Separate bedrooms for married folks?

[Geekbabe]

What's you take on separate bedrooms for married people? Do you think it natural and appropriate at a certain point for couples to reclaim personal space and privacy via separate bedrooms?

 

[jumpr]

Only if one of them snores too loudly for the other to sleep.

 

[Greenman]

I guess if you don't like your SO, or if he/she stinks or something then it's a fine idea.

 

[darkswordsman17]

No, I don't think most people would find it natural. I don't think its necessarily bad, but its definitely a sign in my opinion. I think personal space between the two is typically setup so that the guy has a den or the garage and the girl, well I don't really know what the girl would have (the rest of the house maybe, I don't know).

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: jumpr
Only if one of them snores too loudly for the other to sleep.

I snore when I try to sleep on my back but I'm also a restless sleeper who often wakes up repeatedly during the night. I'm either too hot,too cold,I need to pee, need a drink of water etc... arrrghh..I'm such a pain.

 

[StormRider]

It would be good for a sleep farter like me....

 

[J3S73R]

I think it depends on the couples... I know some may get "annoyed' or bothered by the other if they spend too much time together and dont get enough personal time. It also may help solve some of those issues.

Normal but not for everyone? XD

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Greenman
I guess if you don't like your SO, or if he/she stinks or something then it's a fine idea.

I'm thinking more along the lines of personal comfort,each person being able to furnish their room to their own taste,being able to feel free to turn on a light and read without fear of waking your spouse etc.

 

[Siddhartha]

Every marriage to some degree is different and I would not assume any rule would work for everyone.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Nope. My wife and I have been sleeping in the same bed since we moved in together some 16 or so years ago.

If either of us thought it would be a good idea to sleep in separate beds I think we'd have to take a serious look at our relationship.

Edit-She feels the same way as I do on this. I sometimes fall asleep on the couch but she'll always come down and get me when this happens. We just sleep better when we're together.

 

[Geekbabe]

Let me rephrase,if you could afford the extra space how many married people here would enjoy having a separate bedroom?

 

[IeraseU]

My parents have used separate bedrooms for the past 15 years. My take on it?...it does not conform to my fairy tale vision of an ideal relationship, so I would not want to be in a position where I would be seriously considering that move. However, if I somehow end up in such a position, I would comply rather then stubbornly try to keep the same bedroom when we both clearly would prefer separate ones.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Nope. My wife and I have been sleeping in the same bed since we moved in together some 16 or so years ago.

If either of us thought it would be a good idea to sleep in separate beds I think we'd have to take a serious look at our relationship.

why is that? why is sleeping together so important?

 

[Gunslinger08]

Honestly, I'd have no problem with it. I like to spread out when I sleep, fall asleep with the TV on, be very cold, and snore as loudly as I want. Why not just spend your time together until you're both ready to go to bed, then go your separate ways?

 

[rbV5]

I always thought seperate bedrooms for married couples was odd, but there are all kinds of relationships. It could be what you're used to, my folks share the same bedroom and are approaching their 70's, same for my wife's folks.

I do know several couples that do have seperate bedrooms, none of them seem all that particularly fond of each other to be perfectly honest.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: joshsquall
Honestly, I'd have no problem with it. I like to spread out when I sleep, fall asleep with the TV on, be very cold, and snore as loudly as I want. Why not just spend your time together until you're both ready to go to bed, then go your separate ways?

It's hard when your sleeping habits are really different from your spouse's, hard enough to struggle with sleep issues,when you add in the fear that you're disturbing the rest of others that makes a person feel terrible.

 

[cKGunslinger]

Aww, come one... Red isn't that smelly.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Nope. My wife and I have been sleeping in the same bed since we moved in together some 16 or so years ago.

If either of us thought it would be a good idea to sleep in separate beds I think we'd have to take a serious look at our relationship.

why is that? why is sleeping together so important?

It's important to us. I didn't mean to imply that everyone should sleep with their spouse.

I guess it's just what we're used to and it is familiar and comfortable. It also facilitates sex.

BTW-We have a spare bedroom in our house setup as a bedroom and we still sleep together every night in a queen sized bed.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: rbV5
I always thought seperate bedrooms for married couples was odd, but there are all kinds of relationships. It could be what you're used to, my folks share the same bedroom and are approaching their 70's, same for my wife's folks.

I do know several couples that do have seperate bedrooms, none of them seem all that particularly fond of each other to be perfectly honest.

I know one couple who does as well. They can't stand each other.

 

[Platypus]

I'm a terrible bedfellow, I'm always too hot sleeping next to someone and I like to spread out. I take up my entire queen bed because I tend to sleep on my side in the 'running man' position.

 

[bignateyk]

It used to be that the wealthy would use seperate rooms, and the poor would share bedrooms because of lack of space. I could see it working, but it would take some good communication to make the transition go smoothly.

 

[iroast]

Why not get separate beds? For example, 2 twins and put them together. you can roll around and still not wake up your mate? Or just keep apart heh.

 

[se7en]

I guess the seperate rooms would feel more like a "roomate" to many people if it wasn't mutual on both parts. If your sleep is truly disturbing the other person it could be an option to explore on a trial basis to see if both people felt more rested.

My wife is a little restless as well and is always apologizing for such but I always tell he it doesn't wake me up. I happen to be a fairly sound sleeper but if I weren't we might have to look at options at some point. You mentioned sleep issues, is that something you could possibly talk to a doctor about or have a sleep study done to remedy?

It would have to be implemented carefully to make sure the SO didn't get their feelings hurt and to make sure they understood why.

 

[NeoV]

it's ok Geekbabe - me and the misses have sep rooms, it's fine

 

[Rastus]

Go to bed together every night. When one of you is restless or noisy or temperature challenged, someone can move to the spare bedroom or couch for the rest of the night.