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ones3k

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Originally posted by: kami333
It sounds as it isn't affecting anything that much other than the fact that there is nothing else to do, it shouldn't matter that much. I'm probably an addict that shouldn't even be allowed to touch a computer

There was one summer that I spent probably close to 100hrs a week playing Wolf:ET for about a month. My internship was over, I had just come back from being abroad for a semester, and I was living in my parent's house (my parents weren't around) and didn't know anyone in a 2000mile radius. I would wake up, start playing, make lunch and play while eating, make dinner and play while eating, go to the gym for 90min (that was pretty much the only time I went out, other than to get groceries), then come home and drink and play until I passed out. Then repeat. But didn't touch it once I got back on campus and had work to do. I got really good at it, but was pretty bored by it by the end of the summer.


i am impressed
 

Jenova314

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you guys expect this guy to get a girlfriend that easily? he's invested his time in WoW and HW, what makes you think he'll score a girl on demand? and then you're telling the OP to find him a gf. well OP, i hope you've got some very attractive female friends whom you're willing to sacrifice for your brother's sake. then again, maybe he'll just find a WoW girlfriend...

oh a more serious note, get said attractive girl to play WoW as a newbie. have said girl talk to your brother through WoW and ask to see him in RL. show him some real "wow" action.
 

Dritnul

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It may be a bit late, and im not sure how wow works but call blizzard and have his account banned, also tell local stores not to sell him WoW cards
 

saahmed

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Have your parents cut internet connection for a while or something. Or just throw out the game. Just put an end to it, they need to use some real discipline. My parents were always strict with me, I rarely got my way, and even now at 18, I still dont get my way all the time. A lot of parents seem to be getting to lenient and kids are getting out of hand. The behavior of kids I see in public these days is just ridiculous. I always hated that my parents were so strict with me, but now I am really glad they were that way with me.
 

jjv687

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Seriously, just let him play WoW as much as he wants. Buy him his own computer for it or something. It's what he likes to do. Some people like football and that's okay, why can't computer gaming be okay?. If a kid played football or rode bikes or something for over 40 hours a week then you'd be happy, but people look at computer gaming as something wrong.

Definitely don't take it completely away from him or anything.
 

ruffilb

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Just wait. He'll get fed up once blizzard releases a crap patch, and then it'll all get better.

Alternatively, get him on ATOT.
 

The Batt?sai

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Originally posted by: darianandre
I'm looking for some help with this problem that my family is having. I figured that since it has to do with video games and internet communities that it would be a good idea to post it here. Please don't say anything like "go write it on your myspace." I really need help and I would feel responsible if something goes wrong.

I get off work today and check my messages and find one that says to call home. I call and my sister picks up the phone. She's not her usual annoyingly energetic self, she doesn't even talk to me and she hands the phone to my mom. Mom says hello and then is quiet for a few minutes, almost crying. She hands the phone to my dad because she doesn't even know where to start. Dad doesn't even care about the 0.0 I got in one of my classes because of an error. They're all worried about one thing, and they're all completely worn out.

My brother plays WoW, and he plays a lot. He used to only play raids and that kind of thing totalling to maybe 20 hours a week. But now he plays over 40 hours a week and he's always on the computer. My sister wants to use the computer and he doesn't let her so, as usual, she goes and complains to the parents. They decide that he plays way too much, they tried to get him to slow down earlier to no avail, so now they go for an intervention.

They think it's unreasonable to play so much so they ask him to tone his hours down and maybe go to some sort of family counseling. He goes crazy and walks in and out of the house bare feet, on a rainy day, after they get done arguing. He says he'd rather kill himself than go to counseling and that he made a commitment to his clan to do raids or whatever on certain days and that he doesn't want to stop. He then goes on to mumble about responsibilty and that he lives his life his way and he does what he thinks he must. My mom says that his language is unusual and seems more like something you would hear in a fantasy book than in a real life situation, and this is when he's speaking about how he's doing in school and his friends and that kind of thing.

