So I kicked my room mate out.....POLL ADDED!

[Yossarian]

you didn't kick your roommate out, your friend did. you're a doormat.

 

[chambersc]

You're apartment, your rules 100% Absolutely you did the right thing.

In fact, you should throw all of her ****** on the lawn right now.

 

[SViper]

Dude, I have no idea how you put up with her for that long. I would have had an agreement in writing. Her ass would have been on the street the first time she got in my face and yelled about rules that she agreed to.

 

[OVerLoRDI]

Originally posted by: Lonyo
The smoking thing is a bit much with a baby in the house, but most of the rest of the stuff I read before getting bored doesn't seem unreasonable, especially if she's not paying rent.

Agreed. Smoking kind of not cool with a baby around but if the cat did stuff like that to my property it would have died. You shouldn't have taken her in in the first place, also letting her use your car and your house for free?! What were you thinking?

 

[d94]

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Your poll is total BS. Add some in-between options for actual optionions.

Your actions are totally BS. YOu invite a woman with child to live with you and her complaining about you smoking isn't legit? Give me a break.

it smoke it up just to kill the physco bitches kid.
sounds like the kid doesnt need to live long enough to exerperience mom.


theng again, i would of never let this happen in the first place lol

 

[Zysoclaplem]

I have lived with a few girls. A mistake I will never make again. Ever.

 

[j00fek]

just say no to extra baggage

 

[DaShen]

If this isn't SHENS... you should have got her to leave a lot sooner.

 

[DaShen]

BTW, the best thing you could have done was given her a month and then told her that you were running into some financial problems, and she would have to start paying rent. If she throws a fit, tell her you need to find a roommate that will pay.

Added to that, if she pays she will have more of a say in what goes on in the apartment. Do you see what I am saying. So what if the cat scratches up the furniture. Unless it is expensive furniture, you will get money back through rent. Make the rent exactly half of the actually rent. And what are you doing housing someone that has so many issues (warrant, violent, angry when she doesn't get her way...)? Obviously she has the maturity of an 8th grader, and she has a kid that she can't take care of herself. You don't sound so mature yourself, but whatever, in this situation you have every right to be angry. You should have just given her a few months to stay with you, and then started charging rent. But live and learn.

Constant yelling at each other while there is a baby in the house? People should be more responsible than that.

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: irishScott

Originally posted by: Philippine Mango

Originally posted by: DainBramaged

Originally posted by: irishScott
To do so is forcing the kid to smoke and inhale 2x the tar you do, which the kid cannot control.

So, I'm safer to smoke firsthand than secondhand? Sweet, I'll go buy a pack.

buhahaha, agreed, it makes no sense to say that second hand smoking is worse than first hand, yes it can be bad but noway worse.. ****** just the logic in that the smoker too has to breathe the air filled with smoke should show that second hand smoking can't be worse than first hand...

Smoke in fresh air, friend is near by, picks up smoke.
Smoke inside, friend is near by, picks up smoke and you pick up smoke... You're still going to be inhaling more than the second hand smoker...

Read my quotes on and at the bottom of page 4. PWNAGE!!!!

What's funny is it is you that gets owned in your own thread on this issue just a couple hours later:

More a point of hysteria inducing facts without a very simple disclaimer:

The vast majority of ETS in a room will never enter your lungs. The concentration of smoke you inhale as ETS is far, FAR lower than that of the smoker.

So while the ETS itself may be have higher parts per million of dangerous chemicals, the parts per million inhaled is far, FAR lower because the ETS is dispersed in the air and severely diluted.

In the end, it's a useless "fact." Because it does not tell you the concentration a person inhales in a given environment.

And this is even more pronounced outside, where just a whiff of smoke is far less dangerous to you than the sunlight you're standing in, and the exhaust fumes from cars, trucks and power stations you're breathing.

Is ETS dangerous to people genetically prone to cancer and heart disease? Probably, but only in highly concentrated amounts in enclosed spaces with poor ventilation, heavy smokers and long term daily exposure. Anyone who makes health claims when faced with brief occasional exposure outside or in well ventilated areas is being absurd.

 

[Phokus]

lol, your friend got hit in the face that many times by a girl? lol

 

[saymyname]

You guys are both sick individuals. You tried to be nice but I'll bet money that you thought you were going to get laid by doing so and never did so we now hear this version of events.

 

[thraashman]

If she's not paying rent or anything, she has no right to DEMAND anything of you. However if she requests things in a calm and polite manner, then you should respect her and consider said request if it's reasonable. The cat thing, oh to hell with that. You let her move in, you let her kid move in, expecting that the cat gets free reign too is WAY too much on her part. I woulda made her understand she has 3 options regarding the cat, it's an indoor cat and indoor in her room only, it's an outdoor cat and never comes indoors, or there is no cat in regards to your house.

The smoking thing. Had she come out and asked your friends not to smoke inside for the babies sake, that's polite and an understandable request. If she did indeed pitch a fit, she needs to understand that you have NO requirement to do anything nor do your friends. That's why things called requests exist.

And where I can understand your irritation it does sound to me like you responded to aggression with aggression. And while I fully believe you about your friend never hitting her, I'm willing to bet he was yelling himself quite loud.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

tell her she should start stripping so she can make enough money to pay you.

