I work with people before they have a pre-approval but because I have to being new. But really why should an agent waste their time with someone who may have no clue what their true buying power is. It's just logic.
I agree, it's just what my agent told me. I showed him my pre-approval letter at the first sit-down, after telling him over the phone my target purchase price, and he just waved it off as garbage. "No one cares about some nameless person from some big bank forwarding you a piece of paper. Here! Talk to these local people that I totally trust and are friends of mine because they are awesome!"
And, I get it. Part of picking the right lender is picking someone that has a history of closing smoothly. I do have some friends that have had issues dealing with Wells Fargo branches or BoA, where because it is exceedingly rare to deal with an actual broker that can handle things in office, they have to deal with central approval, which can lead to delays. In the end, I ended up getting what I wanted pretty much at the price I was aiming for, and everything went relatively smoothly. So, I can't really say that going with an agent was bad; but I did realize how much more money I lost, essentially supplementing his fee through the seller's and seller's agent listing price, as well as not being able to negotiate closing costs directly. There is a lot of separation that agents inject between the two parties which, I understand to a degree, but a lot of this is aimed at the agents protecting their commission if the deal falls through.
I didn't meet the seller until the final walk-around, and the guy was totally cool, laid-back, and more than willing to work things out. That wasn't really the message I was getting through my agent during the month or so process of making the offer and closing. So, while I ended up pretty much where I wanted and I do give credit for that, realizing that handling all of the papers myself would have been highly stressful and frustrating, I understand that I spent way more money than necessary...but I accepted that going in. And now I know. :\