So 9 years later and I still get people calling me about my ex-wife

[alkemyst]

Always debt collectors and always the same story....her father doesn't answer the phone (her last 'known' phone number). So they go looking into marriage records and find me, but fail to see our divorce in 1997.

I love giving them stories/gossip on her though

Å

 

[PowderBB3D]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
Always debt collectors and always the same story....her father doesn't answer the phone (her last 'known' phone number). So they go looking into marriage records and find me, but fail to see our divorce in 1997.

I love giving them stories/gossip on her though

Å

I can see why it didn't work out.

 

[MX2]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
I love giving them stories/gossip on her though

 

[SecretShadow]

1. Grow up.

2. Divorce has and never will leave both parties amicable with a clean break. You will be dealing with her in some form (social connections, old finances, etc) til the day you die.

 

[RaiderJ]

Could be fun if you play it right. I always enjoy telemarketers.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: RaiderJ
Could be fun if you play it right. I always enjoy telemarketers.

that's exactly it. They should not be calling here.

They ask usually the last time I have seen her, does she have any friends/family that would know where she is, what was her last job, etc.

So much room for the stories.

To the guy that told me to grow up...I know a few divorcees that still hang out and kids are not involved. They just knew themselves to be better friends.

My divorce was not a war until she found out I would not continue supporting her or paying her bills.

Å

 

[SecretShadow]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: RaiderJ
Could be fun if you play it right. I always enjoy telemarketers.

that's exactly it. They should not be calling here.

They ask usually the last time I have seen her, does she have any friends/family that would know where she is, what was her last job, etc.

So much room for the stories.

To the guy that told me to grow up...I know a few divorcees that still hang out and kids are not involved. They just knew themselves to be better friends.

My divorce was not a war until she found out I would not continue supporting her or paying her bills.

Å

So spreading lies about her is definitely an appropriate and mature response to her selfishness. Got it.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: RaiderJ
Could be fun if you play it right. I always enjoy telemarketers.

that's exactly it. They should not be calling here.

They ask usually the last time I have seen her, does she have any friends/family that would know where she is, what was her last job, etc.

So much room for the stories.

To the guy that told me to grow up...I know a few divorcees that still hang out and kids are not involved. They just knew themselves to be better friends.

My divorce was not a war until she found out I would not continue supporting her or paying her bills.

Å

So spreading lies about her is definitely an appropriate and mature response to her selfishness. Got it.

never said I was lying idiot.

 

[SecretShadow]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: RaiderJ
Could be fun if you play it right. I always enjoy telemarketers.

that's exactly it. They should not be calling here.

They ask usually the last time I have seen her, does she have any friends/family that would know where she is, what was her last job, etc.

So much room for the stories.

To the guy that told me to grow up...I know a few divorcees that still hang out and kids are not involved. They just knew themselves to be better friends.

My divorce was not a war until she found out I would not continue supporting her or paying her bills.

Å

So spreading lies about her is definitely an appropriate and mature response to her selfishness. Got it.

never said I was lying idiot.

Before you start calling me names (did you graduate from elementary school?), maybe check out the definition of both 'story' and 'gossip.' Plenty of room for interpretation that you were implying lies.

Gossip: idle talk or rumor, esp. about the personal or private affairs of others: the endless gossip about Hollywood stars.

Rumor: a story or statement in general circulation without confirmation or certainty as to facts: a rumor of war.

Story: 1. a narrative, either true or fictitious, in prose or verse, designed to interest, amuse, or instruct the hearer or reader; tale.
2. a fictitious tale, shorter and less elaborate than a novel.

 

[alkemyst]

Has someone wounded you in the past or something?

The gossip is gossip, not because it's a lie, but because I cannot verify it...however; based on our past...I have no reason to doubt it.

It's funny to get the reactions of these people.

nice dictionary quotes you nerdly bookworm.

 

[mrrman]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
Always debt collectors and always the same story....her father doesn't answer the phone (her last 'known' phone number). So they go looking into marriage records and find me, but fail to see our divorce in 1997.

I love giving them stories/gossip on her though

Å

I am with you man .....good 1

 

[dxkj]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

nice dictionary quotes you nerdly bookworm.

Lol, you sure showed him!

 

[BoomerD]

Arrr, sounds like ye didn't bury the wench deeply enuf...take heed next time ye have that problem matey...:roll:

Fortunately, I DON'T have any issue similar to that, (been married to the same one for 31 yrs) but IMO, you'd do here more harm by giving them the info they seek, IF you actually know it...but if you don't, then spreading gossip is the next best thing!

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: BoomerD
Arrr, sounds like ye didn't bury the wench deeply enuf...take heed next time ye have that problem matey...:roll:

Fortunately, I DON'T have any issue similar to that, (been married to the same one for 31 yrs) but IMO, you'd do here more harm by giving them the info they seek, IF you actually know it...but if you don't, then spreading gossip is the next best thing!

I have no idea, her sister the last time we were speaking didn't know either (around the time of maybe 4-5 years after our divorce), her friends all came to me looking for her.

It's wierd she dropped off the map, but she started alot of wierd and bad stuff rolling that she never experienced and I had warned her about.

The best stunt she pulled was see me at college and think I was stalking her...had her b/f call a job I no longer worked at. The funny part was using the dial by name there was an older man with my same exact name and middle initial.

