[Serious] How is the retired life?

[Capt Caveman]

Your problems have nothing to do with work or retirement. I don't think you ever talk about your kids or wife. You would think that's the center of your life now. Instead you spend so much time here. I remember you picking up a mountain bike, did you ever even ride it more than once?

Was laid off back in January but got such a big compensation package, I took several months off and now I'm working part-time starting up a company with a friend. Now, making more than six figures passively and couldn't be happier. Don't think I could ever get bored between being active outdoors, traveling, volunteering, spending time with friends and all of our hobbies.

You've posted multiple time about being miserable. Time for you to see a counselor and get some help.

 

[Slew Foot]

Working is such a giant PITA I cant wait to retire. I could probably do so now if we moved out of CA, but thats out of the question so Im probably stuck for another 7-10 years or so.

 

[Zeze]

Your problems have nothing to do with work or retirement. I don't think you ever talk about your kids or wife. You would think that's the center of your life now. Instead you spend so much time here. I remember you picking up a mountain bike, did you ever even ride it more than once?

Was laid off back in January but got such a big compensation package, I took several months off and now I'm working part-time starting up a company with a friend. Now, making more than six figures passively and couldn't be happier. Don't think I could ever get bored between being active outdoors, traveling, volunteering, spending time with friends and all of our hobbies.

You've posted multiple time about being miserable. Time for you to see a counselor and get some help.

I'm a pretty active dad actually - I'm the one that talks to daycare director, put one or both to sleep, etc.

Anyways. Your last sentence was insightful, thanks.

 

[Exterous]

I keep reading people talk about being active outside and it makes me think we'll need to move someplace else or at least get a second home or something somewhere. Why? Because I don't like being outside a lot here. Yesterday I walked outside and it was 91 degrees with 85% humidity, like it has been for much of the summer. My first thought was "Fuck this - I want to go back inside." This will happen again several times in the winter when the freezing rain has just fallen or schools are cancelled because its -30. And maybe again when the April snow storm rolls through dropping 5" of wet sloppy snow that turns everything into brown sludge. While the Great Lakes have a lot of great locations and beaches it means we get the heat and humidity of the south and above average snow falls. One or the other would be easier to deal with but both? I'm not sure

 

[highland145]

I keep reading people talk about being active outside and it makes me think we'll need to move someplace else or at least get a second home or something somewhere. Why? Because I don't like being outside a lot here. Yesterday I walked outside and it was 91 degrees with 85% humidity, like it has been for much of the summer. My first thought was "Fuck this - I want to go back inside." This will happen again several times in the winter when the freezing rain has just fallen or schools are cancelled because its -30. And maybe again when the April snow storm rolls through dropping 5" of wet sloppy snow that turns everything into brown sludge. While the Great Lakes have a lot of great locations and beaches it means we get the heat and humidity of the south and above average snow falls. One or the other would be easier to deal with but both? I'm not sure

Well, my friend, you're welcome here anytime. I even have a place for the dead hookers from your basement.


Retirement...I worked 20 years for others making little $$. Have a 17 y.o. senior...college costs coming up...I'll be 60 if he only goes 4 years...fat chance. So, no, I'll die posting at work.

 

[Exterous]

Well, my friend, you're welcome here anytime.

That might be the best rational I've ever heard for staying in Michigan

 

[highland145]

That might be the best rational I've ever heard for staying in Michigan

lolol


And fine. Deal with your own dead hookers.

 

[BarkingGhostar]

Yesterday I watched the movie The Mean Season. Being that it is in Florida and anything in Florida goes, plus the fact that it is a giant retirement state, I wonder how many of those old guys out there have not tried a particular kind of immoral retirement lifestyle.

 

[highland145]

Yesterday I watched the movie The Mean Season. Being that it is in Florida and anything in Florida goes, plus the fact that it is a giant retirement state, I wonder how many of those old guys out there have not tried a particular kind of immoral retirement lifestyle.

Well @boomerang has mentioned nude pickle ball.

 

[boomerang]

Well @boomerang has mentioned nude pickle ball.

Yeah, in the context where I keep telling you it wouldn't work because the guys would be tripping over their sacks and the wimmenz would be tripping over their boobs.

And for the last time, I don't have any pictures of nude pickle ball! My god man surely there's granny porn out there somewhere.

 

[nakedfrog]

I keep reading people talk about being active outside and it makes me think we'll need to move someplace else or at least get a second home or something somewhere. Why? Because I don't like being outside a lot here. Yesterday I walked outside and it was 91 degrees with 85% humidity, like it has been for much of the summer. My first thought was "Fuck this - I want to go back inside." This will happen again several times in the winter when the freezing rain has just fallen or schools are cancelled because its -30. And maybe again when the April snow storm rolls through dropping 5" of wet sloppy snow that turns everything into brown sludge. While the Great Lakes have a lot of great locations and beaches it means we get the heat and humidity of the south and above average snow falls. One or the other would be easier to deal with but both? I'm not sure

This is definitely part of why I'm moving away from somewhere where you get 100º in the summer and 0º in the winter.

 

[vi edit]

This is definitely part of why I'm moving away from somewhere where you get 100º in the summer and 0º in the winter.

Agreed. That will be a criteria for me as well.
I'll conceed a bit of a dry heat but none of that 115 degree bullshit Phoenix gets.

