So, I loaned my Dad $3,000.....

[StageLeft]

I would not write him off, but I'd definitely write the money off. If you think he's even worth it, just tell him that the $3k is behind you. Hopefully he'll appreciate that. In regards to his life being a mess I doubt that there is much you can do about it. I'm sure you'll be an infinitely better father to your own children because of this.

 

[ultimatebob]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
Tell him to get into some therapy for his depression.

I doubt that this guy could afford therapy, let alone the $3,000 that he owes Megamorph. This loser should probably declare bankruptcy if he hasn't already, try to get a better job, and attempt to start his life over.

 

[AntMan530]

claim his butt as a dependent
on your taxes man

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

I'm sorry to say, it sounds like you were used by your dad, otherwise even if he was unable to pay you back he'd at least mention it and try to make some kind of small payments. In any case, it's up to you if you want to write the $$ and your dad off, or continue to have a relationship with him, but I'd say you will not be seeing that money any time in the near future, if ever.

 

[Yosoce]

You said yourself you didnt think he would be able to repay you way back when you loaned him the money and yet you still loaned it to him. Since you knew that it was a bad risk you obviously still went ahead and did it because you thought it was the right thing to do, repayment or not. Its still the right thing to have done, repayment or not, so yeah, take the good karma and forget about it.

 

[Nutdotnet]

I'd take his ass to small claims......down the road if he doesn't pay you back.

It sounds like his life went to sh!t quick. Sure, he wasn't the "best" father but he is still your father. It would be rather low of you to try to get the money from him right now. But that sure doesn't mean you have to write it off.

Wait another year or so (it doesn't sound like you need the money right away) and see if he can get his sh!t together. If and when he does get back on his feet then that is the time you confront him about the money. Work out a payment plan or something of that nature.

You have a verbal contract with him. That is good enough for small claims.

 

[Geekbabe]

Sounds like you're getting to see your father reap the pitiful crop he's sown in his life,I'd write the loan off.If you are truly interested in having a relationship at this point,perhaps you could convince him to get some therapy and anti-depressants. It is very possible that all of this might cause him to rethink his life and priorities.You might well come away with a new,stronger relationship because of it.

 

[Yossarian]

Forget about the money.

 

[StageLeft]

That is good enough for small claims.

If you can proove it I think that the mending that writing off the $3k would do to the relationship would be more significant than a new bigscreen for megamorph, and he seems interested in that. His father is hardly a role model but you have only one, and I think in such situations it's always better to be the bigger man about it and try to make the best of it all, because the other road could be laced with regrets down the road, and surely won't leave anybody happier for it.

 

[replicator]

Write it off.

I think as your father, he must already feel pretty low about asking his son to borrow money to make payments on debt.
His world seems to be crumbling before his own eyes, so I think asking him for money now might seem to him as the final nail in the coffin.

Maybe just tell him not to worry about it at all, and after he gets back on his feet, you can talk about repayment.

Even though he wasn't there for you, I think he should learn that you should be there for your family, and you're helping him learn this by not going after him when he is down in the hole.

(still I don't know your relationship, so ultimately it's in your hands.)

 

[txxxx]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
Tell him to get into some therapy for his depression.

Before he does something stupid. After all, he is your dad.

 

[NightCrawler]

Cliff Notes:

*Dad was an absent father
*Dad marries young babe
*Dad needs money so you loan him $3000
*Young Babe leaves him
*Dad loses his house
*Dad is now depressed and alone and no longer working but you want your $3000 back

Prediction: Dad is now old, depressed and probably hard to get good work like he use to when he was young. Dad might swallow a bottle of pills.

Result: Son loses $3000 and his Dad

 

[SilentZero]

Go to the matresses!

 

[DaWhim]

Originally posted by: NightCrawler
Cliff Notes:

*Dad was an absent father
*Dad marries young babe
*Dad needs money so you loan him $3000
*Young Babe leaves him
*Dad loses his house
*Dad is now depressed and alone and no longer working but you want your $3000 back

Prediction: Dad is now old, depressed and probably hard to get good work like he use to when he was young. Dad might swallow a bottle of pills.

Result: Son loses $3000 and his Dad

haha...either way, I don't think you are getting your money back

 

[Sepen]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Sounds like you're getting to see your father reap the pitiful crop he's sown in his life,I'd write the loan off.If you are truly interested in having a relationship at this point,perhaps you could convince him to get some therapy and anti-depressants. It is very possible that all of this might cause him to rethink his life and priorities.You might well come away with a new,stronger relationship because of it.

Finally, reason!