I don't know exactly how he threatened him, but one of my friends there called to tell me about SWAT showing up to escort him off premises and search around the building/parking garage.

 

[badmouse]

As far as I'm concerned, debt collectors aren't human and so any normal social, truth, morality etc considerations don't apply. Go ahead and play with them.

The ones that try and collect debt after 9 years are the scum of the earth. Remember that there is a statute of limitations on debt - normally 7 years - so what they are doing is probably illegal as heck.

Hmmm, so you got to keep the phone number after the divorce? She should have gotten a better lawyer.

Just kidding. :beer: :beer: :beer:

 

[miniMUNCH]

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: RaiderJ
Could be fun if you play it right. I always enjoy telemarketers.

that's exactly it. They should not be calling here.

They ask usually the last time I have seen her, does she have any friends/family that would know where she is, what was her last job, etc.

So much room for the stories.

To the guy that told me to grow up...I know a few divorcees that still hang out and kids are not involved. They just knew themselves to be better friends.

My divorce was not a war until she found out I would not continue supporting her or paying her bills.

Å

So spreading lies about her is definitely an appropriate and mature response to her selfishness. Got it.

never said I was lying idiot.

Before you start calling me names (did you graduate from elementary school?), maybe check out the definition of both 'story' and 'gossip.' Plenty of room for interpretation that you were implying lies.

Gossip: idle talk or rumor, esp. about the personal or private affairs of others: the endless gossip about Hollywood stars.

Rumor: a story or statement in general circulation without confirmation or certainty as to facts: a rumor of war.

Story: 1. a narrative, either true or fictitious, in prose or verse, designed to interest, amuse, or instruct the hearer or reader; tale.
2. a fictitious tale, shorter and less elaborate than a novel.

Nothing in any of those def's leads to a conclusion that he implied he was lying about his ex.

Nice try at being erudite...but you didn't quite make it.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: SecretShadow

Dude, give ME a three-word chain from dictionary definitions and I'll make him into a pedophile:roll:

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
2. Divorce has and never will leave both parties amicable with a clean break. You will be dealing with her in some form (social connections, old finances, etc) til the day you die.

Not true.

I divorced my ex-wife over 5 years ago. The day I walked out was the last day we had contact. I have never seen or heard of her since.

 

[ta8689]

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
1. Grow up.

2. Divorce has and never will leave both parties amicable with a clean break. You will be dealing with her in some form (social connections, old finances, etc) til the day you die.

Fvck you as$hole

 

[Steve]

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[JEDI]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
Always debt collectors and always the same story....her father doesn't answer the phone (her last 'known' phone number). So they go looking into marriage records and find me, but fail to see our divorce in 1997.

I love giving them stories/gossip on her though

Å

change phone # and make it unlisted?

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: badmouse
As far as I'm concerned, debt collectors aren't human and so any normal social, truth, morality etc considerations don't apply. Go ahead and play with them.

The ones that try and collect debt after 9 years are the scum of the earth. Remember that there is a statute of limitations on debt - normally 7 years - so what they are doing is probably illegal as heck.

Hmmm, so you got to keep the phone number after the divorce? She should have gotten a better lawyer.

Just kidding. :beer: :beer: :beer:

This is the messed up part. These debts are more than likely new...it's possible they could be some of the older ones, but those were mostly just her school loans and a bit of mine. In return, I had taken on the rest of our debt during the divorce (close to $6 figures with the loss I was forced into to sell our house to her cousin, she would not sign a contract otherwise and I am sure cash was exchanged on the back end).

My phone number has changed since then about 6 times now. These people are looking me up through phone records and a few times her or her family had given them my number.

 

[PrinceofWands]

Oh yeah, I also suffer satan syndrome, though in different ways usually. Then again I also still get calls and mail for my mother, who died 16 years ago. Nothing pleases me more than feigning an emotional breakdown when people call and bug me...

"Hello is ***** ********** there."

"What? No! How dare you. She's dead all right???!!! HOW CAN YOU BE SUCH A HORRIBLE PERSON??? DON'T YOU HAVE ANY EMOTIONS AT ALL, DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH THIS HURTS???!!!"

*click*

I figure maybe some of the callers will decide it isn't worth it for minimum wage and move on to actual professions. If nothing else it makes me feel better.

I'd really love for any form of unsolicited contact to result in felony convictions. Well, not any form, I understand political surveys, notices from the city about relevant stuff, even just debt collections, etc. Just anything that has to do with advertising or marketing. If the goal is to make a business money it should be 25yrs and 250,000 for contacting anyone in any way (mail, phone, email, whatever) unless they specifcially request it - and records of such a request (signed and verified) should be required to allow it.

In the case of divorce contacts, I guess I can see the validity in a company contacting you once. After you explain the situation though that should be it. Any further contacts are simply out of line. Personally I just give them all her current contact info, and if they're really nice anything that might help them destroy her; you know, social security number, her employer, bank name and account numbers if I happen to have a recent check from her, that kind of thing. It's the least I can do to repay her for all she's done. :evil:

 

[Iron Addict]

hÅi, i tÅlk lyke th!s! !m gÅy!

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
hÅi, i tÅlk lyke th!s! !m gÅy!

Did I forget to give you a reach-around?