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Originally posted by: Darwin333
Originally posted by: FallenHero
Originally posted by: Mermaidman
Having read about 1/4 of the thread, I don't understand why you were considered incapable of protecting Emily. Your fiancee was the threat and she is now confined, so the threat is removed.
It is a terrible situation and I hope it will improve.
My guess would be that emotionally and mentally, he is kinda messed up at the moment as well. More than likely there is a cooling off period. I highly doubt the state would take away his kid permanently because of the mother's actions.
BTW, for those that don't know. True Paranoid schizophrenia is nearly impossible to treat without turning the person into a zombie. They are, in the truest sense, completely detached from reality. They have no concept of anything but their own world. They cannot be reasoned with, talked to on a normal level, nor stopped once they have an idea in their head. I deal with some in the course of my job very often. They have strength beyond what one might expect when they fight because they no longer sense pain. It's very sad when it happens and I can imagine what Stumps went through.
Stumps - Hang in there man. My thoughts do go out to you and your daughter. You have not failed your family. Your wife's condition is no fault of yours. Emily is your priority now.
Wow. I am glad the OP and his daughter are ok, at least physically. At least your wife is in a place that can give her proper medical help.
A little off topic, but do we know what causes Paranoid schizophrenia? Is it something that can just hit someone at some point in their life? Or are they born with some wires crossed (sorry about the crude analogy, I couldn't think of anything else)?
I ask because you say there is no cure for it. Even in hospital settings, do patients ever have a "happy" existance? I am going to have to do some googling.
Originally posted by: Stumps
It saddens me a lot on how people can judge and discard people just because they are different, I wasn't bought up that way, I have two adopted sisters that have Downs syndrom (one 6 and one 9 years old)...they were both abandoned by their parents when they were born...my parents didn't give up on them and they a leading very normal happy lives...I am a better person for having them as my sisters and I say that proudly.
While I have lost my beloved Michelle I can still say that I love her and always will...she will always have a place in my heart.
It wasn't her fault she has Schitzophrenia, she was born with it, I'm not about too, or ever judge her because of that.
This is what confuses me about some of the posts in this thread, up until 9 months ago Michelle had very little symptoms, she had everything under control with medication and we where living a normal life, but even when she started to have problems we were able to get on top of them and she continued through the pregnacy with out any problems, it wasn't until a few after the birth of Emily that Michelle started to have problems, the doctors who are treating her suspect that Emily was the trigger for her Psychosis....Emily isn't an easy child to look after due to the fact that she has bad reflux and is generally a very needy baby, this situation would place a lot of stress on a normal mother.
Originally posted by: Stumps
Sooo I finally have some good news,
Child services have finally placed Emily with my parents for 3 months while I try and sort everything else out, as of tommorrow I will be able to see Emily anytime I want and take her places and time I want...yay
Originally posted by: FallenHero
Originally posted by: Darwin333
Originally posted by: FallenHero
Originally posted by: Mermaidman
Having read about 1/4 of the thread, I don't understand why you were considered incapable of protecting Emily. Your fiancee was the threat and she is now confined, so the threat is removed.
It is a terrible situation and I hope it will improve.
My guess would be that emotionally and mentally, he is kinda messed up at the moment as well. More than likely there is a cooling off period. I highly doubt the state would take away his kid permanently because of the mother's actions.
BTW, for those that don't know. True Paranoid schizophrenia is nearly impossible to treat without turning the person into a zombie. They are, in the truest sense, completely detached from reality. They have no concept of anything but their own world. They cannot be reasoned with, talked to on a normal level, nor stopped once they have an idea in their head. I deal with some in the course of my job very often. They have strength beyond what one might expect when they fight because they no longer sense pain. It's very sad when it happens and I can imagine what Stumps went through.
Stumps - Hang in there man. My thoughts do go out to you and your daughter. You have not failed your family. Your wife's condition is no fault of yours. Emily is your priority now.
Wow. I am glad the OP and his daughter are ok, at least physically. At least your wife is in a place that can give her proper medical help.
A little off topic, but do we know what causes Paranoid schizophrenia? Is it something that can just hit someone at some point in their life? Or are they born with some wires crossed (sorry about the crude analogy, I couldn't think of anything else)?
I ask because you say there is no cure for it. Even in hospital settings, do patients ever have a "happy" existance? I am going to have to do some googling.
I asked the same question of the psychological people at work. Unless I am forgetting something, we still don't know what fully causes paranoid schizophrenia. It only really starts to show up at around the age of 18 (you will never see a child diagnosed with it). By age 25, its full blown and cannot be stopped. I'll ask when I see them next more about it, as thats all I can really recall.
Originally posted by: Stumps
Sooo I finally have some good news,
Child services have finally placed Emily with my parents for 3 months while I try and sort everything else out, as of tommorrow I will be able to see Emily anytime I want and take her places and time I want...yay
Originally posted by: Stumps
I still haven't gotten anymore news about Michelle, other than the fact that her parents blame me for everything that has happened to her...but I don't really give a hoot about what they say and think about me.
