Newsflash:
My team got cancelled because of the product line is not selling well, and we will be dissolved and absorbed into 3 other teams.
Now we, and only we, will be integrated into the same team under a manager that opened this whole can of worm. Isn't it ironic? The same one that she accused of playing politics, and the same one that requested the code change from our former director.
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Ok here is the deal:
I was asked by my director to perform a task that my coworker refused to do. It would change her design, she thinks it was a bad idea, and refused to perform it herself. The director was under pressure from other directors and his boss, the VP of engineering, to change the design, so that other part of the system will work.
The coworker and I used to have lunch together all the time. We're not friends but could get along well. Ever since she knew I was assigned to change her design, she started ignoring me, and withheld info needed for the job that wasted me 2-3 days of my time. I asked her to review my code (mandatory review) and she bounced it to someone else. When someone else reviewed my code and she overheard what she didn't like, she came over to my cube to bitch, then walked off in the middle of my explaination.
Then after I checked in my code, she complained to the entire team (up to the director) about my design over and over again, I try to explain why and she tell me to stop because I "will break something". I got all fed up and reply to everyone that she "should have reviewed my code instead of bitched after the fact, and walked off in a discussion".
The manager called in both of us trying to cool us down. Three weeks went by and we still didn't say hi to each other but at least could work together without name calling.
Today, my last day on the project, someone else was reviewing my code. One guy who helped me out along the way chime in to help my explaination. That woman (now pregnant for 5 months with a big belly) started chiming in too, about what if something else that I wrote is wrong to begin with. All of a sudden, I felt mad and say "shut up", she got even madder, stood up on her desk, and yell across her partition (she sit next to my cube), asked me what kind of attitude was that. I told her she was interrupting my review (I only got a window of 2 hour for a 2.5 hour job), and she said she was not even talking to me, but to the other guy instead. I didn't want the situation to escalate and asked my reviewer if he wanted to go to a conference room instead, he said no (with a smile/laughing tone), and another guy looked across the cube at me wondering what is going on (also with a smile/laughing tone).
I am still mad at her for all the stuff, but she is pregnant and I am overreacting, especially my manager already told me it is just a job and don't get too personal (hint: I don't want this happening again). I think I should appologize just for the heck of it and be a man (don't fight a pregnant woman).
Should I?
Update:
1 hr after work started she goes around the office giving out food to everyone except me (walk right pass my cube), and did not reply to my email.
Well, I made my effort, she didn't accept it, so I don't blame myself anymore.
Update:
English fixed.
Cliff: got into a verbal fight with a pregnant coworker, her fault, do you apologize?
My team got cancelled because of the product line is not selling well, and we will be dissolved and absorbed into 3 other teams.
Now we, and only we, will be integrated into the same team under a manager that opened this whole can of worm. Isn't it ironic? The same one that she accused of playing politics, and the same one that requested the code change from our former director.
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Ok here is the deal:
I was asked by my director to perform a task that my coworker refused to do. It would change her design, she thinks it was a bad idea, and refused to perform it herself. The director was under pressure from other directors and his boss, the VP of engineering, to change the design, so that other part of the system will work.
The coworker and I used to have lunch together all the time. We're not friends but could get along well. Ever since she knew I was assigned to change her design, she started ignoring me, and withheld info needed for the job that wasted me 2-3 days of my time. I asked her to review my code (mandatory review) and she bounced it to someone else. When someone else reviewed my code and she overheard what she didn't like, she came over to my cube to bitch, then walked off in the middle of my explaination.
Then after I checked in my code, she complained to the entire team (up to the director) about my design over and over again, I try to explain why and she tell me to stop because I "will break something". I got all fed up and reply to everyone that she "should have reviewed my code instead of bitched after the fact, and walked off in a discussion".
The manager called in both of us trying to cool us down. Three weeks went by and we still didn't say hi to each other but at least could work together without name calling.
Today, my last day on the project, someone else was reviewing my code. One guy who helped me out along the way chime in to help my explaination. That woman (now pregnant for 5 months with a big belly) started chiming in too, about what if something else that I wrote is wrong to begin with. All of a sudden, I felt mad and say "shut up", she got even madder, stood up on her desk, and yell across her partition (she sit next to my cube), asked me what kind of attitude was that. I told her she was interrupting my review (I only got a window of 2 hour for a 2.5 hour job), and she said she was not even talking to me, but to the other guy instead. I didn't want the situation to escalate and asked my reviewer if he wanted to go to a conference room instead, he said no (with a smile/laughing tone), and another guy looked across the cube at me wondering what is going on (also with a smile/laughing tone).
I am still mad at her for all the stuff, but she is pregnant and I am overreacting, especially my manager already told me it is just a job and don't get too personal (hint: I don't want this happening again). I think I should appologize just for the heck of it and be a man (don't fight a pregnant woman).
Should I?
Update:
1 hr after work started she goes around the office giving out food to everyone except me (walk right pass my cube), and did not reply to my email.
Well, I made my effort, she didn't accept it, so I don't blame myself anymore.
Update:
English fixed.
Cliff: got into a verbal fight with a pregnant coworker, her fault, do you apologize?