Originally posted by: BCYL
Honestly, you apology e-mail doesnt sound too sincere to me, it looks more like a 'cover my own ass' move... I wouldn't be surprised if she never replies you...
To be honest, yeah, I am still mad and the tension was build up over a period of time. The tension was original between her and the director and I have nothing to do with it, but then it got transfered to me as I take on some of that work. She had such a strong resistance to take the job assigned by the director, that he can't do anything about it. Because of this, the director got into trouble with other directors and they complained to VP of Engineering. He was under pressure to do something that will work.
I admit, the design I came up with is not perfect, because there are a lot of limitations we have to work with, and even after 3 meetings with managers and other team members, thats as far as we can go unless we force other directors to change their design (not going to happen for sure, our director already tried).
Before the whole fight started, she used to critize my work and call it "lots of bugs" without telling me where they are so I can fix it (just said, "I will fix it, just be careful next time" until I insisted that she should told me what and where they are. Only to find out that 1/2 of them are due to miscommunication between team members instead of design mistakes she blame me for.
After I took the assignment and ran into some trouble, I asked her for help (at that time we are not mad at each other yet) but she said she had no idea what is going on, what I wanted to do, and refered me to someone else. I ended up having to spend 3 days scratching my head figuring out that there were a limitation in her design that is not documented. When I told her what is going on, she said yeah, that is a limitation, and I saw a lot of smile on her face.
That's when I turned from feeling sorry for her to feeling angry.
After the first time I tell her to review code instead of complaining the same subject over and over again on email, I reply to everyone telling her to help review code instead of walking off in discussion and bitching after the fact. Then, she started digging out my previous code and complaining the quality. I gave in, and went back to fix every little things she mentioned.
The rest is history.