So im at my first OBGYN appointment

[ichy]

This thread reenforces my belief that I'm not meant to be a parent.

 

[rh71]

This part is easy. Just wait till her water breaks or she goes into labor. That's when the fun begins.

or if god forbid she goes into preterm labor and is forced to go on strict bedrest for 6 weeks which in turn forces you to be her caretaker cooking when you don't know how to cook and doing her bedpan full of pee multiple times a day and sleeping in the living room beside her every night because that's where the bathroom is closest when she has to do a deuce.

Just saying, not that I have true-life experience with that or anything.

P.S. I love my twins. Whatever ride you're going on, you'll love it about 2-3 years after they're born... that's when they can actually play with you. Kinda boring at first - you're mostly just the help-me-do-this slave initially. Oh and she will ask why you're not paying attention to the baby 100% of the time like she is.

 

[rh71]

It's not just a piece of paper, it's a commitment. The fact that you're so laid back about it, makes it seem like you don't realize how serious it is to have children.

Best wishes. :thumbsup:

I don't really agree with that. We bought a house together prior to marriage and while that's not the same as having a baby, our thoughts of staying together forever was the same. Some people just don't get that feeling and it's understandable. I'm with the OP. And having the child together and taking care of it every day only solidifies an already solid relationship.

 

[PingSpike]

Well that and the fact that a kid that's born after you're married won't be illegitimate.

I'm sure if he petitions the King for a royal decree his bastard can be legitimized to ensure his potential son inherits his lands and titles.

 

[crashtestdummy]

It's not just a piece of paper, it's a commitment. The fact that you're so laid back about it, makes it seem like you don't realize how serious it is to have children.

Best wishes. :thumbsup:

I think his point is that he made the commitment inherent in the marriage already. Marriage doesn't change the way you view your spouse, but it changes the way family, friends, society and (perhaps) your God views the two of you as a couple. He's not being laid back about the commitment, he's being laid back on the need for outside recognition.

 

[Blackjack200]

I'm sure if he petitions the King for a royal decree his bastard can be legitimized to ensure his potential son inherits his lands and titles.

But what of the strumpet? Surely she must be branded that all the village folk will know of her corrupting nature! :biggrin:

 

[SirStev0]

Is it weird to have someone else fiddling with your ladies downtown parts?

 

[vi edit]

Is it weird to have someone else fiddling with your ladies downtown parts?

Did you do any L&D rotations while in school? That's the real modesty destroyer. Nothing like being spread open with a dozen or more people rotating in and out of the room.

Birth isn't a beautiful thing. It's whirlwind of people shoving things in your wifes woohoo, screaming, puking, blood, sweat, more puking, nasty smell of water breaking if they have to do that to induce labor, more screaming, a bunch of people hudduled over your wife then they drag this blood and mucous covered screaming alien thing out of her, free it with a pair of scissors, wrap it up and hand it to one of you. Then even more people come flying in. If you are lucky you are out of the room when the placenta passes and they drop that in a tub on the table next to your wife. Ect. And that's after 20 plus hours of labor, waiting, half ass sleep, ect. You are wrecked.

First baby was natural delivery.

2nd one was emergent c-section. Now that was a walk in the park. Went to doctors office, found out she was 7cm dialated, baby was still breached. Do not pass go. Do not go home. Go immediately to OR and have baby. Left doctors office at 9:45AM. In the OR by 11:00. Baby out at 11:15. Wife in PACU by 11:35. Back in room by 12:30. Woah.

 

[JimKiler]

With my fiance after finding out im going to be a father last week and even tho im in my 30s im still Alittle overwhelmed with so many different thoughts. Am I going to be a good father, am I going to be able to handle this for the next 18 years and be a good provider. I never imagined it would be this strenuous haha.

You are like Keanu Reeves was in the matrix, unsure of yourself but just like Keanu when your baby comes you will say to yourself I am the one and know you will be a good dad. But like The Matrix no one can tell you that, you have to find out yourself.

 

[Vdubchaos]

Congrats to OP

I became a father at 19, and the birth of my daughter basically saved my life (based on where my friends ended up).

I have 4 now and I wouldn't change a thing (just don't think it's easy, nothing is)

 

[waggy]

first week? that first month i was at babies r us at least 10 times frantically buying things we thought we absolutely needed.

with the second kid we knew better and just let her fend for herself.

congrats, OP!

bwhahah yeah. 1st kid had some insane shit. bottle warmer, wipe warmer a bunch of insane bottles.

2nd kid? well he didn't like the freezing cold wipes but he survived.

 

[Jaskalas]

The Me ME ME generation. It's about the baby now! Do you really want it to be a bastard when it's bornD:

Words.

Words are in the eye of the beholder, why do you call a child with two loving parents such a negative term? Perhaps it is your word that must change, not them.

A government contract does not make the child's life inherently better.

 

[ichy]

Birth isn't a beautiful thing. It's whirlwind of people shoving things in your wifes woohoo, screaming, puking, blood, sweat, more puking, nasty smell of water breaking if they have to do that to induce labor, more screaming, a bunch of people hudduled over your wife then they drag this blood and mucous covered screaming alien thing out of her, free it with a pair of scissors, wrap it up and hand it to one of you. Then even more people come flying in. If you are lucky you are out of the room when the placenta passes and they drop that in a tub on the table next to your wife. Ect. And that's after 20 plus hours of labor, waiting, half ass sleep, ect. You are wrecked.

There's also the part where many women shit themselves when giving birth.

 

[lupi]

Bet there was a bunch of fattiess there.

 

[LagunaX]

D.K.,

Figure out your health insurance between the two of you - whether it works out to be on one or 2 separate policies since it will be 3 ppl soon.

You can schedule an induction after 39 weeks so it doesn't have to be a mad rush to the hospital and get an epidural for her early.

Congrats by the way.

 

[quikah]

Words.

Words are in the eye of the beholder, why do you call a child with two loving parents such a negative term? Perhaps it is your word that must change, not them.

A government contract does not make the child's life inherently better.

Actually it sort of does. It makes things a lot less complicated, you don't need to go that extra mile to be sure everything is covered legally. Power of attorney, advance directives, Social security benefits, etc. You gain a lot of legal benefits by getting married which (in)directly effect the child.