Sad Story ***New Update

[UglyCasanova]

Holy crap on the new update!!! Sit him down and talk! Get off of AT right now and try to keep everyone calm and try to talk to your dad.

 

[pillage2001]

Don't think this will work but I think you're old enough to help him reason things out?? I mean, how can he leave 3 children at home and just leave?? Try talking to him and DON'T LET HIM LEAVE THE HOUSE. You're part of the family and you have the right to know what's going on.

 

[AnyMal]

I think you need to confront your mother and find out what she did to cause your dad to go ballistic.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: pillage2001
Don't think this will work but I think you're old enough to help him reason things out?? I mean, how can he leave 3 children at home and just leave?? Try talking to him and DON'T LET HIM LEAVE THE HOUSE. You're part of the family and you have the right to know what's going on.

Definitely....it does not sound like your dad is thinking rationally. Emotions are running very high now and things get said and hopefully certain actions aren't performed.

yeah...get off of this place and go talk with him...with your family!!

Best of luck, man....really...

 

[Soybomb]

Originally posted by: AnyMal
I think you need to confront your mother and find out what she did to cause your dad to go ballistic.

Its not his business and it could be the type of thing he would rather not know.

 

[UglyCasanova]

Originally posted by: AnyMal
I think you need to confront your mother and find out what she did to cause your dad to go ballistic.

I dunno. That just might make things go wrong between him and his mother. I'd wait until she explains it, because with 3 kids wondering she has to say something. Do your best to reason things out with your dad and if he does leave ask him to give you a number you can reach him at or at least where he is going.

 

[amdskip]

Your dad just needs to calm down before he does something dangerous. Get some help, you won't get it off the internet.

 

[datalink7]

I TRIED to talk to him. He is in the shower right now (only reason I am on AT). He said "there is nothing to be done. I love you guys and it is not your fault. I just need to go."

 

[pillage2001]

Originally posted by: datalink7
I TRIED to talk to him. He is in the shower right now (only reason I am on AT). He said "there is nothing to be done. I love you guys and it is not your fault. I just need to go."

There's a reason for everything. IF he wants to leave. Pack your shirt and follow him. Just don't leave him alone man. Now it's the time to get your 18 year old sis back to look after your 15 year old sis. Unless your mum really did something THAT BAD which is unreversible, you're on the losing end.

 

[conjur]

If it's that bad...he really shouldn't leave the house. But, sounds like you all are all older so custody won't be much of an issue as if you were 10 years younger. From what I've generally read and heard, leaving the house is not best if you want to keep custody. But, if your mom did something awful to him (hope it's not what my ex did to me) but, well...dunno...would it be better for *her* to go? I can't say.

Just doesn't sound good all around

 

[Geekbabe]

Sounds like they've not been happy together for a very long time.They stayed together and now you're 20,your sister 18, they do have the right to try to find some happiness with what's left of their lives.Try not to get involved to the point of taking sides,hopefully,they'll both be mature enough not to want to drag you into the middle of it anyway.

 

[UglyCasanova]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Sounds like they've not been happy together for a very long time.They stayed together and now you're 20,your sister 18, they do have the right to try to find some happiness with what's left of their lives.Try not to get involved to the point of taking sides,hopefully,they'll both be mature enough not to want to drag you into the middle of it anyway.

True. If this is really what your dad feels is best (and I'm sure he must because he is leaving 3 kids that he loves) then maybe it is for the good of both of them. I know it sucks tremendously for all 3 of you and if there is any chance that they can work it out then that is great news, but now it is out of your hands. Try and try to talk to him, maybe he will be willing to talk to you. Do what you can, but don't take sides and don't make them more upset than they already are.

 

[datalink7]

New update.

My dad gets out of the shower. My mom is home at this point. He takes his dirty clothes outside, comes back in and says "I'm coming back later today. I'll leave instructions on how to get the money out of the retirement accounts. Get the kids through college with it untill it runs out, then you're on your own."

I tell him how much I love him and how great a dad he has been. Then I can't hold back anymore, and start sobbing. He says I am a wonderful son, and that I can't come with because I have to look after my sisters. He goes and says goodbye to my 15 year old sister. My 18 year old sister came back, but went on a walk because she couldn't handle it I guess.

He starts to leave, then says "oh, and don't bring those clothes that I put outside inside. They are covered in gasoline. I just couldn't find a lighter. The pain would have been wonderful."

I am so lost

Today is the day the last part of my childhood truely left.

 

[conjur]

:Q

omg...sounds like your dad does NOT need to be alone tonight! Something's happened or been said that truly devastated him but he shouldn't (or wouldn't in a rational state of mind) just leave you all behind, too!

 

[amdskip]

Originally posted by: conjur
:Q

omg...sounds like your dad does NOT need to be alone tonight! Something's happened or been said that truly devastated him but he shouldn't (or wouldn't in a rational state of mind) just leave you all behind, too!

Please get someone to help your dad. Any relatives or something! He's done this much so far and it doesn't mean he won't try to kill himself again.

 

[UglyCasanova]

Dude. I'm not sure what to tell you. Everyone on here is with you, and we all hope that nothing happens to him. I really don't know what to say though.

 

[pillage2001]

FARK D00D. FOLLOW HIM AT ALL COST MANG. Just to be a companion and what not. JUST FRIGGING FOLLOW HIM MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[datalink7]

I asked my mom what she did, saying that I think I deserve to know. I also said that I still love her. She said "I can't tell you. It happened 17 years ago."

I don't know what it could possibly be that my dad would get THIS mad when it happened 17 years ago.

 

[thawolfman]

Originally posted by: dparker
Dude. I'm not sure what to tell you. Everyone on here is with you, and we all hope that nothing happens to him. I really don't know what to say though.

Argh

 

[Smolek]

Damn, sorry to hear about all this . Hopefully everything will work itself out.

 

[Radiohead]

Holy sh!t dude... I really don't know what to say but that I pray your dad doesn't do something irreversible.

Is your mom not even trying to calm your dad down... is she just leaving him as he is?

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: Radiohead
Holy sh!t dude... I really don't know what to say but that I pray your dad doesn't do something irreversible.

Is your mom not even trying to calm your dad down... is she just leaving him as he is?

Yah, my mom just let him leave without saying anything.

 

[pillage2001]

Originally posted by: datalink7

Originally posted by: Radiohead
Holy sh!t dude... I really don't know what to say but that I pray your dad doesn't do something irreversible.

Is your mom not even trying to calm your dad down... is she just leaving him as he is?

Yah, my mom just let him leave without saying anything.

And you??

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: pillage2001

Originally posted by: datalink7

Originally posted by: Radiohead
Holy sh!t dude... I really don't know what to say but that I pray your dad doesn't do something irreversible.

Is your mom not even trying to calm your dad down... is she just leaving him as he is?

Yah, my mom just let him leave without saying anything.

And you??

I wanted to follow him, but he said I have to stay. I hugged him and said I loved him, and wrote down my cell phone number for him. I would have followed him but my mom is sitting on the couch in a daze and he wanted me to take care of my sisters. I don't know, maybe it was a mistake to stay.

arg

 

[p0ntif]

Don't let your dad leave. Sit him down, try to talk with him, or as pillage said, FOLLOW him! When he says 'this is the last time i'll see you' he may mean it. he may find a lighter next time. Get him.