Originally posted by: Stumps
Sooo I finally have some good news,
Child services have finally placed Emily with my parents for 3 months while I try and sort everything else out, as of tommorrow I will be able to see Emily anytime I want and take her places and time I want...yay
I still haven't gotten anymore news about Michelle, other than the fact that her parents blame me for everything that has happened to her...but I don't really give a hoot about what they say and think about me.
I miss her so much, I really wish I could have done more for her...you don't realise how lonely life is until you have to go on with out the one person that you loved more than anything else.
At least I have been able to keep myself busy the last week or so by neffing on the AT forums....this place is always good for cheering me up when I feel down.
Thanks to every one who sent PM's with nice messages...you are a credit to the AT forums.
Originally posted by: Imagination
Originally posted by: Stumps
I still haven't gotten anymore news about Michelle, other than the fact that her parents blame me for everything that has happened to her...but I don't really give a hoot about what they say and think about me.
Huh? How do they come up w/ that one?
Originally posted by: Stumps
Originally posted by: Imagination
Originally posted by: Stumps
I still haven't gotten anymore news about Michelle, other than the fact that her parents blame me for everything that has happened to her...but I don't really give a hoot about what they say and think about me.
Huh? How do they come up w/ that one?
Her mother is an idiot, she tried to bury her head in the sand when we asked for help, now she critises me for not doing enougth.
Michelles parents haven't even come down from sydney to visit her or even find out what is really happening to her....very sad indeed.
Originally posted by: sixone
Originally posted by: Stumps
Originally posted by: Imagination
Originally posted by: Stumps
I still haven't gotten anymore news about Michelle, other than the fact that her parents blame me for everything that has happened to her...but I don't really give a hoot about what they say and think about me.
Huh? How do they come up w/ that one?
Her mother is an idiot, she tried to bury her head in the sand when we asked for help, now she critises me for not doing enougth.
Michelles parents haven't even come down from sydney to visit her or even find out what is really happening to her....very sad indeed.
I'd bet that they just can't face it - probably because they feel guilty for not doing more when you asked them for help.
Thank God they didn't get custody of your daughter.
Originally posted by: Stumps
Her mother did try to get custody of Emily, she had made it very clear when Emily was first born that she would try for custody...but Adoptive parents have no rights towards grand children in Australia...so that was never going to happen.
My gf's mother has treated several shizo patients who now lead perfectly normal lives.Originally posted by: FallenHero
BTW, for those that don't know. True Paranoid schizophrenia is nearly impossible to treat without turning the person into a zombie.
As it has been explained to me, this is very true. Bacteria and infections can play a much larger role in physical and mental disorders than we know. But I'm no expert.Originally posted by: Whisper
What's known about schizophrenia at this point, at least from a professional standpoint, is that not enough is known. I can say that it's genetic/organic bases have been more strongly-substantiated in recent years, and that it likely carries a hereditary component (hence the genetic basis).
Beyond that, there are all sorts of theories concerning etiology. Off the top of my head, I believe I've read that researchers have tentatively linked cases to prenatal influenza infection. Beyond that, I know that schizophrenia generally leads to, among other things, atrophy of the frontal lobes, and subsequent deterioration of executive functions. However, whether that's a cause or effect of the disease is, as far as I know, a mystery at this point. I believe there are also various dopamine and/or seratonin theories, although dopamine/seratonin is generally considered to be linked to just about every mental process in existence.
Age of onset is, on average, somewhere around 20-24 years in males, and roughly five or so years later in females. Prognosis can be highly variable, and depends in large part on the type of onset (sudden versus gradual), the types and degrees of symptoms (predominantly positive or negative; severe or mild), and the awareness of the client regarding the illness.
Some people even think that schizophrenia as a diagnostic category might, in fact, be a "catch all" of sorts, and in actuality reflects a wide range of fundamentally different conditions. Sort of like how "minimal brain damage/minimal brain dysfunction," a tag that has fallen out of favor, used to include such now-differentiated diagnoses as learning disorders, ADHD, conduct disorder, and, at times, mild mental retardation and borderline intellectual functioning.
Originally posted by: Stumps
Sooo I finally have some good news,
Child services have finally placed Emily with my parents for 3 months while I try and sort everything else out, as of tommorrow I will be able to see Emily anytime I want and take her places and time I want...yay
Originally posted by: kingshoc
Hey Stumps How Are You Doing? Any News
Originally posted by: Stumps
Originally posted by: kingshoc
Hey Stumps How Are You Doing? Any News
I haven't had any news about Michelle since she was transfered to Canberra two weeks ago.
Emily is doing fine...although she has to have an operation in few weeks to repair a hernia in her belly button, it start to come up while she was in foster care and now it has started to get bigger....but it doesn't seem to bother her and she is a happy little girl.
She is smiling a lot and make lots of funny little noise....very cute, I took her to the local baby clinic and they said other than the Hernia she is perfectly fine...she now weighs 11 pounds 2 onces....almost double her birth weight now...and she is only 9 weeks old.
I'll post some new pics of her in a day or so.