With my fiance after finding out im going to be a father last week and even tho im in my 30s im still Alittle overwhelmed with so many different thoughts. Am I going to be a good father, am I going to be able to handle this for the next 18 years and be a good provider. I never imagined it would be this strenuous haha.
Part of me can't help but wonder if the fiance planned this "surprise" to make sure he didn't back out of the wedding plans.
Yeah, that first day home was pretty surreal.That's one set of emotions. The other one hard to describe is when your wife/babymamma and baby are getting wheeled out of the hospital, putting the munchkin in the car seat and driving home the first time. Then getting home and realizing...I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO WITH THIS THING!!!!!!!!!!!
First one is a lifechanger. Our second one has been like 1/10th the anxiety and drama of the first.
What year is this?you got a child on the way. im thinking if you are serious about marriage you move the date up to like next month.
You were trying to have a kid with someone you weren't married to?
You were trying to have a kid with someone you weren't married to?
By "shotgun wedding" you mean her dad pointing a shotgun at Don while asking if he is going to make an honest woman of her and marry her right?
Yeah, that first day home was pretty surreal.
Only thing different between her and i now and when were married is a piece of paper with our names on it.
Illegitimate to who? Dinosaurs?Well that and the fact that a kid that's born after you're married won't be illegitimate.
30 minute ride for us, but it wasn't terrifying to me for some reason. That first week was a doozy though.fuck that. driving home from the hospital was. At the time i lived 3 blocks from the hospital. a 5 minute drive. that 5 minutes was terrifying.
then that first week? oh shit. stress was out of this world.
Only thing different between her and i now and when were married is a piece of paper with our names on it.
Illegitimate to who? Dinosaurs?
Illegitimate to who? Dinosaurs?
The same people who criticize children out of wedlock also criticize babies < 9 months after marriage. Just sayin.Some social norms actually exist for a reason.
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The kid will be illegitimate to itself? :hmm:To their kid, fourteen years or so from now, when the hormones start kicking in.
good luck! the questions and self doubt never stop. i have 3 kids between 7 down to 10 months old. it gets easier and more difficult with time. every day is a new challenge. and 1 kid is a piece of cake. i almost envy my friends with one kid. almost.
Only thing different between her and i now and when were married is a piece of paper with our names on it.
the second you hear YOUR baby cry for the first time you know this shit is real and your life just changed forever.
30 minute ride for us, but it wasn't terrifying to me for some reason. That first week was a doozy though.