 

[gorcorps]

This is definitely part of why I'm moving away from somewhere where you get 100º in the summer and 0º in the winter.

That happens here too, but the hot days are usually short lived (a months worth maybe) so I don't mind it. I don't mind the cold either, but the sheer amount of snow we see from being so close to lake Michigan is awful some years.

 

[PowerEngineer]

It might be better to think about "retirement" as the point in time at which you no longer need to earn wages to support yourself and your family. Reaching that point doesn't require you to stop working or to become vegetative. It does mean that you can start picking what you spend your time doing without worrying so much about how well it pays.

FWIW, I reached that point a decade ago but kept working my full-time job until the kids all left for college. When I finally "retired", I took on part-time consulting as a way to stay in touch with the industry. I now have much more time to pursue other interests, read books, and take online classes. I also have time each day to get enough sleep and to go to the health club. I regularly go to lunches with people I used to work with. I should do more volunteer work. It has been a few years now, and I have a hard time figuring out how I ever had time for a full-time job! No regrets!

All that said, I'd be happy to get back on the work-a-day treadmill if I could go back to being in my 30's again! It is okay to plan for retirement, but you shouldn't waste time wishing it would come sooner. It'll come to you soon enough.

 

[Herr Kutz]

Would like to retire at 50. Not an old fart, so still a good ways to go.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

My philosophy on retirement has been evolving over the last several years. If you asked me 2 or 3 years ago, my plan was to be done working in 8 to 10 years. But as I’ve thought it over, as long as I don’t hate what I do, why not keep bringing in cash? I might do consulting or contract work where I make a ton of money and can take breaks between contracts.

The wife and I decided before we ever married that we would never have kids, and it was the best decision we ever made IMO. It gives us so much more freedom and flexibility.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I think once I do get to the point of retirement, which is going to be at least 30 years from now, if more, I'll probably want some kind of side gig that involves seeing people, just to keep me busy and social. Otherwise I will get very lonely. My grandparents and parents and most other family will most likely be dead by then, so I would get very lonely just sitting at home all day.

I do have a dream of buying a rather isolated and off grid acreage property though and building it into a nature oasis, but I won't want to be there 100% of the time either, still need some socialization.

I sometimes think it would be cool to get married and start a family, but honestly I can't fathom the amount of work having kids would be, and I'm happy alone most of the time and don't really have that "urge" to get into a relationship. Just don't want to be alone 100% of the time. so as long as I force myself to socialize I think I'll be fine.

 

[Dr. Detroit]

When we get bored...we travel...that's why we bought thr RV.

What kind of RV - any cool places, how long do you stay at each location? any desire to camp host?

 

[imported_tajmahal]

^ woodworking is definitely something I want to get into. Plenty of useful items to make for everyone and anyone. If only I had a garage to speak of.

Part of the "projects" I mentioned earlier was doing home improvement jobs and yard-scaping. Remodeling bathrooms, building sheds and work structures, planters, gazebos and/or anything that will increase resale value. We're in Texas now because of the kids/grandkids, if we had our druthers we'd be where it isn't so miserable in the summer. We miss the Sierras.

 

[who?]

What kind of job with the Marshals? Federal law enforcement officers are required to retire by age 57 and since the federal retirement system requires 20 yr.s for retirement they have to be hired before they become 37 years old.

 

[vi edit]

My philosophy on retirement has been evolving over the last several years. If you asked me 2 or 3 years ago, my plan was to be done working in 8 to 10 years. But as I’ve thought it over, as long as I don’t hate what I do, why not keep bringing in cash? I might do consulting or contract work where I make a ton of money and can take breaks between contracts.

The wife and I decided before we ever married that we would never have kids, and it was the best decision we ever made IMO. It gives us so much more freedom and flexibility.

I do have kids. I'll be 50 when my oldest is out of college and 54 when my youngest is out. Even though I'll be able to retire I imagine the paycheck is far too enticing. I don't work a physically demanding job like my parents did. So why not keep on banking some bucks and making the most out of PTO time?

 

[IndyColtsFan]

I do have kids. I'll be 50 when my oldest is out of college and 54 when my youngest is out. Even though I'll be able to retire I imagine the paycheck is far too enticing. I don't work a physically demanding job like my parents did. So why not keep on banking some bucks and making the most out of PTO time?

I'll be 48 in a couple of months, so 50 is right around that corner for me. With a paid off house and no major bills, I'll be able to do something I really care about without regard to salary when I hit my mid 50s, or as I said above, I can just take contract gigs and ride them until I'm really "done" working while making a lot of money. When my father-in-law retired, his employer brought him back as a contractor and he makes a lot of money and they let him have a few months off between contracts as well. That's my ideal model.

My one big reservation about working too long is that men in my family have died fairly young - my dad died at 63, one grandfather at 57, and another at 66. So I think I probably won't work much beyond my early 60s unless my health is outstanding or illnesses like cancer are somehow relatively easy to treat in 15 years. I'm not optimistic on that last point though.

 

[njdevilsfan87]

Part-time jobs (50% time, 50% salary, 50% benefits) really need to become more of a thing. If I worked from 7am-noon, and then had the rest of the day off, I could probably do that forever. Nothing really that interesting happens during those hours of the day anyway.