He said that he was willing to cut down his hours and talk with me about the issue(Big brother, in college, leads a pretty decent life), but he is still pretty insistent about the suicide vs. counseling thing. I'm probably going home tomorrow but I'm unsure if I should bring it up right away or let him cool down a bit. I did suggest to my parents that we go to the grandparents house because they are the people we respect and trust the most, and the entire family needs to work this out.

At first I thought it was just teen angst, but now I'm beginning to get worried about bigger things like schizophrenia or some manic/anxiety disorder. My sister says that he's pretty much a loner at school even though he used to have a lot of friends.

Any ideas would be appreciated, we're pretty much willing to do anything. My mother is crying all the time and father seems like he's ready to have a heart attack from all the stress he is in. They look like they've pretty much given up, I went through a similar thing but didn't nearly go this far, and I did go to counseling with them.

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1. Brother addicted to WoW
2. Family does a minor intervention.
3. Brother freaks out, talks about suicide, doesn't want to go to counseling, sounds like a different person.
4. I'm going to talk to him about it. Ideas on how to help?

qft
 

Corbett

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1. Tell parents to grow a spine and kick kid off computer for good.
2. Format computer and password protect.
3. Call suiside hotline and have the kid taken into custody under suiside watch.
4. Profit!
 

Corbett

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Originally posted by: jjv687
Seriously, just let him play WoW as much as he wants. Buy him his own computer for it or something. It's what he likes to do. Some people like football and that's okay, why can't computer gaming be okay?. If a kid played football or rode bikes or something for over 40 hours a week then you'd be happy, but people look at computer gaming as something wrong.

Definitely don't take it completely away from him or anything.

Spoken like a true NERD. 40 hours of gaming a week, no matter how you spin it, is waaaaaay too much. Playing football and riding a bike promote EXCERCISE for one. Sheesh, what is this world coming to.
 

Vaktathi

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ok, I play WoW alot, not as much as I used to though. But I was never to the point where I would refuse to go out and do something with friends unless we were in the middle of a raid, and then I just said "I'll be there in an hour or two". Most of my friends play WoW as well, and are much the same as me, and would never ruin our lives over a silly game. besides, hanging out with friends is far more fun. If he can't get off the damn game, then its time for your parent's to get his account canceled or his money for it revoked. or just format his HDD's and take away the discs.

for someone to be into WoW to the point where they are excluding their family and friends is just plain silly, there isnt even enough raid content to do 40 hours a week.
 

GeekDrew

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Originally posted by: Corbett
3. Call suiside hotline and have the kid taken into custody under suiside watch.

And what exactly is that going to prove?
 

Patrick Wolf

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Nice post, Job.

I think this WoW addict should join the Military or something. He likes doing raids, right?
 

SampSon

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Older teenagers like your brother that threaten suicide should be slapped in the mouth and told to stfu.
You know he won't do it, he doesn't have anywhere NEAR the balls to kill himself. He probably has a decent life going and he won't totally waste it because of a video game or counseling.

He's a nerdy kid who's in advanced classes, plays too many video games and doesn't get out a whole lot. Let him go about his business as long as he is getting done what is necessary in his life. If you or any of your family thinks that you're going to "intervene" into his life, make him realize the ultimate err of his ways and then watch him as he completely changes his lifestyle, you're all kidding yourselves.

If it's that much of a problem, force the kid to get his own computer and pay for WOW, which would require him to get a job. So he will be working to support what he wants. Sounds like he would be on the right path to live like the rest of the world.
 

Rage187

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40 hours is nothing, i was probably over 80 when I was heavily into it. Nonetheless 40 hours is a problem.
 

inveterate

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Yo dude,, this is how i quit,, NOT my intention, but i just quit cuz of this.. COMP started to go WAY slow because of xxxxxxxxxxxx, so i was younger and didn't know what to do, so it just got really boring and bad cuz the game would do hiccups, NOT unplayable just hiccups. Eventually the thing just frustrated me and i quit.

Do something similar, make his comp shity some how, fuk with his ram timings. and have the comp "hiccup"
 
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