Originally posted by: Sepen
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Sounds like you're getting to see your father reap the pitiful crop he's sown in his life,I'd write the loan off.If you are truly interested in having a relationship at this point,perhaps you could convince him to get some therapy and anti-depressants. It is very possible that all of this might cause him to rethink his life and priorities.You might well come away with a new,stronger relationship because of it.
Finally, reason!
I would forget the money. It sounds like your Dad needs help. And why would you discuss something so personal with total strangers? One thing that I learned young and have taught my kids well is that family matters stay private, no matter what!
You have an opportunity here to make a difference in not only his life but in yours as well. You will be a better person for it, so go with it.
I have never discussed this issue with anyone who knows me or my Dad personally. Actually, I've never discussed this before at all. I hardly think that discussing this issue in this forum in an anonymous fashion is "airing out my dirty laundry."
And yes, my Mother and Father both are very irresponsible people who have lived their entire lives for the "moment." They have always lived as if there is no tomorrow. They are both very selfish individuals who are most definitely "reaping the pitiful crops they've sown." However, as foolish as they are, I love them both.