, be the big man and be their for them

 

[Ime]

Originally posted by: stonecold3169
Don't get me wrong, I feel bad for you, a divorce is never a good thing. But think of it this way, your parents need to be happy too. If they've been married for 21 years, and I'm assuming dated for a while before that, then there must be a large incompatability between them for them to be doing this. Don't get upset with him for not talking to you about this right away, surely you've had a relationship go bad yourself before, he's going through the same thing. This likely isn't any easier for him then it is for you, and he probably feels like a let down. If/when you do talk to him, don't throw this in his face, don't make anything his fault. We all want happiness, and if he had it he wouldn't be doing what he is now. What you need to do is be there not only for your siblings, but for your two parents as well. I'm sure they both love you, but they themselves might need some support in the time to come, be the big man and be their for them

Listen to this man!

 

[MaDHaVoK]

Originally posted by: LordSegan
Datalink- I strongly urge you to talk to him about it. You are a part of the family and you have a right to know what is going on.

But thats just my opinion.

i'll second that... your part of the family.. even if things are out of your hands, you have a right to know whats going on and voice your oppinion.

 

[Pliablemoose]

If he's filling out paperwork, it's already out of your hands, nothing to do, wait a while, he's trying to figure out a way to talk to you about it.

Families tend to make events personal to them, when it's really about your mom & dad's relationship.

No matter what the reason, I promise you he's thought long & hard about things & is trying to make the best decision he can.

Sorry it's happening though

 

[datalink7]

bump with update

 

[SCSIfreek]

sorry to hear that but it looks like your only choice is to seat down with your dad and talk it over as mature as you can.


--SCsi

 

[Centaur6]

Man, i feel sorry for your old man. Your mom must have done something really horrible for him to do this. My condolences to you as well.

 

[Vampirrella]

basicly it comes down to your mom and dad coming to terms with this .. or not. Its out of your hands. Unfortunatly this is how devorce goes.

 

[UglyCasanova]

Damn. I hope nothing happens to him. That's a good idea about playing Xbox with your sister. I'm not sure how I would react in a situation like this. I don't think that there is much that you can do though, and they both have to work out whatever the problem is. Has he filled out all of the papers or do you even know?

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: dparker
Damn. I hope nothing happens to him. That's a good idea about playing Xbox with your sister. I'm not sure how I would react in a situation like this. I don't think that there is much that you can do though, and they both have to work out whatever the problem is. Has he filled out all of the papers or do you even know?

Well, the papers have been filled out but he stored them away for a few days. And it seemed like maybe everything was going to be alright. He bought some wine for him and my mom... they hung out and watched some movies. We had plans to go as a family this saturday to go to the coast and try to see some whales.

Even this evening we sat down and had a nice family dinner (something that rarely happens because of conflicting work scheduels). Everything seemed fine. My dad and mom went to bed earliy... about 8:30. Then all of a sudden he comes out later on and this happened.

 

[ThePresence]

I feel for ya dude. I really do. That must be a really helpless feling.

 

[amdskip]

Sorry to hear this. Just make sure that no one gets hurt for a stupid reason and do call the cops if you can't control the situation considering your dad's behavior (not that it's wrong to be mad but sometimes he gets uncontrollably mad).

 

[GoodRevrnd]

Originally posted by: datalink7

Originally posted by: dparker
Damn. I hope nothing happens to him. That's a good idea about playing Xbox with your sister. I'm not sure how I would react in a situation like this. I don't think that there is much that you can do though, and they both have to work out whatever the problem is. Has he filled out all of the papers or do you even know?

Well, the papers have been filled out but he stored them away for a few days. And it seemed like maybe everything was going to be alright. He bought some wine for him and my mom... they hung out and watched some movies. We had plans to go as a family this saturday to go to the coast and try to see some whales.

Even this evening we sat down and had a nice family dinner (something that rarely happens because of conflicting work scheduels). Everything seemed fine. My dad and mom went to bed earliy... about 8:30. Then all of a sudden he comes out later on and this happened.

So he had the divorce papers on hand?? That's kinda weird I think... or did he get them online?
Anyway, good luck to you and family in this situation. Sounds rough.

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: GoodRevrnd

Originally posted by: datalink7

Originally posted by: dparker
Damn. I hope nothing happens to him. That's a good idea about playing Xbox with your sister. I'm not sure how I would react in a situation like this. I don't think that there is much that you can do though, and they both have to work out whatever the problem is. Has he filled out all of the papers or do you even know?

Well, the papers have been filled out but he stored them away for a few days. And it seemed like maybe everything was going to be alright. He bought some wine for him and my mom... they hung out and watched some movies. We had plans to go as a family this saturday to go to the coast and try to see some whales.

Even this evening we sat down and had a nice family dinner (something that rarely happens because of conflicting work scheduels). Everything seemed fine. My dad and mom went to bed earliy... about 8:30. Then all of a sudden he comes out later on and this happened.

So he had the divorce papers on hand?? That's kinda weird I think... or did he get them online?
Anyway, good luck to you and family in this situation. Sounds rough.

No, he went and got them from wherever you get them from.

My origional post was when he was filling them out, a few days ago. I thought a divorce was happening then and there. But then he put them away and my parents seemed to be getting along.

Here is what I think (and I still have very little info): My mom said something or hinted at something, and my dad reacted by wanting a divorce. But he didn't get real pissed or anything. But, he decided after thinking about it and filling out the papers that it wasn't worth a divorce. So he put them away. Then, tonight, my mom said something else, or gave more information. This made my dad fly into a rage and storm out of the house.

I have no idea what my mom did or what she said.

 

[OS]

Sorry man, just hang in there, you're an adult now. Be there for your sis.

Also, don't take sides. You'll probably never know the whole story.

 

[UglyCasanova]

It's good that they seem to be trying to work things out. That really sucks about tonight though . Hopefully they will be able to work through whatever it is that your mom did.

 

[datalink7]

I updated my post... Should I get my other sister (18 years old) from her friends house and bring her home?

 

[SherEPunjab]

Originally posted by: datalink7
I updated my post... Should I get my other sister (18 years old) from her friends house and bring her home?

NO. wait till the morning. why make her stay up all night like you're going to do? women get too emotional as it is.

 

[UglyCasanova]

Originally posted by: datalink7
I updated my post... Should I get my other sister (18 years old) from her friends house and bring her home?

You should go over there and explain it or at least give her a call, but sometimes being with friends can be better in a situation like this. I know I can tell my good friends more personal things than I ever could my family.

 

[Centaur6]

Get her.

 

[Soybomb]

No reason to get your sister worked up and bring her into a tense house tonight, get her in the morning before she gets home.

 

[conjur]

Offering my thoughts of sorrow for you here.

I'm going thru one myself. Got married in '87 and have known her my entire adult life but, well, once that trust is lost it can never be regained and I can safely say I'm glad she's OUT of my life! I feel so much better now...the tension is gone...the arguing gone...

I can now focus on my daughters and be there for them in every way possible (well, focused on getting a job, too )

Hang in there and know that it's nothing you nor your siblings did.

 

[datalink7]

 

[thawolfman]