 

[yllus]

Originally posted by: saymyname
You guys are both sick individuals. You tried to be nice but I'll bet money that you thought you were going to get laid by doing so and never did so we now hear this version of events.

Hmm, how much do you want to bet? How about $100?

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
You should buy your buddy a hooker, and yourself a set of balls

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: yllus

Originally posted by: saymyname
You guys are both sick individuals. You tried to be nice but I'll bet money that you thought you were going to get laid by doing so and never did so we now hear this version of events.

Hmm, how much do you want to bet? How about $100?

up it! $1000000! oh how about the guy just gets a perm ban? not reading the thread then makeing stupid comments deserves it.

 

[pontifex]

why does this thread still say "I kicked my room mate out" when it was your friend who did it?

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: NaOH

Originally posted by: everman
You never should have let her live there AND use your car for free in the first place, wtf were you thinking?

I can't help but think he wanted something else in return (nookie)

I was thinking the same thing.

As stated before, the smoking is a WTF for me... you should know when you bring a baby into your apartment that you are giving up SOME things. She should be kind enough to pick up baby stuff from time to time when she's living rent-free AND getting the benefit of using your car. As for the cats, dude, why didn't you have ground rules going in that you wouldn't take cats? Just tell her, listen, you can have all of this, but no cats.

- You were right to kick her out
- She is crazy and clearly not fit to be a parent
- You're from KC? Me too! Women here are crazy!

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: irishScott

Originally posted by: xgsound
I'm sure I'm older than most of the ATers, but I am still surprised by the amount of comments that smoking around the baby is so terrible. By the discription of the childs current home life, parental example, and lack of a current address, I don't see how smoking becomes a measurable issue.

When I was a kid almost noone had a "smoke free" house. The 2 or 3 "smoke free" households I recall up until I was about 30 were the biggest jerks around. Times have changed alot in that regard, but this childs life would have to improve 1,000% for smoking to be a problem worth considering on any level.

It's a good thing she wasn't paying rent, because there could be legal issues to getting her removed if she was.

Good luck to all concerned.


Jim

There's a reason my generation (born 1987) has a longer life expectancy than the previous one.

There's also the fact that your inhaling so much sh!T it's pathetic. And when you smoke in public you force us non-smokers to inhale twice as much (5x in the case of CO) sh!t as you do.

One of the things that kept me from smoking is that I knew I would harm people, let alone harming myself. Did you know that smokers and people exposed to smoke in general live shorter lives with more health complications? I dunno about you, but that's something I want to avoid for myself and my future kids.

I'm not saying that not smoking in the house will make a home-life perfect, but as far as physical conditions go, a non-smoking household is drastically better than a smoking household.

by the way...your generation doesn't have a life-expectancy until that time of senescence approaches, and the data backs it up.
While common sense would argue that second-hand smoke is harmful, the facts remain:

1) No peer-reviewed study has directly linked second-hand smoke to any harmful effect
2) Those studies point to facts regarding the composition of second-hand smoke vs that smoked through a filter, which can be analyzed in a controlled environment. Again, none of this has been able to prove a direct link to human disease.
3) The major FDA study released in the 90's and used as the primary data to rebuff the anti-smoking lobby, has been largely rejected as an unsound study with proven events of "intentionally misreported" data.

I hate cigarette smoke. I'm allergic to it. It makes sense that it is harmful, yet no study has ever proven that.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: NaOH

Originally posted by: everman
You never should have let her live there AND use your car for free in the first place, wtf were you thinking?

I can't help but think he wanted something else in return (nookie)

I was thinking the same thing.

As stated before, the smoking is a WTF for me... you should know when you bring a baby into your apartment that you are giving up SOME things. She should be kind enough to pick up baby stuff from time to time when she's living rent-free AND getting the benefit of using your car. As for the cats, dude, why didn't you have ground rules going in that you wouldn't take cats? Just tell her, listen, you can have all of this, but no cats.

- You were right to kick her out
- She is crazy and clearly not fit to be a parent
- You're from KC? Me too! Women here are crazy!

op is homosexual.

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: amdforever2
Baby was in a bedroom off of the living room.

Door shut.

Yet still, at 3 am, the cancer scare apparently had to be addressed with my friends.

I don't even smoke myself.

WTF?? You don't smoke, yet you allow your friend to in the apartment? That 's retarded...unless...he's the one blowing you. OH, I get it now.
/thread

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: Lonyo
The smoking thing is a bit much with a baby in the house, but most of the rest of the stuff I read before getting bored doesn't seem unreasonable, especially if she's not paying rent.

Agreed. That was the one thing you did that I consider wrong. It's not too hard to ask your friends to step outside and smoke, and they would have understood.

At the very least, tell her that you're going to let her friends smoke, so she can take the baby out if that's a problem.

And like everyone else said, you didn't kick her out, and you should man up. It's one thing to let someone freeload off of you for an indefinite period. It's another thing to let the freeloader abuse you at the same time.

 

[Gdepp519]

Originally posted by: everman
You never should have let her live there AND use your car for free in the first place, wtf were you thinking?

*nods in Agreement*

 

[FoBoT]

next time just marry her and make it "official"