I would forget the money. It sounds like your Dad needs help. And why would you discuss something so personal with total strangers? One thing that I learned young and have taught my kids well is that family matters stay private, no matter what!
You have an opportunity here to make a difference in not only his life but in yours as well. You will be a better person for it, so go with it.

 

[edmundoab]

he is your dad no matter what...,

 

[sillymofo]

Dude, after all, he's your dad. Either you give him the money or don't, lending your parents money is just wrong.

 

[Dissipate]

Originally posted by: edmundoab
he is your dad no matter what...,

So? All that means is that his father contributed sperm, nothing more.

 

[sillymofo]

Originally posted by: Dissipate

Originally posted by: edmundoab he is your dad no matter what...,

So? All that means is that his father contributed sperm, nothing more.

I'm so glad that society is ripped with great upbringings such as yourself!!!!

So in essense, you're nothing but a sperm, if I was your dad, I should have invested some money in a condom.

 

[dman]

No. I am your father.

Search your feelings you know it to be true.

Can I have $3000?

 

[Dissipate]

Originally posted by: cr4zymofo

Originally posted by: Dissipate

Originally posted by: edmundoab he is your dad no matter what...,

So? All that means is that his father contributed sperm, nothing more.

I'm so glad that society is ripped with great upbringings such as yourself!!!!

So in essense, you're nothing but a sperm, if I was your dad, I should have invested some money in a condom.

Uh, read the the original post dumbass. His father wasn't a significant figure in his life. What does the fact that he is his biological father have to do with anything? It doesn't. Therefore he should sue for his $3,000 back.

He and my Mother were separated a great majority of the time and he never made much effort to be a part of my life...despite the fact that I was a star baseball player who played all the way through college. He never even attended one of my games my entire life and I played every year from age 5 to 22. He was also the kind of guy who wasn't going to make any sacrifices for me. I am his only child. My parents divorced when I was 16.

I rest my case.

 

[Greg03]

Originally posted by: Joker81
I was so tempted in making. a parody thread.

My son loaned me 3,000 and I don't want to pay him back.


This is a tough one. I think you should ask for it back. An interest free loan is good. but not paying it is bad. I mean if he cared for you at all he wouldn't try and avoid paying you. He is trying to get out of it. And if he gets mad that you want it back then you know it was all for the money. He shouldn't be pissed but he probably will be.

Jesus, that would have been the funniest damn thing.

 

[CPA]

Originally posted by: dtyn
You have a contract? No? You're sh|t out of luck. At least, AFAIK. I never would have loaned him the money <--- Monday morning quarterback.

Verbal contracts are just as valid as written ones. The only hurdle may be convincing a judge of a definite timeframe to repay.

 

[Mursilis]

Originally posted by: CPA

Originally posted by: dtyn
You have a contract? No? You're sh|t out of luck. At least, AFAIK. I never would have loaned him the money <--- Monday morning quarterback.

Verbal contracts are just as valid as written ones. The only hurdle may be convincing a judge of a definite timeframe to repay.

Finally, someone standing up for verbal contracts. Of course, I'd add that another hurdle may be proving that the contract even existed since, because the contract was verbal, it would be easy for one party to say the loan was a gift, or something similar.

 

[sillymofo]

Originally posted by: Dissipate

Originally posted by: cr4zymofo

Originally posted by: Dissipate

Originally posted by: edmundoab he is your dad no matter what...,

So? All that means is that his father contributed sperm, nothing more.

I'm so glad that society is ripped with great upbringings such as yourself!!!!

So in essense, you're nothing but a sperm, if I was your dad, I should have invested some money in a condom.

Uh, read the the original post dumbass. His father wasn't a significant figure in his life. What does the fact that he is his biological father have to do with anything? It doesn't. Therefore he should sue for his $3,000 back.

No dumb ass, he said it wasn't a significant part, but nontheless, was a part of his life. I can't fathom the day a child would fcuking "lend" money to his parents and want it back. May be we have a big gap in cultural diferences, but if you condone his way of thinking, then you can have your way of living. We are taught respect and care for your elder, blood is after all, thicker than water, or money in this instance. People do seperate, given the loose morals of "your" society, and there's nothing wrong with his dad to remarry, even if it was a wrong choice for him. His dad shouldn't take the blame for not being there for him, because his mom probably wanted it that way. I can't wait for the day your kids, if you manage to have any, to put your ass in a nursing home and you'll have to wait for their phone calls on special occasions, if they remember. Thanks to your liberal and "modern" way of thinking.

EDIT: So this kid is saying that his dad never made any effort, how about himself? Has he made any efforts? He is a grown man after all. Quit asking what others have done for you, and really look into your soul and ask what have you done for others.